From an early age James has been aware of the energy and feelings of others, the first aspect of being an intuitive. The powers were so strong it prompted him to be of service to others. Through 33 years of practice and professional study he has the ability to guide people through the paths of their lives, the ups and downs, the realistic issues, surrounding relationships and love, career, money and spirituality. His techniques include clairvoyance, tarot, astrology and Native American totems and animal guides. He looks forward to speaking to you soon so that you may begin your path to insight.
I have been with my partner for almost 2 years now. We have had some really rough patches but we are on the straight and narrow now heading in the right direction. Even though we are doing amazing, there are still little things every now and then that make me question him. I want to know if he has been faithful for the whole duration of our relationship. -La Toya
I do not feel that he has wandered (physically) however, I also feel that by you thinking that way, to him you’re showing that you do care. Jealousy is never good but it shows where a persons heart is. If the past is an actual barrier the relationship will never work. It is necessary to look toward the future together and establish a common image. Individuals that are caught up with the past never move forward. Hind sight is 20/20; which means it is easy to see an issue after it has occurred. As I said I do not feel he has been physical with anyone else; he seems to have a lot more intelligence then you give him credit for. You and he are doing very well with each other but if something real is making you uncomfortable it should be resolved. Your relationship with each other has been an investment and you both love each other. That’s a great thing.
I’m a lesbian and I’ve been in love with this person that I’ve been seeing for over 2 years. I love and care about them just as much as she loves and cares about me. Will we ever become a couple and if so when? -Nedra
I feel that she has been thinking about this exact topic. Astrologically you compliment each other and I do not see that stopping. I feel very strongly that you and she already have a relationship going on. If what your referring to is more definition in the relationship, this is growing as we speak. Interferences from others is completely up to you and she; and I do feel your love for each other will keep you together.
Am I going to end up with my close friend or are we better off as friends? We are both attracted to each other but we are both currently in other relationships. -Jacquelyn
Where you may not be serious about your relationship; he is. Being that you and he are forbidden fruit to each other at this time, I feel makes you think about this topic a lot. You need to remember that a relationship is very different from a friendship. One of the laws of human nature is that depravation creates motivation; this means the more a person can not have something or somebody the more they tend to want it. Everybody has thoughts, however acting on some thoughts has the potential of causing great harm. If you pursue more then a friendship with this man you will lose your relationship and your friendship. Remember think about things in terms of past, present, and future. And be sure to be kind to yourself and the people you love.
How will things work out with the man that I am in love with? I keep seeing signs of him everywhere that is in relation to his line of work. I try to stay busy but I think about him a lot and he is always in my dreams. I think he may have contacted my ex spouse. My ex told me that he received a call from him. I feel that my ex spouse may have sabotaged the relationship with the man that I'm in love with. He and I haven't communicated in almost a month. I am trying to clear my thoughts and focus on myself and legal issues with my ex spouse. Will I ever have a chance with the man that I want to build a long lasting loving relationship with? Can you give me any thoughts please? -Farah
My feeling is that there is a lot of unfinished business between you and this man. The circumstance of resentment influences have made him think deeply about the relationship. He realizes that others see your relationship as being serious and he is determined to make his own observations and determinations regarding your relationship with each other. If there are no deep secrets that you are keeping from him, I do not feel there are, it should not matter one way or another how others feel. Ex husbands and wives are usually not the best reference regarding other serious relationships; by observing your response to the talk they had, he will know if you are over the other relationship or not. He wishes to take your relationship to a higher level. My advise to you is to be your positive self and to try not to let others influence your choice in friends and others. Gossip is not conducive to a trusting relationship, but know he does love you very much.
I would like to know if my boyfriend will return to me after being reunited with an old flame of 15 years ago. We were together for 6.5 years and he basically jumped from me to her, dropping me like a hot potato, no explanation of what, if anything, went wrong or that he was unhappy in our relationship and why. Due to the many "coincidences" surrounding our initial meeting I feel that we are soul mates who are meant to be together till death do us part in this lifetime. -Beth
The reason you did not see this coming is that his affair has been going on a lot longer then you know. Your knowledge of what was happening was not a part of the plan. He does not have an explanation and really does not know what to say to you. He knows what he did and how he did it is a very cowardly way to do things, but it does show you, it is not anything about you; so if you are looking for reasons it will create a lot of frustration for you. He will attempt to return very soon however, the same thing will happen again if definition is not established. You will not feel the same when he needs to return; and he will blame you for what happened and all I can say about that… is that it is not true.
A guy from my past came back in my life. We started a relationship and then some drama happened from other people around us and then he started seeing another girl. She had been causing drama and friction between me and this guy. Will he come back to me will we be a couple again? If so, when? -Stella
For some reason I feel this man does not really want a serious relationship. I do see that he will attempt to reenter your life, but as far as a committed situation, he has no desire. Drama will occur as you are seen by others as the other woman and he does have strong feelings towards you and this can be seen by people who know him. Try not to blame the other woman, he is telling you and her different versions of the same issue. He will want to see you but a relationship would bring many problems to you life. He has many issues to repair and deal with, it would not be the type of relationship that you had in mind.
I have broken contact with a man as our relationship was although deeply meaningful to me, it was very unhealthy. I can not release thoughts of him from my mind. Was he my soul mate? Did he feel the same? -Clare
A person as a soul mate would not bring you into any unhealthy situation or anything that would ever harm your mind, body or spiritually. Most people cannot see the dynamics of a relationship until a strong attachment occurs (then things become real; romance into reality) I feel strongly that for some reason, he does not see love as you do. Some people confuse strong feelings for another, as love; strong feelings only take one, love takes two and I also feel that you have identified the issue. I know you are concerned about him however, he is a grown man. To see things in a more positive way I would advise him to seek out assistance. I do feel strongly that he will seek you out, and I do also feel he will tell you exactly what you want to hear. If you need a time out to gain perspective by all means take it; he will understand if he cares. Within two months you will see a great change in him.
I am at the end process of divorce. 9 months ago I met a man out of the blue when I was not expecting it and immediately felt connected to him. He felt connected to me as well, however timing was not right and he began to date someone else. Now I am available and he is not. There is an unspoken "psychic" link between he and I and an attraction and chemistry like none I have experienced. I know he will have to complete the journey with the woman he is currently dating and I have to live my life. I feel that there is more to come for he and I. Do you feel our connection is over or will there be a future opportunity for us? -Jenn
This man became overwhelmed by the perspective relationship. The reality of your feelings and possible long-term relationship that was implied scared him away. I do not feel that he was ready for that kind of change or responsibility, not to say he did not like you; he did very much. You and he are very romantically compatible however, in reality you want different things out of life. It is important for you to pace yourself and see for yourself what life has to offer; you may just enjoy it. In the past few years you have become very picky about what you don’t like or will except. You can do anything you want. Enjoy the freedom and never feel pressured to except what you do not like. I feel you may choose to be single for a while. His reaction to your relationship is not a reflection on you, but an expression of his view of life. You will talk very soon but choose to remain friends, which you will. The year ahead for you will be very active and you will make many life changes; these changes will give you great pleasure and for some reason you will be attracted to bells and chimes.
I have been single for 8 yrs now. I do have a man in my life but he is unhealthy for me and for himself. I do not feel that this relationship is truly going anywhere and I keep him around for the company mostly. I know he loves me in his own way, but he is an alcoholic and I am not good with that, life has so much more to offer. I have not given up on the thought of my soul mate coming into my life yet I am beginning to wonder if I truly deserve to be happily in love with the right man for me. My mom has been alone for over 20 years now and I do not wish to end up like that. She has accepted it which saddens me. I keep telling myself that my other half is looking for me as I am him, yet 8 years is a long time to wait. Will my soul mate come into my life or am I meant to be old and lonely like my mom? -Tamara
I feel strongly that you and he do love each other more then you realize however, the relationship you are in is unhealthy and damaged. By this I mean the codependency will continue and would only bring you more unhappiness. If you deiced to end it, do not blame him, it will cause him great pain. This man understands what is going on and to a certain extent he expects it. Let him know that you need to think about yourself (in a non-selfish way). You may feel that the relationship is not good for you and also him; you are right. He will find the strength to eliminate alcohol from his life; in his thoughts all bad things that have occurred, have been directly because of drinking. You do not have to stop communicating with each other. He would feel that because of drinking he lost you. And I feel his love for you and for himself will give him the ability to change, the desire is there. If you and he have based your relationship on drinking, you do not know each other realistically. People do change a lot when they stop or try so feelings will change. You as an individual would also need to stop, not cut down but stop and you will see a happy person who is magnetic and vivacious. I have strong faith that you will succeed. You need to do what is right for yourself if you want to see good results. It wont take long, but the effects will last forever.
My ex girlfriend split up with me last October. I loved her dearly and begged for her to come back but she always refused. I will be honest though, I’ve treated her very badly in the past. This year I did meet someone else, however, I have still been seeing my ex throughout this new relationship but she did not know I had a new girlfriend. I wanted her back during this time but she showed no commitment which is why I carried on with the current relationship. I know my ex still loves me but I’m currently still with this new girlfriend as she forgave my infidelity. I’m just wondering which of these women I will end up being with in the future. I’m really confused. Can you please give me some guidance? -Paul
It is a bit different when somebody else dictates our actions; do not make the mistake of repeating the behavior that prompted this reaction in the first place. I feel that she is very confused about all of her choices in life you are only a part of this. She understands how upset you are and that at this time, you do not have any idea of what the future may hold for you and her. It would seem that there is a fear in talking to each other and this needs to change. She does care for you but she also has the opinion that things regarding her or her personal interest tend to upset you. Now is not the time to talk to her or insist on talking to her; you can say I love you a million times but you are telling her something she already knows; nothing new. You and she need time away from each other for a lot of reasons but for now, to gain perspective and think. By the end of summer the chance to rekindle the relationship will present itself; what you do with it is entirely up to you.
I have been in a relationship for 6 ½ years with my boyfriend. Do you see marriage and kids? -Laurie
Yes I do, in about a year. He wants to do things in a right way and he wants to be very certain and in his heart he is. Your desire means everything to him and he wants to make you happy. He is a little concerned that after a marriage things will change; this is a common concern. Bring up the idea and you will see he feels the same. With planning and desire you and he will find the correct time. Please make this a special occasion, I would advise a spiritual marriage that includes family and friends.
I'm 31 years old and live in Los Angeles and am having the worst time with relationships. Every relationship I get in the guy breaks up with me 3 to 4 months later. I'm starting to lose hope. It's hard to meet people in this city and it's especially hard to meet the right people. There is a guy that asked me out almost a year ago but I was dating someone else at the time. I've thought about him off and on and wondered if there is any point in contacting him now. I'm just sick and tired of all the pain I've gone through over the past 3 years that I'm not sure I should even try anymore. -C.F.
Many people have gone years without a date; you are very fortunate to have the opportunity. I feel very strongly that you are a strong and defined woman. You may be attracted to alpha males who express confidence and has the initiative to go for what he wants out of life; this is fine but you are an alpha female and there will be disappointment. You have a clear view of what you would like out of life. A companion in a long term relationship must posses the same view or want the same thing out of life; if not it will not work. Within three months two opportunities will approach you one is with an ex boyfriend who will insist he has changed his ways. The other opportunity will be with someone you meet as a result of pursuing an educational interest. You may find that you are not as anxious as you thought before, as the future looks brighter and brighter.
I have been with Katerina for four years. She has been in bad relationships all her life. I have not been bad to her but I lied about something and it was not the thing I lied about, it was the fact that I lied that made her leave. So now she can't trust me and left. I lied so she wouldn't get hurt but now it’s over. She has a son who is seven which I have been a big part of his life and his dad just passed away. I love them both with all my heart. Do you see us getting back together? –Derrick
First of all this is a time to heal and grieve; I am sure her child is her first priority as it should be. I understand that you want her to be happy and enjoy life but it is not that easy. She needs time to cope and deal with this unexpected event. People grieve in different ways and for different amounts of time. You need to understand that at one time they established a common view of the future together and they were blessed with a child. She picked up insensitivity and a lack of understanding from you, she does understand that you have a great deal of affection for her and she does like you. You will give a relationship another try and she will talk about her feelings about her loss when she is ready; not when you are ready. You need to have patience; if a romantic interest does not support an individuals in there grief, they will lose the affection but if an individual understands and supports the relationship will last and love will grow. Remember you are also developing a relationship with the child and this is what she is focused on. Give it time and be a good friend to her and her child, let nature take its course.
It has been over 6 six years that I have been separated from my ex-boyfriend. For some reason, I cannot forget about him and I even think I still love him. My question is: Why can't I get over him? Is it because he probably still thinks about me too? Will we ever be together again? I just don't know what to do to forget him. I wish there was anything that you could tell me that would help me. –Victoria
I feel very strongly that your memories have many ideals and vivid pictures of a good life with him and an individual will only get to that point if they are in love. People will always have regrets and wonder what if; we need to remember hind sight is 20/20. He has many good memories of you also. In our world we have the freedom to choose who we want (in many countries you can not choose who you want), and with that choice comes the chance that another feels the same or not the same. This is what dating is all about, seeing if the perspective relationship or interest goes beyond the moment. I feel that he likes you very much but may not see the future exactly as you; he does think about you a lot but feels the distance is what you want. Within the next three months you will start to communicate again and arrange a date.
I still have strong feelings for my ex boyfriend. It’s been 7 months since the break up and I haven't made contact with him in awhile but ran into him recently and basically I started flirting with him. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no but that he was seeing someone and it wasn't serious. We were together for over a year. I really want him back but he never pursues me and never initiates with me. He is on a dating site saying he is looking for a relationship. Will he ever come back to me and want a relationship with me again? –Gina
He is looking for friendship and enjoyment, not a committed relationship. The concept of a committed relationship implies responsibility to him and he does not feel he is ready to make that move. If you listen well you will see that he only wants to date. Feeling free and happy is an essential part of a relationship and people usually and mutually agree to make things unique. I feel strongly that when you and he were together you were not taking the relationship seriously and really never discussed it and even though you love each other in your way, you will become very good friends. I do not see a relationship happening; is not in the cards.
This guy and me have been dating now for 3 years, but we are not seeing other people. He tells me he doesn't want to be committed right now because he isn't ready. It feels like we are already in a committed relationship though. I don't know what to do about this. Does he really love me and is going to be with me seriously one day, or am I just a convenience to him? Can I trust him? Sometimes I have doubts. Is there someone else that will be my soul mate, if so what do you see happening? Thank you. -Stacy
You and he have been in love for a long time. You both have adapted your situation in life to each other. I don’t feel he is involved with anyone else. In the time you have been together, I feel you have talked and explored the subject of a committed relationship at times in detail. At this point in your relationship a committed situation such as an engagement leading to a marriage may seem ideal to you however, he views the perspective situation as restrictive and legally a big risk. Another reason he is thinking about is why ruin a good thing; in his way of thinking you are already in a committed relationship without the acknowledgment. It is not like he has not thought about this subject, just like you he has had a lot of time. He does love you and he knows you love him; However you need to be in agreement on something like this. In the next three months his financial aspect, in his opinion will be ready to open up talk. For now, do not scare each other away by looking too far into the future, just let it happen or start to become clearer.
I feel like I'm never going to get to my goal of a partner, family and future. I’m wondering how easily a recent ex has moved on and if a couple of potentials I’m dating or to date is just yet another waste of time. I have a lot to give and yet I'm always the third wheel in my friends relationships. Will this change, if so when? –Jada
You are a very defined person you know what you want in life and what you don’t want. I feel you have many interests and hobbies. As an independent woman you are very aware that things take time; the interest as well as the romantic attraction has got to last. I also feel strongly that you are very sensitive, possibly to the point of being psychic. You will be deeply involved in a friendship within the next month. This friendship will be based on common interest and can quickly evolve into more. Remember your family and friends can tell what’s happing just by being around you and they want you to be happy. Friends feel you will fall in love very fast; as do I. You will know him by his love of music, he is a guitar player.
I met a guy online in January. We had a short sexual relationship. I got scared and ended things. I developed very strong feelings for him. I tried to apologize but he won't listen. I just recently confessed my love for him. Do you feel he will contact me, if not what can I do to move on? I honestly felt he was my soul mate. -Christina
His opinion is that you have fallen in love with him, and he does now know how serious you are regarding relationships. I feel that you have moved very fast and caused him to look at the future in a serious way; to him this is happening too fast, and this is causing him confusion. He is sure that he wants to be with you however, if things are to complicated he will not know what to do or say. He will contact you, but for the moment he takes your situation as proof that you do care. Within two weeks he will contact you; that is if you do not make an attempt.
Love Questions: Posted June 16th, 2014
I meet this guy at work and at first I just thought he was cute. I’ve noticed my feelings for him now are growing massively. I know he is attracted to me too but I don’t want to fall for him then end up hurting myself later. Do you think he is the one for me? –Adrianna
You don’t want to ruin the opportunity before you make an attempt (or he). It is not the feelings that are growing but the anticipation and he does feel the same. Although most relations begin within the work place or school setting, it is frowned upon and not taken as being a good thing but a distraction. You are both attracted to each other and I would advise you to find out if you’re on the same page. I do feel strongly that your friendship will grow as you both become aware of the commonalities that you share. If you and he nurture your friendship there is no doubt you will get closer. Only two things; make sure there is no other relationship going on (you will get attached to each other very fast) and secondly workplace gossip creates a soap opera atmosphere that has ruined many careers and perspective careers. See each other outside of the work place, if a good relationship is established outside of the workplace it will be accepted by all; if it is in the work place where you and he create the time to be with each other it will create gossip and misunderstandings. I also feel strongly that it can work, if taken slowly and correctly.
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. I feel like I pushed him farther away begging for him to come back. We haven't talked in a few days now and I miss him and still have feelings for him. I'm also paranoid that he found someone else. My main concern is if we will ever get back together. I am currently having spell work done by a spell caster. Is there even a chance for us? He told me he doesn't want to get back together but I really want to. Help me. –Bridgit
First of all, one should never interfere with an others free will; it can and will backfire. This man does care for you and is right now defining the feelings involved. If a committed relationship is what you’re referring to, remember it takes two to work. The whole aspect of a long term relationship depends on the two people involved establishing a common image of the future together. This process must not be rushed or only established by one, it must be natural and according to the laws of nature. I truly feel that he feels very confused about what to do but he is confident that you do love him in your way. I advise giving this man time to think. The situation is not about another female, do you really think he wants twice the pressure? No. A committed relationship means something a bit different to a man. Within the summer months you can bond and enjoy the relationship or play games (communication tag) with each other all summer. Right now you and he are equally confused. If the communication remains open and enjoyable (no ultimatums) you will get the opportunity that you desire. If rushed he will also rush away.
I been in a long distance relationship for more than three years now. Everything was just fine even though we didn't have the chance to see each other often, we were building from distance a stronger love; slowly but constant. A few months ago he started to be more and more distant, now he doesn't call more than every three days or one time per week. He told me he has a lot of problems but I feel this relationship is not a relationship anymore. I asked him the other day if he considered this ended and he say no. Now I just don't know what to do. I still love him so much and I just don't feel walking away and trying to meet other people, but at the same time I'm not happy with him. What should I do? –Josie
It is very easy to be romantic and the knight in shining armor from a distance. Most people do not feel they can establish realistic feelings at a distance however, you can and swim in romance and fantasy but relationships have a way of becoming more intense when entering reality. This is where a lot of concerns originate; do I move, quit my job, will it last or is it worth it? I would advise you to be very sure about him. Are you willing to take on his problems or issues; can he do the same? Money does not matter when people fall in love, but it does matter in a realistic relationship. I feel if you bonded with each other in a more realistic way, the answer to the question of ‘where are we going, do we have a plan?’ will come to both of you when the time is right to evolve. Right now I do not see anything wrong with your friendship. He does feel as you, may be a bit more intensely (men will always think, what do I have to offer. Its in our genetic code) Do not rush to the answer, it will not be correct; let it happen it wont be long.
I’m in love with a guy named Anthony and we've been together for about a year. We recently got into dispute and are currently not together. Somewhere once he came back and wanted to give it another try but when I admitted to him about some things in between the breakup he all of sudden didn’t want anything to do with me. Is the love real or is this just a life lesson? –Kendra
The bonding and feelings are very real however, the word love has many meanings. We as human beings are far from being perfect, we make mistakes and evolved individuals learn and understand this. Where relationships are concerned in the romantic phase feelings and uniqueness is magnified. If the mistake has to do with another person, he will not return to the relationship. One thing that is very important in any committed relationship is learning to disagree and to not let minor disagreements grow into something that has nothing to do with the original issue. I feel you and he were doing this, in other words becoming real. He does love you and the time apart has made him more positive about his love; he only felt that you were doing the same thing. He will be very silent for a while, however within the next two months he will find a reason to communicate; you and this man are more alike then you realize.
My husband wants to divorce me and I don't want this. We've been married for less than 2 years. Is he going to divorce for real? –Pulma
A person does not have to stay married if they desire not to and it is a big mistake to hold someone down, it does not work. He is well aware of your feelings and sees you as very predictable. He just may be doing you a favor by adding distance. He is going through an issue you know nothing about; the past has caught up. You can not make someone talk if they do not want to and he does not want to talk, married or not. If you can not see a reason that only means it is not your mistake and if you try to see it you will become very frustrated. My advise is to agree with him; he will not be expecting that and it will give you an opportunity to talk. The divorce will go through, although after two months an annulment is more likely if there is not a lot of money involved. An end to the marriage does not necessarily mean an end to a relationship. However I feel that you will likely not be interested.
Hi. I’m so confused and would appreciate some insight. I’ve been dating this guy for a year now on and off and every time it seems this is the end we don’t have any contact he would make contact again. If he doesn’t have feelings for me, why can’t he just leave me alone? He knows how much I love him. I just wish he could be honest with me about his feelings. Can you please tell me what the future holds for us? Thanks. –Chantel
The reason you and he keep going from romance to separation over and over is that the next step is reality for you and he. A lot of people will do what he is doing in a relationship for the reason that he is not prepared to the point of security in his life. He does not want to end the relationship though, this man does love you. What you want must be cultivated slowly, a common image of the future will be established between you two. I feel this has already started and with bonding it will become reality. Do not be so concerned about the minor details to the point where you are not enjoying the relationship. Being with each other is becoming addictive to both of you. Within five months you will not be as concerned as you are now.
Me and my ex broke up months ago after a sudden bad breakup. His depression was the cause that clashed with my stressful life. Now we are seeing each other again as friends but we are both aware we still love each other and should start things slow as friends. He is still focusing on healing himself by going to therapy and getting busy with life improvements for himself. I am doing the same during those times we are apart. I was busy at work, working out my body, and most hobbies and I enjoy keeping myself occupied. I’m just wondering about what will happen to us if we choose the path of reconciliation. Will there be any dilemmas that may happen or is it worth rekindling a broken relationship. Thanks -Gwendy
You and this man love each other very much and even though I know it was hard, you gave each other the freedom to pursue the important things to your happiness in life. Even though you see each other as being very different, you would tend to compliment each other. A talk or discussion with his counselor might help you to understand certain behavior. In a long-term relationship a man wants to have something to offer or contribute (to create balance and commonality) and I feel that he sees himself as having nothing to offer you. He also feels that his personal situation in life was holding you back or could hold you back. You and this man have had time to think about things in detail. If you and he take life together slowly and really get to know each others situation in life; a relationship will grow just like a nurtured seed.
I’m torn between two guys and I’m not sure which direction to go. I am wondering if you could help guide me in the right direction. The first one is “D”; and I’ve known him for years now. Somehow we never really committed to each other. The second, I just met a few months back named “N”. I don’t really know him yet but he seems genuine and interested. -Virginia
I feel very strongly that “D” has considered your close friendship or relationship as an emotional investment. Opening up and deep companionship, these features are an indication that he does take your situation with each other very seriously, however, if you and he have not established a common image of the future by now, you most likely will not. I know he would not appreciate your interest in “N”. Where “N” is concerned, he does posses genuine interest in you and feels that you feel the same way. I feel he knows about “D” but does not see you as being interested in him anymore. You may be thinking about the near future regarding long-term or committed relationships but, just remember it takes two. Ones individual image of the future generally does not work for two. I sense a great deal of affection towards you. However, two relationships at one time does not work. For the next month you will continue to be confused until someones action makes your decision for you.
I met a younger (six years younger) Virgo and we had a two month sexual relationship. I stupidly ended it but I really feel he is some kind of soul mate. I finally confessed my feelings to him by text before that I had tried to apologize but he won't respond. Do u feel he will comeback sometime? –Betty
I feel that you totally caught this man by surprise. People in relationships usually retain the last feeling that they had the last time they saw the object of their thoughts. I do also feel affection was developed between you and he and you both are very unsure about what to do next. During the next three months you will have the opportunity to talk. I feel that you’re both on the same page (regarding getting to know each other better). However, there will be a barrier to you and he getting closer. Your feelings will remain open it is how he deals with the barrier that will be conducive to a defined situation.
Hello sir, I'm writing this with a broken heart. I'm in love with one of my best friend who in turn doesn't love me; I know it's not a mere attraction. Something I never felt on any of my friends of whom I know. When I saw his photo it was just a feeling of friendship but the moment I met him I just lost myself in him. It took 6 months for me to confirm that I’m in love with him. I told him about my love but he neither said yes or no but I know deep inside his heart he also loves me but might not be ready to accept it. I can't imagine a life without him please help. -Nisha
For a relationship to work it does take two; if not, it cannot be called a relationship. I do feel in my heart that he does have a love for you but not the romantic type you desire. You caught this man by surprise; he knows you are getting close to him as he is to you however, he had no idea about the romantic feelings. Whenever an individual voices their opinion on the future and that image involves another, the automatic response is one of shock. You simply left this man with no time to develop a response. If the question continues he will become distant. You have confirmed your feelings towards him now let him think. Your friendship has a lot to go before it can become defined and mutual, as in a romantic relationship. My advice to you is to continue the friendship (if possible) but slow down a little now; he already knows how you feel. Try not to give this man an ultimatum.
It's been a couple of months since my ex broke up with me. We ended things because we both couldn't handle the stress of school and it led to a lot of petty arguments. We are each others first loves. Can you please give me a better understanding of how he is feeling and if we are going to get back together in the future? -Denisse
Essentially he is wondering the same thing. If the response is anger or jealousy it can be a deal breaker (some times people get turned off by the expression of insecurity). I feel strongly that you and he should wish each other the best and encourage each other; if you and he make this a comfortable transition it can make things stronger between you and he and allow the relationship evolve with your chosen subject. If the relationship becomes a distraction to study it will end. If the relationship offers security and trust it will continue and become very strong. You and he are both going through the symptoms of separation anxiety; because of the prospect you already miss each other. You and he love each other in a way that shows me you will succeed. It will not be very easy for either of you, however, true love is the strongest force in the universe.
I dated this guy for about a year and then we broke up. After the breakup many things did not change but I could tell that there was somebody else. A couple of weeks ago I found out that he is in a new relationship. I cannot keep this guy off my mind and I feel like me and him will have another chance to be together even though he is in a relationship now. Can you tell me if we will end up back together or if I should just move on? I need some peace of mind! -Gabby
I do not feel this man sees the future as you do. He right now is dating and does not want to be committed to any one relationship. If you and he can maintain a friendship it will give you and he the opportunity to get to know each other better. I feel very strongly that this man has a career in mind before committing to anyone. Within five months you will see a big change in him and he will begin to take the future in serious way. You will find that this man seeks you out; however, right now he does not feel he has anything to offer a relationship (the jumping from one relationship to another is only an expression of immaturity). The next few months will also be a time of growth for you, what you desire will not be hard to obtain.
My ex and I broke up two months ago, I have been annoying him because I can't handle it. He has told me we are done for good and he does not want a relationship but in my gut I feel it can't really be over. We were together 3 years and broke up due to fighting. Will he come back? -Morgan
It would be wise for you to take him at his word; in an evolving relationship it does take two. As I have mentioned in previous questions, it is extremely important to allow another person to walk away if they feel the need. It is very wrong and not fair to assume another persons desires. I feel strongly that he does not want the fighting to continue for a lot of reasons (the legal consequences of domestic violence, being primary on his mind). This man also cares for you, as you do for him and he realizes this. There is one specific issue that refuses to be ignored, if this issue is not dealt with it is most likely over for you and he; the issue was not important to your relationship in the beginning however, now it is primary. After a time out for both of you, you and he will find each other and be able to talk to each other. Your relationship will have one more chance and this time if not pursued in an adult way, it will fade away as you and he remember (if there are no barriers) you and he will succeed, if so or not dealt with you and he are looking at problems, and I am sure neither one of you want that. The key is learning to enjoy each other and to listen to each other.
Bob and I have been together for 13 years but for the past 2 years have been very far apart. He says he still loves me and always will. Do you ever see us back together? He says that the times with me were the best he ever had. He is married but not in love with her, I think it’s because of the money and he is afraid she will take it all and leave him with nothing; she’s even told him as much. Please tell me if there’s a chance for us. Thank you. -Bettie
Love is beautiful and to be in love feels great however, love does not pay the bills. I have no doubt that you and this man love each other (you and he have been in romance for a long time) but you have not progressed in to reality; you have had no need. The reality of the situation is that he has a wife who is no fool and she will remove him from his children and his financial stability which he does know this and he always has. You have been accepting of his situation and he will expect this to continue. He will not leave his wife (and he is the one holding on). This is very unfair to you and will lead to heartbreak. Whether he wants to or not, he will have to pay for the consequences of his actions and this will happen very soon. Be sure he does not blame you for every thing; he will blame you for every thing. If you stick to each other you will find yourself together however, the party is over. It is best to let him take care of his own problems. One thing that is for sure people separate and divorce all the time but if there is another woman or man involved people will get very upset and mad, as she is with him. The hurt she is going through is becoming anger; It would be best for you to not get involved more then you already are.
I have been in love with this guy for three years now and I can't stop thinking about him. It’s starting to drive crazy. He says he loves me too. Will we ever be together even though we are miles and miles apart? Will be happy together? -Diona
One thing about a long distance situation is that they are very romantic and tend to reflect the ideal (only the best information). I do feel this man does love you in his way and his affection is growing day by day. It is easy to create romantic fantasy and excitement when you are at a distance. I feel strongly that you and he will meet up in the next few weeks; you will find he is genuine in his affection for you is very real. You and this man can enter realistic love very quickly. This love can cause great heartache or it can be an opportunity for you and he to be happy. To prepare for the future you need to be sure there are no barriers and that he is thinking as you are about the relationship. A lot of people stay in long distance relationships until they meet up with each other then feelings change (reality can be intimidating or give you substance to work with). I feel strongly that you and he will like each other very much and I do not perceive deception. Only remember long distance relationships can be very frustrating and expensive. Have fun and enjoy your developing relationship. Genuine love has a way of bringing people together and solving problematic issues; If it is real, and in your case I feel very strongly it is.
Will I ever fall in love one day? I had a dream a few nights ago of being in a relationship with this really great guy and he was so protective of me in the dream, I want to know if that dream is an indication of the future. I have had this dream 3 or 4 times now in the past year. -Sarah
The dream is dealing with a tendency to see protectiveness as an indication of love. The only thing about protectiveness is that it has a way of getting out of hand or exaggerated and there is a fine line in between concern and suspicion. You being a modern woman, it is important that you find yourself and do not let another define your moves or way of thinking. I feel strongly that your father was loving yet an authoritarian. There is nothing wrong with remembering lessons from the past, however, apply them to your personal self; get to know yourself a bit better. Within the next month you will know who the person in your future is, you will also feel things are moving very quickly.
I’ve known this guy for 7 years and we expressed our feelings for each other in 2009. We have had our share of problems and misunderstandings. I now realize that I subconsciously loved him deeply and so did he probably, but I never realized it for a long time. We did not decide to get married because of our different career goals and future plans. Six months back I got to know that he has been communicating with another girl who was introduced to him by his family for over a year ago. He said he can't do much because he has committed to her parents and his family regarding marrying her. In essence, he cheated on me by not mentioning this earlier. In retrospect I feel that if he had confessed this earlier, I would have realized my own feelings and might have been able to convince him to be together. I still love him very very deeply, and I am ready to sacrifice whatever I need to in order to be with him and also forgive him. But the current situation suggests that he may go ahead and marry her. Do you see any chance of us being together? What advice do you have for me? -Lakshimi
You and this man do love each other, however you have developed your friendship to an extremely high and very personal level. I do not feel that he is intentionally doing anything to hurt you; he is trying to be very honest with you I advise you to not interfere with his life or marriage plans. Within four months he will attempt to get close to you again. In the beginning it was very easy to open up to each other, now because of developed feelings it is not so easy. He does understand your feeling and has no desire to cause you confusion. The best thing is to wait and let nature take its course. You will talk and clarify things, however it will take a few months.
I have been in an up and down relationship for three years come October. I love this man with all my heart but I am scared he is being unfaithful and hiding things from me. He doesn't love me the way he used to and I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. I don’t get why he is so cold and what I can do to change it. He gets really, really mean and hateful with me a lot and then the next day or hour or week he can be the sweetest thing on earth. I really need insight on what's going on and what I can do to make him love me again and treat me the way he used to. -Emily
He is very scared that you will leave him however, while you are trying to figure out his back and forth behavior he knows you will not do anything until you understand why he acts the way he does. Suspicion and insecurity is being unsure about the next move. I do not feel he is cheating on you but he may want you to think that or be grasping or see if you will be. This is a very immature relationship and will end up hurting you deeply if things do not change quickly. You and he should always wish each other the best, but do not take to much on yourself, it takes two to tango.
I have been married to "M" for 21 years and together we have 2 children. We have not had the happiest marriage. In the last 5 years, he has told me 3 times that he does not love me and wants a divorce only to "take it back" a few weeks later; I've lost trust in him as a result. We have been to counseling several times and never seem to be able to resolve things. He is very self-centered and seems to think that everything should focus around him and his needs, even over the kids. I recently met someone at my work and am so confused by the feelings I've experienced from the moment I met him. He is not overly flirtatious, but he makes my ears ring and my heart pound whenever he is near, which I notice is far more often than necessary. He passes through my work area for no apparent reason several times a day but is so shy that he won't speak to me unless I speak to him first. This guy, "C" is everything my husband is not. I could talk to "C" for hours and my husband acts like having to listen to me talk is a torturous burden. I haven't ventured for divorce because I worry about how I will raise 2 kids on my own, but I don't know how much longer I can live like this. Is my marriage headed for divorce and will I soon get to finally realize what it is like to be really cared for, hopefully by "C"? -Tishida
What you are saying is extremely unfair to all concerned. I feel that this man likes you, as do a lot of people. But please try not to project your feelings and marital situation on this man. He is a very nice individual and you have been aware of this for a long time; however, you can not depend on this man to escape your current situation, this would be unfair to him, you, and your husband. To avoid problems I advise you to work on your marriage, it is entirely possible. But as far as a relationship or affair; it is out of the scenario.
A guy that was in my Reserves unit with me for 2 years and I begun dating last fall. In the beginning of this dating period, our chemistry took my breath away, literally. I felt a spark with him I never felt with other men. There were times where I thought he could be reading my mind, especially those mornings when I would think to myself, "I should call him" and later that day, an email would pop up from him. Unfortunately, a vacation seemed to break what we had going, as well as work stress and holiday stress and he broke up with me. I was devastated. The fact that he didn't want to see me anymore and didn't see a future with me made me feel disenchanted by love and romance because I did see a future with him. I didn't want to talk to him after that, but I ended up connecting with him as friends through email. When I realized I was initiating most of the correspondence, and that my motives were really for a second chance at things, I stopped emailing. I wonder if I will feel this kind of bond with a guy again, or if I missed out on a chance at real love. I'm still mourning the loss of our short-lived companionship. -Cindy
You and this man have a lot in common; it is a natural occurrence to feel a strong connection. You and he have made important choices in your lives and essentially can identify with each others feelings with in your current situation. On a long term basis or possibly your and his roots in life, I feel are very different. The deep friendship has been thrust into the future, and this is why he is so spontaneous in his communication. Things have developed very quickly, and he does feel very strongly toward you. You and also he will reenter this deep friendship, however take things slowly and allow things to mature naturally. Take the time to listen to each other. I do not feel it is about another woman or some sort of barrier, it is only the timing. Try to not take a relationship so seriously, concentrate on establishing happy memories. Once you and he take time to really talk you will see it is not about you or your deep feelings; you will hear from him, his definition of your situation once you allow it.
I dated one of my exes for three years and after we broke up he got married within three months. I started to date for few months until I met this new guy and he helped completely erased my ex of my life, however we have been going back and forth. He recently is recovering and is not in a right state of mind (at least I would like to think that myself), I was there when everyone else walked out of his life. Once he regained control of his life and friends, I became his last priority. He started to undermined me, ignore me, and completely stopped talking to me, at times it felt like the world could fall apart but as long as we had each other we knew it was going to be ok. He told me he will always be my friend and thanked me for everything I did for him. It’s been a year and I continue to go back and forth with him. I don’t understand how he can have that much grip on me, if he release me from a painful situation for someone I dated for 3 years why cant I l let go of him? I know I love him and something tells me he loves me too. He is stubborn and selfish but he has my heart. Will we get ever back together? -Maria
You and he have realized that you are friends, very good friends, and even though the romantic relationship did not work; it does not mean the spiritual bond is broken (you and he are highly aware of each others situation in life). You know each other better then most people do. A lot of people misunderstand spiritual bonding. We have several bondings not only one. It is only that when you are close to another as a wife, husband, or a child, a person can put a human condition to the bonding (most people do not even realize it; until they are away or gone). You and this man will always be good friends and I know you are both disappointed about your relationship with each other, but such is life. Even though you and he should depend on your spouses to fulfill the relationship; in other words enjoy the friendship with your spouses, because I assure you they will. As far as your ex, trying to develop a romantic relationship again would be a big mistake; if you and he can handle like adults, a friendship, more power to you, however it may cause problems with your spouses. I would advise not to start something that must remain a secret; may be in high school but not in a marriage; marriages are sacred and should not be played with. In other words do not break your promise to higher power, or God; it is not a good thing.
I have deep feelings for a woman I work with named Brenda. Ii’ve felt this way for a long time but we are both married. I am frustrated with my marriage; not because of Brenda though. I do not see this as wanting an affair, but feel something more for her than I have ever felt. I look into her eyes and feel something. We enjoy each other's company when we have gone to lunch or have a drink. I have no idea how she feels for me, or if there is an interest with an old fool. I have tried to hide my feelings but it is very hard to do. -Tom
Everybody likes a compliment; there is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. We as human beings have an abundance of strong and intense feelings, we are supposed to. However, we have an attraction to fire, water, tornadoes and the snow, but we do not run into fire. We will not go into deep water for very long. Tornadoes are very interesting, but you don’t want one in your back yard. What I mean is, we are attracted to a lot of things. Curiosity and interest are what created modern man. People have also developed control; avoiding things that will eventually bring harm to us or harm to our families. I do feel the attraction is genuine and mutual, however, so is the chance that you may hurt a person or people you care about and love. Now, I know you do not want that. Individuals who desire an affair will find a way to do it if they want. If you entertain this thought it will be something that will grow to the point of causing great hurt and a lot of problems. People can work around others and create a happy work environment, or flirt and be distracting. It is a bad idea all around that will reflect on your career and destroy your personal life (this applies to her also). You are bringing your personal issues to the work place (very bad idea). My advise is to leave it alone and work on your marriage; you will receive a great reward.
Recently I've been feeling like I've had 7 years bad luck, especially in regards to men and relationships. I feel like I'm a great catch but I deserve what I want and I don't want to settle. I was married for 2 years and it didn't work at all. I've been single since he and I split up 4 years ago. Recently I was involved with someone who I had good chemistry with. Unfortunately, he ended things but I still want to be with him. Will he and I ever reconnect and will I ever meet someone I may eventually marry? -Chae
In your case you are a very defined woman and you will only see growth and progress by commitment. It is okay to want this in your life but it does take time. Try not to project your feelings about your ex on another person. Within the next four months you will be in a deep friendship that can become a lot more. Whether this will last or not depends on your ability to deal with the past. You are a very nice person and will never be without friends, but you will find that most men will not enter a relationship unless it is new and open. It is really up to you. The chance you are looking for will arrive very soon.
I have very deep feelings for a man that I met while I was working in Manhattan. His name is Jon and he was the head of the security at the hotel I stayed at. I’m not sure why this man as touched me so deeply. He is married and a Jehovah Witness. You can look at him and see that he is not a happy man and there is so much in there to give. We had a very strange connection, Jon doesn't smile not often and not a real smile. But I got the real smile! There was so much I felt he wanted to say but something would always happen to interview with the conversation. I guess I can't say we don't communicate we do it's just different, for a while I thought I was going crazy because it's like he is right next to me or I can hear him call my name. We are friends on Facebook and we watch each other that way; I guess I should say I watch him but I know he watches me too. He is on vacation in FL now and I’m not sure if he is with his wife or why he is there. Does this man really care for me or is this my imagination? Do we have a chance together if I moved to NY? -Kat
I would not make any major moves yet, some people do not like surprises. He will let you know through conversation what is causing him to be unhappy. Right now he enjoying the friendship and in the process developing a loving and good relationship. It is very important to not rush into your conclusions about him. Understand that you and he are seeing the best of each other. I do feel that there is a barrier to a relationship on his side. Please pace your friendship; it is becoming something more. If you are developing romantic feelings for him, I would advise you to let him know; friendships and romantic relationships are very different. I do not feel there is any reason that you should not be truthful about your feelings (he pretty much knows already). The question is will you and he have a working chance; yes.
I was wondering if you could tell me if I would be in a relationship soon. What does my love life have in store for me? -Thuyoanh
My inner voice is indicating that you are already in the beginning phase of gathering energy through prayer or meditation and deep reflection of your place in this world; I feel strongly it is a bit of everything. You are starting to feel the process of yin and yang or positive and negative energy and realizing that one can not exist without the other. For you this is a time of reflection and deep thought. This process is telling you to prepare for activity and gather energy because you are going to need it. The activity phase can be hectic and stressful or it can be a time of feeling good, possessing high energy, and a feeling of being connected to the world. I feel a lot of positive things are entering your life. Financial opportunities and also I feel relationships will be energized and natural; however, whether it is positive or negative is entirely up to you. I do see a lot of happiness around you. Congratulations, your simple question is more telling then anything I have heard for a long time.
I met this man back in 2010 and I fell for him very hard. We're not together anymore but he keeps coming back into my life saying he wants me back and that he loves me. But now there is a problem; he got married in December. He tells me he is coming to be with me. Is it true? Will we be together? I'm so confused. He has let me down more then I can bear. The sad thing is, I want him. I can't get him out of my mind. I thought I was able to move on. I guess not. -Carmela
There is no doubt that he will continue to pursue you, however, is this what you really want? His desire to come in and out of your life is an indication that he is not serious about what is happening with you. Even though the marriage is on the way to failure (it was never taken seriously from the start), you need to realize what is going on with you and he is a fantasy. You really do not know him as well as you think. He will continue to pursue you but he will be going through the process of denial and bargaining. When it all comes falling down for him do you really want to be there to catch him? I think not.
Does my ex still have feelings for me? He got in contact with me recently after 7 months but he has stopped replying again. I just want to know why? -Jane
This situation is caused not by anything you are doing, or not doing; I feel this man loves you a lot and that you and he feel the love for each other. This man wants to be impressing to you, he wants something to offer you. The reason for his appearing and disappearing from your life is simply to hold on to your attention and thoughts. He is only feeling a bit insecure. Within the next four months he will get some wonderful news; something that will give him a view into the future in a very positive way (this is most likely to involve his finances). His first inclination will be to share this good news with you. You will see a more reliable and happy individual, as a result of this I feel you relationship can evolve; I do see that you and he are very good for each other.
I had held out hope for my ex and me, I thought we ALWAYS had something special and that time could stand the test of many things! I’m trying to let go. Right now I think he is with someone who he has been back and forth with for a few years. In those few years he was back and forth with me until recently. We were intimate several times before him saying he enjoyed the sex but there was no love behind it. He didn't say he was in love with the other woman but he is intimate with her! His feelings for her go back and forth and as early as July and he was with few other women! He is also bipolar and medicated but not sure if he is having some break through manic episodes. A few coincidences from before have come out. I guess my question is are we soul mates? He met he fell in live once and gave his heart away along time ago. Are these feelings still there? Is there any chance down the road? Is this woman his soulmate? I'm still walking away as hard as it is so that I can have a chance to live and love myself. I guess I just want to know these answers. -Michelle
It would be very wise to take him at his word. He certainly has feelings for you, but as he has told you there is no love, only physical gratification. You cannot expect this man to feel as you do for several reasons; first and primary is his attempt to deal with his disorder (I feel this is what must be understood). People going through a bipolar disorder (there are a lot of different levels) first must follow doctors orders; prescription, social conditions, and emotional stress. All relationships are stressful, and I feel strongly that the stress and emotional ups and downs are what he is trying to avoid. Remember that it is impossible for a man to fake physical interest. As adults it is very important to define your relationship; what you want and what he wants, either it works or not. If your friendship is only based on sex it will get very boring after a while. I would suggest seeing if you can become friends and find things in common. Be supportive, but if you feel it is only about sex, only you can end it. I also advise you to read up on bipolar disorder so you can better understand his moods and personality better.
I am seeing this guy named Tony. I would like to know if he really likes me and what does the future have in store for us? Do you think he maybe playing with my feelings? Should find someone else or I should be patiently waiting for him? Thanks so much for your advice and may God bless you and me. -Aidinha
I feel that his feeling are real he is falling in love with you. I do also feel strongly that the playing with feelings should not be an issue. At this mans age he is not playing games he really does like you. The time for games is over, there is no motivation or desire to be deceptive with you. At this point in your lives, you are both very defined in your ways and actions and I advise you and he to have fun and establish happy memories with each other and you most certainly will. You will be sure about him in a very short time. If there are no barriers to the time you spend with each other (no other relationships) you will evolve with each other, however do not look into the future too far, not now, you will scare each other away.
I've been involved with a man for almost 3 years. For the past year he's been talking marriage. Can I expect a ring anytime soon or is it just talk? -Melissa
This is a man who likes surprises and he very much enjoys seeing you smile and laugh. He also knows you are contemplating this question. To him you have made him very happy and this has lasted and continues. He only wants you to be happy and he does see you as a happy individual; in other words he feels the time is right and will formally propose around spring. You and he have found love with each other and I feel very strongly that it will last and evolve. The process of being with each other is very enjoyable to each of you and I do see a happy future with each other.
Love Questions: Posted April 7th, 2014
I am 26 and never been in a real relationship. My parents are currently going through a divorce and I feel like this makes it even harder for me to open up and trust other people. When will I meet the guy that is meant for me? Have I already met him? -NH
You have been in a position to observe and feel the changes through a timeline; being directly involved (as a part of the family) in a divorce effects all, as you know. This is really not fair to you. Relationships are serious, they effect all parts of life. I feel strongly that you have been very aware and very conscious about the dynamics of a relationship. I also feel strongly that the study, if not already, will become a part of your professional life. Before a true relationship can begin, people must first become friends and the compatibility either works or it does not. By this time next year you will be involved with an individual who feels the same as you; if you and he take pleasure in everyday and being with each other you can evolve with each other. You must be sure there are no barriers to avoid uncomfortable issues. I do see your destiny as being in a committed and happy relationship, however allow things to evolve naturally.
I have a long distance relationship going on with a US Marine deployed to Afghanistan. I would like to know if he is 100% for real or just been playing me. If he is for real, where will our relationship go? If not, is he planning on breaking it off with me tomorrow or when? I want a real true love instead of being alone. He says we're soul mates; but I wonder. I am so confused and don't know what to do. I would give anything to be prepared for the worst, so if and when it happens I will know how to handle it and know exactly what to say so that I will be the one walking away with my head up with pride and him regretting it. -Nanette
In your position and his also you both have a lot of time to think about each other and your personal situation in life. It would be advisable for you to see the situation as a mirror; what I mean is that you and also he are working with the same memories, conversations and plans. Remember that you need to meet up with each other to get to know each other better. My feeling is that you will find even more compatibilities with each other and like each other very much however, do not make the mistake of looking into the future to far or quickly.
Is my boyfriend of 6 years talking or seeing another woman? -Angela
I do not feel he is actually cheating on you, however, I do feel that he wants you to think that or see if jealousy is still there. I sense that your relationship has progressed to point of reality. What I mean is that you have both reached a point where you are going to continue as a couple or fade away from each other. Maintaining a suspicion or jealousy will keep a relationship from entering reality and some people like things that way. If this has been a part of a long term relationship something is very wrong. If a new relationship is the issue it simply means he has no idea what to say. Just remember jealousy or creation of jealousy is an action of a very insecure individual. If the jealousy is not resolved it could get some one in a lot of trouble. If it can not be resolved it is time to say goodbye.
My ex and I have been divorced for nearly 2 years but we communicate a few times a week. He remarried an old high school girlfriend who never was and still is not a good match. She believes in alcohol and party time. This is the third marriage she has broken up. Do you see them staying together for eternity? Do you see him "waking up" and seeing that she was all about the party and the money she could coerce him to get? He cashed in his IRA and Roth to have a good time. He could never look me in the eye and talk to me and just left. He carries much guilt and I do believe remorse. How long do you think this relationship between them can last? Is there any hope for us to get back together and work this out? We were happily married, or so I thought, for 32 years. I hope you can answer this for me as I can't seem to get this out of my mind. -Deb
You are very much in love with this man and you do not see the actual situation; it is not her fault that he has wondered. He understands this woman and has very much in common with her. I do not see a committed situation in their future but they both are satisfied with each other. From the way he communicates with you and his assurance of your feelings for him, he will definitely make an attempt to reunite with you. The only way it will work is if you and he get back to the point of wanting to retake your vows, but you will find the same issues, these issues must be dealt with and put into the past or they will return. I really do not feel that he desires a marriage at this time and right now he does not have a desire to part with this other woman. He does love you and you and he will always be connected and he is very much holding on to you. If you think about it, he would not tell you about this other woman and their situation if he did not want you to hold on to him also.
I have been single for 7+ years and devoting my life to my children. I am tired of being alone. When will I find someone to spend the rest of my life with that will be a wonderful male role model for my children? -J.
Within the next four months you will find that you do not feel exactly the way you do now. However, I suggest that you look back into a subject that you had great interest in and aspirations about being a success at; you can reestablish your incentive in this interest and this time take your time to accomplish what you want. You are going to find that you make a lot of friends that share your interest, men and woman. Through a female friend you are going to meet an individual who shares your interest and your situation in life. I feel this man is single and available but not really used to the dating scene. He has spent the last few years as you, raising children (a single father). You and this man will have a lot in common, age, children, and your common interest, this friendship I feel has great potential for success; just remember to take things slowly. Around the same time you reestablish you interest and become actively involved you will also meet an individual through one of your children, he will also be a single father with grown children who are out of the home. You will know this man by his voice and his love of baseball. I feel strongly that you will be very happy by how the year progresses.
I had a relationship with a guy and we have been together for 6 years. It has never been a good solid relationship and we both know that we are wanting to move on, so for the last year we have been more off then on. We live in our own homes, but we live right beside each other. We both own our homes and this makes it very difficult to move on. I left the relationship emotionally a long time ago and I am wondering if you see us going our own way in the near future because I am really ready to find a new love and was wondering if you see a new love in my near future and if so will this be the right guy for me? -Kelly
The location of your friends home and your home will not be an issue as long as you are blunt about your feelings or lack of romantic feelings, once this matter is taken care of you will feel a lot better in your outlook towards the future. I can feel that you are a very nice and magnetic woman, you will never have a problem in this area. You will meet another person who will be a good friend to you and he will want to develop a closer relationship. However, if your ex boyfriend is still under the impression that there is something going on with you and he, the new friend will vanish. Three months will be enough time to get back on track.
Love Questions: Posted March 24th, 2014
I have been single for close to 7 years. Do you see this changing anytime soon? My son is growing up and I feel he needs a man in his life, as does my daughter. I am ready for a relationship and have been in contact with an old crush for over a year and there are feelings there, but he lives over 2 hours away. Is this guy just wishful thinking? – Jennifer
Two hours in distance is not much, as to be an issue since your feelings are there. This man feels the same way you do however, he feels he can not express emotions as well as you can. You and he very much enjoy the time you spend with each other and are building up positive memories of each other. The issue of long term plans or marriage will only scare each other away right now. Once a common image of the future is established with each other (naturally) the relationship will evolve to the point where you and he can not see the future with out each other being there. I suggest activity that you share and enjoy, it is activity that will create the relationship you want, the expressive and quit time with each will come naturally; according to the laws of nature. Within a year you and he will be in a structured relationship that will continue to grow (if nurtured). It's OK to feel good and be happy.
The man I love and know to be my soul mate ended our relationship of two years 3 months ago. Some have told me to let go and focus on new love, but I feel in my spirit this is the man destined for me. I believe there is new love interest. I still have faith and believe this is a test of our love. Will this man come back to me and is he serious with another woman? -Stephanie
This is not necessarily your issue, there is a strong attachment you feel and this is very real. It usually takes about thee months to establish any routine, or break a routine. What I mean is that you are certain you and he started or the subject of where or we going, what is in the future plan for us? Is there a plan? It is important to pace ones self in relationships and not look into the future too far; even though the other my feel love also. Looking too far into the future tends to overwhelm most in relationships (a common image should not be rushed, things need time to establish in a common way, naturally). There will be another chance for you two within the next two months (another relationship for him, is not happening but I am sure the implication is intentional; he is holding on to you, not in a malious way but in a way of buying time and holding on to your thoughts). He is only trying to figure out his next move, where your relationship is concerned. You need to get to know each other a lot better and this takes time.
I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years, six weeks ago because he had become distant and I found out that he had been spending time with his ex-girlfriend. I knew they still talked. Now six weeks later I still hurt over this and am upset and depressed all the time. I know that if it wasn't for her, he and I would still be together. Will he ever get over her and if he does will we end up back together? -Jessica
Certain men have a very difficult time handling rejection; if he was at fault for their break up, he will try to change that or the situation that initiated the break up. It is not her fault, he is the one who is doing the pursuing, so try not to blame her or her influence on him. He also likes you very much and has had a lot of fun as you have however, this is close friendship. He is and has for a long time been involved in a serious and realistic relationship. He has not been entirely open to you; this man will continue to communicate with you within the next couple of weeks. He does not know exactly what to say, or where things in his own life are going so it may be difficult to plan ahead. In a few weeks you will be more aware of the situation, more informed and will began to see things differently and more clearly.
My friend and I have been talking for about two years now and I have really developed strong feelings for him. I love him and I am in love with him. I'm not exactly sure how or when to communicate my love and feelings to him because I'm scared of rejection and I'm not sure how he feels but I would love to pursue a relationship with him. Will he and I ever pursue the opportunity to be together in a relationship more than what we have going on now? –Nateasha
He does not want to end the friendship. When a man can express his inner feelings and open up to someone it is a rare thing and feels very good and honest. I feel he does want to establish something more with you but does not want to lose his friend; a lot of times friends can open up with each other more effectively then in a girlfriend/boyfriend situation. He is thinking in the same way that you are. If you create the correct situations to share with each other (movies, concerts, restaurants etc) the book of a relationships will be started. Put shared activities, happy activities in this book, it will grow. The opening up and talking will happen naturally and really does not have to be planned. This man cares about you more then you realize.
I feel I have met my soul mate, but, with that I am in turmoil. We connected on 6/8/13. I approached him. We are both going through a divorce. He is burning hot and cold and driving me nuts. His name is Oscar. Am I wasting my time? –P.
If you are depending on this man to change your life and be the knight in shining armor then you will be disappointed. He is really not in that position. I would advise you and he stop the affair before you get caught because it will complicate both divorces greatly. You can be a support system to each other but that is all. You and he are not in the position to get involved in each others problems at home; when his marriage is ended he will pay a heavy price and he will not be to happy about that and you do not want him to blame you. I do feel you will end up with each other eventually; but as I mentioned you must take care of your own situations as they are very different.
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I now truly know that it is over as we had been on and off the past few years and we also have a seven year old daughter together. I have a few questions: the pharmacist I had (or still have) a crush on, what kind of feelings he had for me and will I see him again (when, where?) Also, I just barely met someone I am interested in but it is only the very beginning. Will we become an item and if so when? Are these two people out of the question for a relationship, or is there someone out there I have not met yet? I would like to get married again, have a second child and live a "normal" life. Will this happen? –Marissa
As far as normal life, that is a matter of personal circumstance. Essentially you and your boyfriend of eight years being on and off as you say only means that you and he are in a romantic situation that has lasted for eight years. The child is real and also the love you and he have for the child. I feel you and he are going through the stress of being married without the benefits (legally, mentally, and of course the spiritually). It would be different if you both wanted this; however I feel you don’t. You are a very intelligent and magnetic woman, you will never have a problem with making friends. Committed relationships that work must be taken seriously or they will fail.
I have been happily married now for 5 years. This passed year my husband has been in another state. During this time he's been away I started talking to my ex with whom I was with for 5 years and I'm so confused now. Me and my ex were getting along well and it excited me and we even went as far as almost had sex. The worst is that the night I was with my ex was so powerful the connection when our lips touched was like no other and the strength I wasn't feeling those feelings alone I think. Now I'm confused because I can't stop thinking about him. I want to know why after all this time do I feel this way. I was satisfied until he kissed me and touched me. We haven't spoken since a little after that night. I want to know if he felt what I felt. Does he love me still? What's wrong with me for wanting to feel that passion again and finish what was started and will we get to? I want to feel that feeling again. It was heaven. -Melissa
A loving relationship is rare and when such a relationship fails it promotes disappointment. It is very difficult to except the reality that something that you were so sure about did not work. Most people will learn and become more defined as to what they want and how to get it. Once we as human beings retain our spiritual bondings in life; even if we are away for what ever reason. As adults we evolve to the point of restraining our selves (avoiding things that will harm us or someone we love) it is a part of maturity (for most people). You and this man will always have strong feelings for each other, but it is up to you which path you want to take. Right now you would be thinking of why you married; and the answer is to be unique to each other; and this has several benefits: mentally, spiritually and of course physically. I advise you to think even more. Would you like to be at blame for interrupting an acquired situation? Would you or people you care about be hurt in any way? You are not likely to do something for the moment that will effect your entire future. In your actions I feel you will restrain yourself. I feel strongly that you will realize this; and also the this other man will continue to pursue you (if you don’t do something about it) this does have the potential of harming the wrong people. In your contemplation you will realize that working on the marriage is what is needed.
I have been involved with a man for about a year now. Though at first we both looked at the relationship as something fun and casual, we fell on love with each other. Recently, he's been dealing with a lot of personal issues and I, although as supportive as can be, have been put on hold. Even more recently, an ex of his has reappeared and they have slept together. Though this pains me to my core, I cannot help but feel like him and I are meant to be together. Since he told me of the ex, I haven't contacted him, but I miss him dearly. Have I deluded myself into thinking he is the one for me or is this something that can grow? -Kiki
Relationships are supposed to be fun and enjoyable; however this leads to reality (do we have a chance, could it work, does he feel the same way?). I feel you and he are very compatible on a romantic level, but it is the future together that you and he may see differently. He is attempting to repair something from the past; and is caught up in the past, where you and he are concerned, it would be advisable to know each other better. He has not communicated with you because he does not know what to say. Not communicating with you is essentially holding on to you, and your interest. This man will make an attempt to get close to you, however if this attempt is not soon you will began to think differently.
I'm so unsure about what to do in my relationship right now. Should I move on or should I try to fix it with my ex? I keep talking to the wrong guys and I'm not sure if I will ever that 'one person' that will also be the last. Im not made for 'keep dating til you find the one' because I go in too deep. What should I do? -Jotishna
Your Destiny is to be in a committed long term relationship; when the time is right. I understand that you have a love for your ex, and he does for you, this will be the case for the foreseeable future. However, there must be a commonly established image of the future together, sometimes it happens quickly some times not at all; at times it will take a long time to be established. One thing that will disrupt this process is looking too far into the future too quickly or only from one side. I feel that you and your ex will have another chance, however, issues must dealt with or they will reemerge stronger then before. You will be increasingly interested in a subject that was not perused before; the man in your destiny will be a part of this interest and your enjoyment and knowledge will grow, as the common image of the future, which will be a natural process.
I'm writing to ask when will me and my ex Jeffery get back together? Will it be soon? I need to know. When will he leave his new girlfriend? Thanks. -Ashley
He coincides himself to be in a relationship with her; you are his girlfriend (believe it or not some men like things that way). His relationship issues are occurring because of uncertainty about his own direction; he is becoming very aware that it is fairly impossible to maintain two different relationships. His hesitance to be defined in a relationship is why his intentions where you and he are concerned are extremely vague, he really does not know where things are going. This man will attempt to continue seeing you, however, at this time, he is into the hear and now and you will see more and more each day how unfair this is to you.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of a year. I cannot even get him to speak to me. Will he ever speak to me and will we ever get back together? -Aleah
Most people when they are in love develop a sense of surrender towards the object of their affection as he has. A sense of trust must be established if your relationship is going to evolve. I feel very strongly that you and he are in the process of going from romantic love to realistic love (realistic love does not mean the romance is gone; it only means that a person gets to the point of not seeing the future, with out the other being there). In this phase feelings get hurt very easily and a small things seem gigantic. I feel he does miss you and sharing time together. If this issue has to do with jealousy, I do not feel it will work. He is holding on to you for a reason (this is what the non-communication is all about) he cannot say that he does not like you anymore, because he does; he only feels hurt and desires solitude. I also feel that you and he will communicate within two months and this conversation will be the key. One thing to remember is that this break up has taken your relationship to a higher level. He will attempt to contact you but not in a personal way; it will be regarding a project that you share interest in. You and he will have one more chance. He does miss you as much as you mis him; even though he is not communicating with you he does miss your voice.
I recently started thinking about an ex. We haven't spoken in over 6 months. I am trying to figure out why all of a sudden he's constantly on my mind. Clearly if he were thinking of me he would have called. Is there something I should know or are these thoughts signs to contact him? -Trice
Just like you he is disappointed that the relationship did not work. It is a very natural thing to think about the past (resent and distant) and see solutions instead of pure emotion. I feel he would see an attempt to contact him as path to friendship; on his mind you and he entered a romantic relationship not a friendship. I do also feel that he would take the desire to be only friends not too well. He feels the break up was the end of the world for you. Right now he would take this as an insult. I feel that contact would go a long way towards repairing your situation with each other, but not now, it is still too early. Allow the thoughts to remain. I guarantee he is thinking about you also; and I also suggest you allow him to make the attempt, and he will.
I am deeply, almost selflessly in love with my partner/soul mate- in a healthy way of course. We met 13 years ago when we were younger and had gone our own ways. It was an instant connection. From the moment I met him, I instantly knew. It's like I had known him my whole life, even before I was born. We saw each other for a bit and eventually harmoniously parted. We live in different parts of the state, which was never a problem for me. It's only an hour flight. This is the man I spiritually know to be my companion and life mate, no time or distance changes that. It's hard to explain. He came back into my life again earlier this year and we began seeing each other again. It's like time stood still and it was as if we never parted. We had an instant connection spiritually, emotionally, and physically. He pulled away, but is still in communication with me. I know with my whole heart that we are supposed to be together. I have loved him for many years. I know he cares deeply but maybe he's scared because of past experiences with other people. Will he express his true feelings for me soon and commit to a loving relationship/life with me? I've been hurt by love so many times before but I try not to let those experiences block me. I'm a bit scared of getting hurt and of being alone and without a family to love of my own. I know God has happiness for me. -Audrie
Most people do not keep romance in their relationship and remain in romantic love for as long as you and him. As far as his feelings for you; he does feel the same way about you. I feel very strongly that the aspect of a committed and structured relationship is what may holding him back from making that move in your relationship. All men want to be the knight in shining armor to the woman that they love, and he has maintained that image to you for a very long time, and that’s wonderful but impossible to maintain in a realistic relationship. I do feel that this man not only feels the same as you but also has contemplated this question for a long time. When someone only appears once and a while it is hard to accomplish a common image of the future. Within the next few weeks you will see him becoming more aware of a future together; he will open up a lot more about his feelings for you and where you and he are going. The barrier between you and he developing a future together will also still be there; and you are aware what that barrier is. The only reason it has not separated you two is that the joy you bring to him has helped him to get through it. You and this man need to become real in your relationship and overcome whatever is holding you and he back; it must be delt with and discussed if things are to move forward within a realistic relationship. You and he are also friends and understand each other very well. You will end up together, however if you are going to see the same future, reality must be established. Romance is very addictive and a lot of men wish to stay there. I feel your present situation is there because you both wish it to be however, the only constant in life is change.
I want to know if Eduardo loves me and if him and I are going to get back together. I believe in my heart that he wants to tell me he still loves me and wants to be with me but I've begged him and he says he doesn't want to give me another chance because I'm never going to change my attitude and my jealously. I told him I'm going to change but I want to be with him. I met him when he was very young (I'm 5 years older than him) and we've been through some strong stuff in our lives. We have lived together for 2 years with my 8 year old. Suddenly, one day he said he was tired of everything and he was tired of me and my daughter and he went back to live with his mom. I just want to know if we have another chance of getting back together. -Cynthia 12/21/87
Jealousy has destroyed many good relationships. Now, if you have a reason to be jealous you are in the wrong relationship. This man feels that you are grasping him and will accept anything (this is not right). He is basically worried about what is going to happen when things become real. He is a lot more impressed with you then you know. Remember there are thousands of men and women incarcerated for the reasons of jealousy (many for a very long time), it is not conducive to a successful relationship. If the jealousy continues or you and his relationship is that insecure it will not last or reestablish. Please look at the situation realistically and understand the hesitation. You will get back together, however if the jealousy continues it will not work if dealt with it can make your love with each other stronger and enjoyable the way it is supposed to. This man loves you very much, and you he; this love is very strong and can be beautiful if you and he work it out that way... I do see a marriage in the near future (four months), if you and he solve the jealousy first.
I am deeply in love with my ex-girlfriend and truly believe with all my heart that we are soul mates. Will we get back together? -Aurora
You and she will give a relationship a chance one more time but if the original issues are not resolved you will fail in your attempt. I would advise you both to look at things from the others perspective in attempt to understand each other even more then you do. This is not a matter of saying 'I love you' a million times, this aspect is known by all concerned. Once you understand her view of the near future, and that she understands your view of the same, then you can begin to communicate on a greater level. I feel very strongly that your feelings for her caused you to look too far into the future, being that she did not know how to respond, she has become distant. Reestablish your friendship and let nature take its course.
I have this friend whom I’ve known for over three years. We became close because of Facebook. He is entering priesthood but I sense he has special attention on me and always makes praises. I have grown to be fond of him and I wonder if what we have is mutual understanding or he is just being friendly. I want to know what his feelings for me really are. –Sonia
This man feels extremely connected with you and your friendship means the world to him. Things that you know about each other has created a bonding, and he would feel that it is very easy to open up to you and more importantly very easy for you to open up to him. As far as a physical attraction; yes however his path is discipline and spirituality and I feel strongly that he is committed to a spiritual life. You will remain friends through out your lives and beyond.
My girlfriend and I broke up. I know there is another guy involved and I know he really doesn't like her. Do you see us getting back together soon? And can you tell me why she is so upset with me? –Joseph
The reason she is upset is because she is very aware of your feelings for her and how sure you are that a mistake has been made; now you may be sure but it is she who needs to needs to come to this understanding. I advise you to give her the space she needs. If you are communicating with each other still; you are not giving her a chance to miss you. I do feel that after the beginning of the year, you will have another chance; if you do not respond to the current situation with jealousy or posessivness, if you demonstrate anger now it will end any possibility of reestablishing the type of relationship that you want and; that she wants.
My ex wife and I have been apart now for about a year. She is settled with another in a different town. I don’t truly believe she is happy and I wish to know if there is any signs or chance for her to return. Is she starting to believe that leaving me was a mistake and does she want to return and make our marriage work? –Rhys
I feel strongly that she also feels and wants for you to be happy in life however, the disappointment is also mutual. I do not feel anger or unresolved issues coming from her at this time, only a desire to have a happy life. Where you and she are concerned, I feel love towards each other and the bonding will last forever, being a part of your life and also hers, the joy, the love, and also the great disappointment that the marriage did not work out. Love is a real entity that evolves and creates pain and joy, if nurtured it will grow if not it will slowly die; and this is the basic process of life. You do love her very deeply and for that reason you must wish her the best and not interfere with a new marriage. Her happiness or unhappiness is a personal thing she needs to accomplish herself. This is not the time to resolve issues from the past, it is over and it can never erase issues that have past. Love is present but it has changed and evolved.
I've been divorced for 7 years and have devoted my time to taking care of my kids and my mom before she passed away. I am now at a point where I want to meet someone and move on with my life. I also am having major financial issues and feel like my life is a revolving door never to get better. Am I destined to be alone or will I meet someone who will love me and want to be with me? Is there an end to my financial plight? I just want to be happy again. –Diana
This has already started to occur, however try not to define yourself based on relationship or failed relationships, this is impossible to do and never works. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. You are very set in your ways and have established a pattern of behavior (you know what works for you in your available time) and I do feel you are bored but happy. When you find an activity, or reestablish your deep interest in a certain subject, I can see you making several friends of both sexes; however a particular interest will be naturally established between you and a certain man, and a deep friendship will be established first; this friendship will evolve to a more defined relationship. This will occur within the next three months and it will not take you away from your responsibilities and you will be positive on a lot of levels. I feel that during the course of the year you will see many positive things about yourself (not as a result of a relationship; that will be an added bonus). It is essentional to find ones self, before finding another and remember that you have already started.
I keep running into and ex lover and I keep thinking about him. Why do I keep thinking about someone that does not care about me? Last week I passed him in my car three times. He turned his head I guess thinking I would wave or something. I want to text him to grow up. Is he thinking about me or I'm I just crazy. It's been a year since we were together. I have run into him in my three times this week. I need help! –Katherine
This man feels that a committed relationship is what you may want in your life, and he does know how you feel. At the time of your relationship you and he were moving at different speeds, he was taking things day to day and I feel the implication of a planed, or committed relationship is the message he picked up from you. I feel strongly that looking too far towards the future is what caused an end to your communication with each other. At the time, he felt overwhelmed, he did know how to respond to the situation, he felt that he could not say "lets fly to Las Vegas and get married" and he could not say "I don’t like you anymore" so he said nothing. You will communicate with each other within two months, and if you and are into the hear and now, you will continue to communicate and he will be the one that will desire to reestablish a relationship and the one who will bring up the topic of where are we going.
I'm torn about a man I recently met. We are both in other relationships, but I feel a strong connection to him. I'm not sure how he feels about me and whether there is a future between us (a life together, kids, etc.). Can you see anything to help me? –Skye
I feel that you feel a strong connection because you and he have created a reason to bond. You and he have created a privet and fantasy romance that is fun, supportive, and romantic. Reality means the bonding you both had in your other relationships, is gone; these other relationships will fail as a result. It is not a game anymore it is reality. Your relationship with him will continue, but the circumstances will not be enjoyable at first, there will be issues that you and he need to take care of on your own.
I met a guy online 2 1/2 months ago and we dated for 2 months, we had a great connection but we broke up 2 weeks ago due to communication issues and "incompatibility" (that's what he claimed). I'm so confused and lost as I felt like he liked me for who I am but then trying to subtly 'change' me or thought that we're so different now. What is he thinking? Will he contact me again? If yes, when will that happen? Will we even have a future together at all? Should I just focus on my career and look for someone else instead? When will the right guy walk into my life? Or is he a non-committed type and he will keep distancing himself from me once in a while when we have "issues"? What kind of a person is he? I feel a deep connection with him, but disappointed at the same time. –Nikki
What has occurred between you and this man is what a relationship is all about; dealing with issues or walking away. I feel assured that you both are very defined individuals but inquiring or moving too quickly and scared each other away. You do like each other very much, and the attraction is also mutual however, you each have different plans in how to achieve what you want out of life. Your career is something that will remain with you throughout your life, most beginning relationships do not. You will be friends in life but that’s all.
I’m in love with my ex with whom I had a two year relationship that I ended last October due to not feeling appreciated for a finish. He has hectic schedule, works in family business and does college also. He returned few months back promising a future and change and told me how much he loved and missed me. He had family bereavement next day. He told me he didn’t want relationship few weeks later and that he was tied up for a few years with college and taking over family business. I reacted badly to this out of the pain of loosing him again. Will there be a happy reconciliation or are we done? –Amy
He is being honest with you about his commitments which are his life. A person will retain knowledge and sense of what will work and what will not. Relationships can create security or create uncomfortable issues that would prevent a person from being happy and he knows if he is going through uncomfortable feelings he will not be his best. This man is a good person and he will attempt to communicate with you, however as I stated he is being honest with you as best he can and he cares for you more then you realize.
I am currently in a long-term relationship but for a few years now I have had an intense connection with another man as friends. Recently it developed into more which is no surprise, but we are both in relationships and he has only recently got engaged, we have decided it is best to leave things alone. This however has left me in turmoil. The connection is so strong we do things like text each other at exactly the same time, say the same things at the same time and have had many signs that there is something more here. I have never experienced anything like it in my life. Many things have happened that can't just be coincidence. I think what I would like to know is. Is there going to be a future for us somewhere down the line even if it isn't the right time now? –Zoe
An intense connection with a friend who has become more then a friend, I feel you are talking about falling in love, and he feels the same. First of all the engagement and beginning relationship you are both in would be over; it is only a matter of time. The time and bonding between you two would take effort and also desire. I feel strongly that the common image of the future which is needed for a successful relationship, would be very, very difficult to accomplish with in your current relationships. You will create opportunity to see each other and the chance of attempting a relationship, however it will be very difficult if not impossible to establish trust, which is not only nice, but essential with in a long term relationship. There will be the tenancy to blame each other for a lot of things that will bother both of you. If you both wait and not interfere with each others relationships (let the relationship and engagement fade away naturally) and really get to know each other in reality, I feel you both will not feel the same way.
I’m so deeply in love with my child's father Michael. I do everything for him. We get together then he wants to break up then come back and so on. I have true faith in us and I’m not too sure he will ever commit to us. I do everything for him to trust me and know that I'm all the women he needs. I need to know if he loves me and if he will ever commit too us and what is stopping him because this is the man I want to marry. I need to know if it's real and if it's worth it in the end. –Chasity
I do feel that you are going through all the realistic feelings and experiences of a marriage, with none of the benefits. The primary reason he will not commit in the way you want is because he does not trust himself. From time when infidelity was initiated, the possibility of a happy and growing life together was doomed. It is impossible to create a common view of the future when another man or woman is involved; it is impossible. Under present circumstances I would not advise a committed relationship; it is not your fault so do not blame yourself. This man has to want to change and I really do not feel he wants to.
I've met my soul mate by the name of M. When we first met we talked for about 3 hours in the store. I think about him often and I was told that we are destined to be together. I miss him and we haven't been on our first date yet. I feel his energy. When he feels bad I can feel it. He's going through a divorce right now but he says it will be over soon. I think about him often. I was wondering is it mutual and will we date after his divorce? –Shonta
Most people who are in the process of divorce are not to happy about it and most of time things go smoothly, unless there are children involved and community property. If his soon to be ex wife finds out about you, the divorce will be very hard on him; the reason he can not go on dates with you is of course getting caught however, he has fallen in love with you, and you are helping him get through a uncomfortable situation at home. My advice to you is to not pressure him, things are occurring naturally but take time; if you want things to go smoothly for him and yes he will want to continue to see you.
I have been seeing someone for the last 15 months. I want to know how he feels about me and if he sees me as a partner for more of a commitment. If he is not that interested I would like to know. I feel he really likes me and has feelings for me but I worry. Is there something he doesn't like about me? What does he think and feel about me? –Robin
At this phase of your relationship you and also he would be focused on each others body language (you have been together long enough to do this), and both wondering about the next phase or where you are going. I feel that he is only defining his feelings. I do not feel that he dislikes anything about you, only thinking about the time and how naturally you and he have evolved. This is the time to create positive memories and subject matter for discussion, commonalities. The relationship is moving forward.
I have been in a spiritual marriage, not legal, for almost 6 years. We have been through hell together and I am not sure if we should continue on. We are very different but we do love each other though I do not know if we are truly in love or really helping one another. At times, I do not feel he truly loves me, or is in love with me. He is obsessed with his work and very eccentric and there is a lack of balance in the relationship. -Rosemary
In my opinion, it is the fact that you and he have went through hell together (as you say) that has rushed you into reality; in all senses of the word married except legally, the same anxiety which affect all couples to an extent. I feel that you must determine if the problems are between you and he, or if you are only sharing them together, because that would change the whole scenario. I do not see a break up, but it is very important to remember that generally men and women deal with issues a bit differently; women have a way of seeing the big picture, while men tend to see things on a day to day or progressive basis. I would not suggest marriage as a solution, not now it will not work however, I do feel that you will both work up to that point within a year. The most important thing I see is that you love each other. I feel strongly that you and he will get over this slump very soon and start enjoying your relationship (he will be the one to bring up marriage, not you).
My husband and I have been married for 26 years. We have been having a lot of problems. Will we stay married and live happily or will we breakup? –Denise
I feel that to an extent you and he have moved to separate interests and found the time for them. Once you and he pursue a common interest you will have fun and I feel re-kindling the romantic love which I feel you both miss. This is the right time. All conditions are favorable.
I am in love with a girl and feel like there is something there but cannot tell how she feels because it seems to change so drastically all the time. Is there actually something there? If not, when will I be lucky enough to meet someone? –Travis
Change is the only constant in life. Within two months you will have the opportunity to talk to the girl you are referring to however, you may not see her exactly the same. I feel it will become a deep friendship, during this friendship you will also happen across a place that captures your heart and your interest and this is the place where you and the girl in your dreams will meet each other. You are also entering a time when it will favorable to start or strengthen any new endeavor, and this is because your intuition is right on the dot; music will play a major role.
Me and my boyfriend of two and a half years have been on a roller coaster of a relationship. This year we broke up for three months but then got back together. I’m confused as to how he really feels about me. Sometimes I feel us getting back together was a mistake because when we were separated he was dealing with another female but I intervened and scared her off. I feel he's with me until he finds someone else. Am I exaggerating our relationship or should we just call it quits? Any insight would help because I'm to the point where if we are going to stay together we need to take the next step and get married or leave each other alone. We have our own place apart but I stay at his home daily. Please help with any advice because I am at a crossroad feel lost. –Shaniece
It is impossible to evolve within a relationship when there is a another person involved and I feel strongly that he wants things the way they are. Also, it is not you that must end his affair with the other woman, it should be him. I feel also by confronting her you only created a situation where he needs to be carful and sneaky. I also know that you know this, so the issue is your hopes and desires. To establish the kind of relationship that you want it is essential that you and he establish a common image of your life together and this cannot occur with another person lingering. It is obvious that you do not trust this man (for good reason) and I do not feel it will ever happen. Please do not look within yourself or your memories, your behavior etc. it will frustrate you a lot; that is because you cannot do this because the problem itself does not have anything to do with you (a marriage will only complicate the issue, so I feel it is out of the scenario) just remember that someone who is supposed to love you would not feel the inclination. It will not work; I see you as being happy in the future; and he is not in the picture.
I have been married for 24 years now. My husband has cheated on me in the past but I don't know if he knows I found out and I would like to know if he is cheating again. He goes out with his friends all of time and hardly spends any time with me or our daughter. He can be very sarcastic towards me. I don't feel much of a connection between us anymore. I have tried to discuss with him about going out with his friends so much and he gets mad at me to the point where he won't talk to me. Is this relationship headed for divorce? –Lisa
I do not feel that there is an active affair at this time, however, the possibility of a happy and growing marriage was ended the first time infidelity occurred, no matter what the reason. Either your friends or family members know what is going on (people will not interfere because you always believe hin and make others feel foolish). You have given this matter a lot of thought and I commend you. I would advise you to remember that it is the taking of vows and the maintaing of those vows that must be there to make things work in a happy way and keep the common image of the future working. However, it is the legal aspect of the marriage that is for you and your childrens protection in life. You are exceptionally intelligent.
I have always had such a tough time finding men; not only for romance but just dating period. It is so frustrating being alone, cause I have so much love to give to a man but I feel like it’s going to waste. I always get many people tell me that I haven’t found anyone cause I am a "special" girl and I just can't be with any man cause I wouldn't be happy. I guess that is true to some point but I feel that there are other underlying reasons as to why its so hard for me to find a guy. Is there anything you see that I am doing wrong? When will I ever meet that guy for me? –Kyandra
You are a very defined woman in all ways except in your desire to find the right person. As a defined person you will be attract to a defined man. I feel strongly that the coming months will bring you your hearts desire, but first; stop looking. You will find each other. I feel that this will occur as a result of not attending, but being actively involved with an issue that touches your heart. You will make many long term friends, one in particular will be come much more then a friend. Enjoy the entire process, because you can be assured that he will be enjoying the same thing. You will know him because of his distinctive laugh.
My ex boyfriend and I very recently started hanging out again. I love him with all my heart and I know he loves me but he has a huge fear of commitment. I am trying to be very understanding of the reasons why it is so hard for him to get close to people. By the time he was 18 his mom had passed away from cancer, his dad killed himself and his cousin (who's family took him in when his mom died) overdosed on drugs. More recently, he spent his lifesaving on a house for himself and the girl he was with at that time of 5 years only to have her cheat on him and move the other guy into their house when he moved out. I really do understand and I know how much it means to him that I do. I don't pressure him or need anything to happen fast. I can be patient as long as I believe there is a reason to be. Do you think he will ever commit? –Nicole
This man is afraid of loss and he has every reason not to want to that feel that way anymore. The feeling of loss effects all of us at times of our lives, when people as he, who have had traumatic experiences (over and over) scrounging losses they will be very conscious of the fact. To most people a break up or divorce effects them in the same way as a death. I feel strongly that he is a good man and is working things out at his own pace. Do not become his counselor, if so he will associate you with the uncomfortable issues he is dealing with, I am not saying not to be a support system and a trusted friend (this is what this man really needs) no matter how he appears he is grieving. I do feel a good relationship is possible if you are patient and reinforce positive behavior but also not ignore negative behavior; address it and solve it. He will fall in love very quickly.
In the year 2011-2012 I dated and reconnected with a man from my teenage years. We have had no contact for a year now. I am connected to him and I feel him when he thinks about me and sometimes I can hear what he is thinking. It is now 2013, I have seen his face in my head two times now once when I was working outside I had to stop and feel it go, and once when I was asleep dreaming. I see his face as clear as if I was standing in front of him. I can see his hair, eyes, color of his skin, he is telling me "I LOVE YOU" as he is looking into my face. What does this mean? Are we going to have contact again in the future? When? How? Will it be an accidental meeting? I have been invited to several things that he goes to but I do not go to those outings anymore knowing he will be there. -Martha
He feels as you, but is also uninformed, as you. I do also feel that he may be in an unhappy relationship or just out of one. I suggest that you and he talk or communicate in some way that you can be informed about what is possible or not possible. You and this man have a lot in common, not only the past but also in your taste in entertainment and almost the exact concept in spirituality. Within the next month you and he will have an opportunity to talk and catch up on life, there will be no problem with the physical attraction, it is very strong and mutual. Getting reacquainted with each other will be very enjoyable for both of you. If there are no barriers (other relationships) I feel things will progress; if barriers exist it will cause chaos.
I have been single for over 7 years and am a single mom of two. I have a busy schedule but really feel I am ready for a relationship. What can you tell me about my future concerning my love life and the man I am to spend the rest of my life with? –Jennifer
As a result of attending holiday celebrations of some sort is the atmosphere in which you will make not one, but two contacts or should I say two different celebrations where you will meet these two individuals. They both will be attracted to you, and you to each of them. One of these individuals will also have children and very little time to socialize because of career obligations; I do feel strongly he would also have the same image of the future that you do, now because of the difficulty in finding quality time with each other the time that you and he find (schedule) for each other, will possess a magical quality (you will very much, look forward to seeing each other again, your timing will only get better and better with each other. The season will bring memories that will last forever.
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