Home: Ask a Love Psychic: Answers From July and August, 2010

James

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From an early age James has been aware of the energy and feelings of others, the first aspect of being an intuitive. The powers were so strong it prompted him to be of service to others. Through 33 years of practice and professional study he has the ability to guide people through the paths of their lives, the ups and downs, the realistic issues, surrounding relationships and love, career, money and spirituality. His techniques include clairvoyance, tarot, astrology and Native American totems and animal guides. He looks forward to speaking to you soon so that you may begin your path to insight.

Love Questions: Posted August 30th, 2010

 

Dear James,

I like two men who are interested in me but not sure who to choose, they are both good men, but one does have some personal issues he is working on but wants me. They are good men I am just so confused. J would have more time for me right now but I have a lot stronger feelings for H. Can you please help tell me which way to go? I could really use some advice. I care for them both but I feel more connected to H. Do not get me wrong J and me have a connection but mine to H is stronger I just do not know their true feelings at all or if they are just playing a game. Men are just so difficult to understand sometimes. Thank you for your time and hope you can help me with this

Thank you -C.

Greetings C,

I do not feel that it is the right time for you to make this type of choice. Where you personally are concerned I do feel that your destiny and, exactly what you want out of a relationship is an eventual commitment. This will defiantly happen, however the defining factor is a common view of the future. I do not feel this has happened yet. By the end of October, you will have established the beginning of a common view of the future with one of these men. It is important to remember that not being able to choose within a relationship means it is not the right time. It happens naturally and always takes two.

- James.

 

Dear James,

I am a Scorpio. I was engaged to an Aries for three years. Unfortunately, a combination of issues led me to put an end to our relationship. I was also given an ultimatum by my very own mother, which forced me into my decision. My ex spent a whole year trying to get me back, and unfortunately, when I was ready, he hesitated. I know I hurt him very much by making him wait and this may have caused him to be confused. We speak on daily basis, and I know there is a special bond between us but I would like to know whether or not we have a future together, and if so how long before we reconnect?

Thanks -R.

 

Greetings R,

A water and fire sign relationship will never be boring, but can go from hot to cold very quickly. It is advisable to move very slowly. There will be another chance for you and he. You do love each other but I feel love is not enough. R., there must be a very strong commonality, in either interest or occupation, for example, if your both into Yoga, raising puppies, or playing guitar. It will be the common interest that will lead to a balanced, mutually satisfying and growing relationship. Fire and water create steam but can also put each other out very quickly. For business, this relationship could be very profitable.

- James.

 

Dear James,

I'm in love with the headmaster at my child’s nursery. I know he cares for me but when will I see him again and when will he tell me how he really feels about me? Will he ask me out soon?

Thank you -E.


Greetings E,

I do perceive an interest from this man towards you, a very healthy curiosity. I also feel that he is super sensitive to how others see him or perceive him. His reputation in life and specifically within his career is very important to him. I do sense a positive friendship that could develop into something a lot more. It would be out of the actual career environment (School, business etc.) where mutual bonding will take place. Have coffee or lunch with each other. You would find out a lot about each other and create a comfort level that is conducive to further interaction. E, you do have a lot in common. .

- James.

 

Posted August 23rd, 2010.

 

Dear James,

I have a complicated relationship with a man, who is married but he says he loves me. I am still not sure about that! I recently started seeing somebody else, should I feel guilty for wanting some happiness! Will I ever find happiness with either man, or should I just give up?

- A

Hi A,

I do feel your personal destiny regarding relationships is one of commitment and mutual investment, and I do not feel he would be able to devote the time and effort. The love he feels for you is real, however it cannot evolve while he is married, no matter what the condition of the marriage is. Within the next two months, the information you receive from him will make your decision for you. I do not feel he wants to end things; however, this situation is very unfair to you. Within the next year, you will have someone in your life that has the capability of returning love and has no barriers to a common future.

- James

 

Hi James,

D and I have had an on and off relationship for near 3 years. He left in Oct. 09 and we had no contact until mid-March. We spoke daily about working things out and staying together. He came back to our state the last day of April, we went to lunch, dinner, the beach and my parents for dinner and then he cut off all contact. When I tried to call him he would not answer my calls, so I called from someone else's phone and all he would say is it's over, it's time for me to move on and start dating other people. I asked why did he lie to me saying he wanted to work it out, he said he never intended for us to work it out, when he left in Oct. it was over for him. I asked why the beach trip, he said he needed a vacation, it was just a holiday. I am so confused and hurt. Is there another woman involved? Will he return to me? What caused him to cut off all communication again? Thank you so much for your help.

- B

Dear B,

If you feel confused ,it is understandable and, intentional on his part... I feel that he feels that if you really knew the genuine him, you would not be interested... It is not anything about you that you do not see that is creating this situation; it would be his insecurities. By being so changeable and unpredictable, he would be keeping the friendship or relationship active or ongoing. By telling you to date other people, he would be looking for some sort of reassurance from you, that you are not interested in dating anyone else. If this is causing confusion to the point where it is interfering with your daily life, it is important to let him know that, the next time he attempts to enter your life. You need to know this man a lot better. You could not really call this a relationship.

- James

 

Dear James,

Will I ever find a "love of my life?" I had a stroke a few years back and I am confined to a wheelchair. Due to my paralysis, I am unable to move or 'go out' on dates. I am not at all attractive, so I feel invisible when it comes to 'attracting' men. Should I just give up hoping that my life will improve? I also have an older brother who is determined not to let me have friends, etc. I hate him and do not know if I can improve the situation! Thanks C.

Dear C,

I do feel you have entered a phase of activity, not one that would promote stress or anxiety, but one in which you will gain access to the things you desire out of life. It is always important to follow your Doctors advice or instructions. You will find that special person, or should I say you will find each other as a result of following your heart. Pursuing activities or atmospheres that mean something to you personally such as a hobby, point of study, or interest. Your brother is trying to protect you, but I do feel if you tried to explain things to him, he would understand. He does want you to be happy.

-James

 


Posted August 16th, 2010.

 

Dear James,

I developed a strong connection to another woman, who is also a single mom like me. When I told her how I felt she blasted me out and refuses to talk to me anymore. In 4 weeks, we bonded very closely...couldn't stop texting, always wanted to be together at each other's places...she even demonstrated body language that she liked me. I am confused. Does she just need time to reflect or will she go back to another bad relationship with a man as she told me...repeatedly. We are both Native Americans, We are both into horses and both into the arts...lots of common ground.

Thank you - M.

 

Dear M,

I do feel that you did meet each other on several Levels including, a spiritual one, It would be easy to find commonalities. It would be a very natural occurrence to feel comfortable with each other. When you feel love it is a very strong feeling, it is supposed to make people feel good; I feel you understand this, and was trying to make her feel secure. This shows me that you have identified the source of an uncomfortable and hurtful relationship in your past, and have learned it was not your fault. It is very hard to understand how someone you love can hurt you. It causes great confusion and I do not feel she has worked it through. The word love to her brings back uncomfortable feelings and she becomes defensive. M. I feel you shocked her. You can become the best of friends (which I feel she needs more than a romantic relationship) However, I do suggest you allow her to think things through, and make the next attempt to be close friends and she will. Be a support system to her, and please understand her situation.

-James

 

Dear James,

I have been having problems with the guy I like. We want to be together but cannot because of another girl. The girl is pregnant and he is trying to do the right thing but he is not 100% sure the baby is his because there are other potential fathers. I would like to know what you see happening between us and if the baby is really his. I have had other readings but would like reassurance.

Thank you – L.

 

Dear L,

I do feel he is trying to be honest with you. He really does not know. L. I know you are going to feel better very soon, and so will he. However, in the mean time take things slowly. You and he are moving a little to fast. What I mean is going from romance into reality, quickly. This can be a very serious matter, and have a lifetime effect. There comes a time in life when we are responsible for our actions. I know you both care for each other. However, you cannot evolve with each other while he is with someone else, no matter what the circumstances.

-James

 

Dear James,

I have had an on again off again relationship with M. who is older and has other restrictions, which prevent us from getting much closer at this time. He says I make him happy and he wants to be with me more and would even consider marriage if no restrictions. However, we also have mind-blowing sex. Could this be his only reason for wanting more or is that what he really wants? In addition, is he worth my time to keep hanging on until he is ready? Is he soul mate potential and how does he really feel about me?

Thank you so much.

-RN

 

Dear RN,

You and he do have a relationship based on love and affection. I feel you and he have remained in the romantic phase of love. This is fantastic if it works for you both, however real love evolves and there is pleasure in the growth of the relationship. I know you see this and I feel he also is aware of this, because he does love you. We as human beings are creatures of habit, patterns and routines. RN you and he have established certain patterns of activity and communication that are working for you both. I feel he would be complemented by your desire to interact and spend more time with each other. I also feel that if you confront each other on the subject, you may scare each other away. RN, I advise you to make it happen, you have a wonderful effect on this man and I feel your happiness means a lot to him. He does not see the future without you being there.

- James.


Posted August 2nd, 2010.

Dear James,

An old friend recently got in contact with me after 12 years. T and I knew each other when we were younger and then lost touch. He is now in another state, and since he found me again we have been texting back and forth a lot. I was just wondering if this is a friendship that might turn into a relationship or if it is just a friendship and that is all. Thank you so much

-L.

Greetings L.

I do feel this friendship has a lot of potential to evolve into something more, for a couple of reasons; first distance can work in a new relationship if both people are secure, which I do feel he is. Secondly, when people first meet each other in romance they are usually more concerned with their appearance (Do I look OK? Did I say the right thing etc.), which is entirely a normal reaction. When people are at a distance, they tend to become more informed about each other and get to know each other in a more realistic and complete way. Romance is very important and I do feel it will be a natural reaction for you and he; but I do feel it will be the commonalities that will draw you closer to each other.


Dear James,

My boyfriend broke off our relationship after 5 years as he feels I put much more in the relationship than he does...he has a lot of responsibilities, and lately has been feeling very intolerant of ALL people, but when he gets intolerant of me, he feels guilty. So, he has broken up with me. He is telling me that if I stay in our relationship I will eventually leave him and resent him. Can we get back together? There is a lot of love there. I don’t think he is seeing someone else as he says he has issues, that me of all people he should not get angry at.

-A.

Hello A.

I do feel he is trying to be honest with you. A lot of people see the pressures of life in one big bunch, a fight or an obstacle to be conquered. Your boyfriend would benefit by taking a systematic approach. (Take care of one thing the best you can, then move on to another.) It’s a very normal thing for a man to want to impress the woman he cares for, and I do not feel, that he feels very impressive at this time. This will change (its already started). The break up will not be permanent, as he is already starting to see that he does better in all endeavors when he is in a good mood and happy. A., you make him feel very happy, and he realizes this more each day.

 

Dear James,

I met D. almost one year ago. I developed romantic feelings 3 months into our friendship. D., is not over the last relationship he was in and has been very up front about this as I have been up front about my feelings. Will D. ever return my love or are we only meant to be friends?

- H.

Dear H.

I do feel that your personal destiny in life is to only give your heart and love completely, only to one who can give you his heart and love completely as well, without conditions or baggage from the past. You have become his counselor and when this happens people feel very close to each other. It feels very good to open up to someone that understands you. If this continues as is, yes you will only become closer friends H., try to base your relationship (as friends) on new experiences that are fun and positive. Things you both enjoy (commonalities.) There is a need to create new topics to work with, and this could be a new beginning.

 

Posted August 2nd, 2010.


Dear James,

This is about K. and me. We met Jan 2009, I fell in love for perhaps the second time in my life, it was fiery and very yummy/sweet and then it got rocky in late summer. We broke up a bunch of times last year, due to alleged boundary violations on my part around privacy issues and fear/guilt shame she had around foreclosure, etc. By Feb 2010, we 'broke up' for 'real', but mostly stayed friends, a few hiccups here and there. I became very depressed in Feb, I fell apart, lost my job in June, became almost suicidal K. suddenly has been showing up in ways I never expected, always wanted, and still I am scared of her, don’t know if I can trust completely or even a little? Yet she has been wonderful the last 4 weeks especially, we talk every day, she is realizing things about herself she never thought of before, and she seems truly grateful that I am in her life and wants to plan a future. I am not sure anymore that this is a good idea. I feel fear around this. Help!

- M

Greetings M,

This relationship has evolved into reality very quickly and has brought you and her closer. You have already demonstrated your love for each other. You and K have bonded by caring for each other in a very realistic way. However, it is never a good idea to commit one self when there is uncertainty. Within the next few months, until the end of fall, it would be very important that K and yourself, establish the beginning of a common view of the future. You and she are closer then you think, which will create the reassurance you want. Essentially the relationship is already established, however if either of you confront each other about the future in a forced manner, you will scare each other away. It is the question it self which is creating the uncertainty. It is to your advantage M. to work with what you and she already have. I feel you and she both would like that, you are very compatible so allow the relationship to grow very calm and easy.

- James

 

Dear James,

I am in love with a priest and have been for the past ten yrs. He says he has no feelings for me but loves me as a friend. Yet each time I have met someone new he reacts in a jealous manner. Sometimes he acts like a regular guy telling rude jokes etc and other times he gets spiritual. I have told him of my confusion and he said it is as hard for him as it is for me. I have tried numerous times over the last 10 yrs to move away and get on with life. I even moved over to Ireland where I lived for 9 yrs. He came unannounced to my home in Ireland. Since then I have come back to England and still am unable to move on with my life. Do I love him, yes after all this time I do still love him.

- A

 

Greetings A,

It feels very good when we open up to some one and they open up to us, it feels very good when there is mutual understanding. We have a tendency to become each other’s counselors. This is called transference. I feel your love for him is real, and that he loves you in his way. You have invested many years in this relationship and he did allow things to get to this point, you are both responsible for this situation. One of the laws of human behavior is depravation creates motivation, Which means the simple fact that you and he can not be together, is motivating you to do just that. I do feel he is a very good man but unable to give you what you want out of a relationship.

- James

Dear James,

Hi James, I have been dating a guy named B. for about 3 months now. We seem to have scheduling issues with seeing each other. He has two kids and he is a great dad, but I would like to see more consistency with our dating habits. What are your thoughts of this? Right now, he is away on vacation with the kids. I am hoping when he comes back we can spend some time together. Thanks, oh do you see commitment in our future as well?

- K

 

Greetings K,

I do feel that he is very attracted to you also and that he sees a lot in you. This is a time to enjoy dating and have fun, to establish good memories and to get to know each other. You and he both are very much in the romantic phase of your relationship. I also feel that right now you and he are enjoying the new relationship. K., when you and he go to the next level of your relationship, the most important thing to him will be your relationship with his children. I do not feel this will be a problem for you. Actually, your good relationship with his children will solidify your relationship with him. This is a great responsibility for you; you will be developing a relationship with the children also, and this is the key.

- James

 

Posted July 26th, 2010.

Dear James. I was in a relationship with D., and we broke up just recently. I am wondering if there is still a chance that we will connect again. I feel that we are both still emotionally connected with each other. Thank you

-Z.

Dear Z,

I feel you are correct about the spiritual connection that you feel. We must always remember that a true spiritual bonding can never fade away. It can become stronger or weaker but really never be completely gone. Another reason I feel you will have the opportunity to reconnect is because of what I am picking up from D. It is disappointment that you feel, not in you, not in him but in the situation. Within the next three months I can see that he will feel the desire to hear your voice (another way we can see the connection between you two, is in your ability to know how the other feels, just by hearing each others voice) this is very important. The most essential thing to be accomplished at this time is re-establishing correct communication with each other. Which I feel he does miss.

 

Dear James

A relationship of a year has ended recently. We broke up in Oct, because I didn't like how he walked away whenever he is angry and then re-entered a week later. This pattern was alienating me. We got together briefly in April (no sex) but had another breakup when he told me he had been sexual with another person he met when we were broken up. This hurt me very much because I don't move on that fast. He decided that he didn't want to be with me and would date others (probably the woman he had sex with). I am very tired of failed relationships. I wish I could be with someone who wanted only me. What am I doing wrong? Is commitment dead? Please tell me if there is a kind and Loving man for me? Is this man gone for good? I am very hurt.

-J.

Greetings J,

First of all we must always remember that the prisons in this country are filled with men and woman who did not walk away when they should have, or tried to prevent someone else from doing so. I feel that you and he do like each other very much but are looking for different things out of a relationship. Commitment does not happen automatically, people will work towards that point and build a common image. It is a warning when relationships feel hurtful and cause emotional pain. The love you are looking for does happen and many men feel similar. I do not feel that this particular situation has potential. Within a year you will find someone new, or should I say you and your soul mate will finally find each other. The sooner that you follow your heart, the sooner this will happen.

 

Hi James. I have been married for 8 years; these past two have been really bad between him and I. He has changed so much you can probably see what has happened between us. What do you see for me in the future, I want to save this marriage, is he going to come back to me and are we going to have a normal life again.

-B

Hi B,

Every marriage has pressures and stresses, ups and downs even Adam and Eve had issues. B, I know you realize how much time and effort you and he have invested in each other. I do feel that he will attempt to come back to the marriage, however the issues will still be there. Most couples married or not, will separate at some time during the relationship and most people will feel how strong there feelings are for each other, and give it another try. However people will make the mistake of just falling back together and acting as if nothing has happened. This never works because the issues are still there but hidden. If you and he do something to start a new (re-doing vows, marriage counseling, etc.) chances are good that you and he will get back on track. I feel you love each other and deserve another chance at a happy marriage. Thanks.

-James.

Posted July 19th, 2010.

Dear James,
I feel lost and feel like I have no direction. I have been married to my husband for 13 years now. Lately I feel like our marriage has been rocky, as my husband has health issues and has been home now for over a year. Where do you see us in the future? Thanks a lot!
-J.

Greetings J.,

We all feel overwhelmed now and then. I do feel that your husband feels the same, however he would blame himself. It's important to enjoy the benefits of being married and to get reacquainted with each other. I feel that it is very important for the rest of the summer for you and he to re-establish a pleasant view of the future. Find the time to share a good movie, a concert, a carnival, something fresh and new. Once you see that you can make each other feel good, and enjoy each other's company again, things will feel better. J., it can be difficult for a man in this position, also for you. You miss each other's company, and know each other better then anyone.

 

Dear James,

I want to know if I'll ever stop loving him? It's ridiculous. He's hurt me so much. I can't walk away. When I see him, it's like a force is drawing me towards him. How do I stop? How can I stop hurting? How do I move on with my life and put him in the past?
-Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

A lot of people will ask me this question, "When will I get over him or her?" It really does not happen in that way. We move on whether we want to or not. Strong feelings and memories are only less prevalent with time, and as life continues. The only constant in life is change, and people need to clear there space at times, to be happy. To allow yourself to go through painful situations over and over is counterproductive. I do believe you can understand exactly what I'm trying to say. We can "love" different people in different ways.

 

Dear James,

I have been in a relationship with C. for two years. We decided to take a break so both of us could find ourselves. Well we are back together and want to try again and we are almost together for another year. We want to be together for the rest of our lives and said we both don't want to be with anyone else. We do have one problem I feel his twelve-year-old son is trying to keep us apart. Do you see us trying to work things out and being together?
-J.

Dear J.,

I feel your time apart has made your love for each other more realistic. Right now you and C. do not see the future, without each other being there. You have established a common view of the future, and that is what relationships are all about. The child is not a problem, he is an essential part of this relationship. I feel that he (the child) will take to you if he sees his Father happy, positive and enjoying life. However if he sees his father sad or angry of course he will not. You want the child to see you as a part of the family, and sometimes that takes time, J. I do believe you have a head start. I do feel the child is the most important factor in the evolution of this relationship. Thanks.
-James.

 

Posted July 12th, 2010.

Hi James,

I am in a relationship with a man who I've been dating for 4 years while being married. He is also married. He wants us to move forward but my family needs me. I have 3 young girls and I love them very much. My husband and I never really connected at a level with which this man and I connected. I wanted to leave this man, even though I love him, for the sake of not breaking up my home and the children's' best interest. I told him quite a few times to leave me alone, but he said he couldn't live without me. I asked my husband for a divorce, but he is asking me to stay. I am being tugged by both of them. There is hardly any communication with my husband, and I feel bad for this other man because he would give up anything and everything to be with me. What should I do?

D.

Hi D,

People will find each other for different reasons, support system, common interest etc. Most people do not intend to establish realistic feelings (Fall in love) but it happens all the time. Your situation is not unique; contrary to what we see on TV, married men will almost never leave a wife for a girl friend. D, I feel this man really loves you. If this man leaves his wife for you it will back fire. It's important that you are not the reason. I feel that there have been problems with him and his wife, even before he met you. I feel it's important to remain a support system to each other, but you and he are in no position to take on each other's problems. I have found that couples will decide to break up for different reasons, however, when another person is involved (girlfriend or boyfriend) most people will get very hurt, angry or both, and make things very difficult. I feel you and he can establish a good relationship. I would suggest that you and he do not blame others for your situation. Men will most of the time feel the effects of a divorce (stress and anxiety) a couple months after its final. Right now you and he can prepare to see each other, looking good, feeling good etc. Just be very sure he feels the same as you. D., Love is great, but it does not pay the bills. It will be ruff at first, but entirely possible.

Good luck. -James

 

Dear James,

I am married, but have not been happy with my husband for several years. I recently re-united with my former boyfriend, M., and he is also in a very troubled marriage. I feel we are soul mates and still love him deeply. Will he tell me he feels the same way for me and are we destined to get back together?

M.

Dear M.,

I do feel that you and he are spiritual soul mates and, have found each other when you needed each other. The feelings you had for one another have not gone anywhere, those feelings are still there; and can be reignited. True soul mates cannot evolve if one or both people are married; please don't take this in the wrong way. Nothing will stop you and he from falling more and more in love with each other, however while one of you or both of you are married, the stress and anxiety will also grow. True soul mates must be free to grow with each other, and evolve as a couple. This cannot be achieved while a marriage is still present. I feel he is being honest with you M., just move very slowly and take your time.

Best, James

 

Dear James,

I have been with my husband for 14 years married for 9 years today. My question is, is he cheating?

C.

Dear C.,

I do not feel that he is seeking out other relationships. Your husband considers a relationship to be complex. I don't feel that he has the desire to add complexity to his life. He has considered your relationship and marriage to be an investment in time, feelings, and memories. He does not want the investment to fail. Oh by the way C., He does love you. Its important to experience the benefits of being married, not only the stresses. I advise you to have some fun with each other, go to a good concert, a carnival or enjoy a nice vacation (only you and he). Bring back the fun, which I feel you both miss.

Thank you. -James

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