From an early age James has been aware of the energy and feelings of others, the first aspect of being an intuitive. The powers were so strong it prompted him to be of service to others. Through 33 years of practice and professional study he has the ability to guide people through the paths of their lives, the ups and downs, the realistic issues, surrounding relationships and love, career, money and spirituality. His techniques include clairvoyance, tarot, astrology and Native American totems and animal guides. He looks forward to speaking to you soon so that you may begin your path to insight.
My best friend/ex boyfriend told me today that he thinks we are better off as friends. When we were in a romantic relationship things were great between us. We had no relationship problems, it was mostly just financial problems. I really do want a second chance with him. If you could please help me. –April
First of all it would be very important that you and he do not communicate through friends, taken too far this leads to miscomunication and misunderstanding. Know it does not sound as if money and relationship go together but they do; it use to be infidelity that was the biggest reason for separations or divorces, it is now financial issues. One thing that is also common is that a man will always feel that his ability or definition is about what he has to offer; what this means is that men that are having financial issues will rarely pursue a serious relationship. He will be given the opportunity to get back on track within the next two months. He will start to see the future in a more optimistic way. You and he will have another chance, your relationship has gone into a higher level.
I'm with someone that has children and has yet to get a divorce from his wife. We've been together for a year and I wanted to know if you see a future for us or if I'm going to meet someone new. I love him with all of my heart and I feel like he's my soul mate but I’m just ready to be happy. I just want to know if there is a happy future for us or if I'm waiting in vain. –Diane
Marriages are spiritual, the legality of a marriage is specifically for the womans and childrens protection in life. A divorce means legal obligation and this is what I feel about his thinking in the matter, and he is right. I feel strongly that he loves you and your image of the future and happiness means everything to this man. If a divorce was a part of his or her plans, it would already be done. It can be very tough or impossible to change ones situation in life, it takes major effort however in your case it is entirely possible. Good things do happen to people who wait.
Are my ex-boyfriend and I meant to be? He has a girlfriend now and we broke up last year. We haven't been in contact until last month when he contacted me out of the blue and we even met up a few times and that spark was still there. What I want to know is, does he really want me back? What do you see in future for us? –Ilana
What was between you two can be a start of a new and more evolved relationship however, there cannot be anyone else involved such as girlfriends or boyfriends. Things have gone to a point where the only way to begin anew and reestablish the trustful love is to further your commitment to each other or get to that point. There is a time when he will feel like doing this but the pace of things is entirely up to you. I feel strongly that you do love each other so these things I speak of will be very easy and natural if your hearts are feeling the same.
I went out with this guy for the first time in May of last year. We lost touch for a few months due to busy schedules but then reconnected around October of last year and saw each other a few times until February and then things happened beyond our control (legal matters and a serious car accident) and we haven't been able to see each other since. We are still talking and trying to work things out to meet up again but things just seem to get in the way. What do you see for this 'relationship'? Are things ever going to get better? Ever since I was young, I always thought he was 'the one' I was supposed to be with and still truly believe this to be true. Any insight would be great, and if he’s not 'the one' when will I meet him? –Jennifer
I strongly feel that you and he have gone through so much together that things have already started to fall into place. He also feels extremely close to you and shares the same anticipation and intenceity that you do. The only way things will get better is if you and he make things better. You have already stood by each other when things don’t go so well. He is looking forward to better times and a future of happiness with you. I also feel with patience and continued good feelings things will go very well for you two. Within four months the decision to evolve within the relationship will be a natural and mutual choice.
I wanted to know if me and my ex were ever getting back together? I feel like he is playing games and not being truthful about things. I need answers to why he is distant and if he is involved with another woman. -Antoinette
You and this man are already accustom to each others timing and this is the first thing people notice or miss. I do not feel it is another woman that caused the break up. I do feel that he is complimented by a little jealousy. The reason for the distance is that he considers his attention to you as unnecessary, and I feel this is to show you his disapproval of the break up. I strongly feel that you and he are more use to each other then you realize. There will be an opportunity to resolve your issues with each other and you and he will give a relationship another chance within the next two months.
Why has the person I love become more distant from me? I wonder if I did something wrong. Is she distant because we can't be together right now, or have I made her uncomfortable or upset her somehow? Does she love me? Is that why she's avoiding me? –Elizabeth
I do not feel that she has become so distant; it is just your life centering around her (this can be uncomfortable or smothering) she likes you for who you are. I would advise you to be yourself and when she finds the correct words she will let you know. I don’t really see that you made her uncomfortable in any way, however, some people do feel uncomfortable being the center of attention all the time or being responsible for someone elses happiness. The aspect of avoidance is used when an individual does not know how to respond to a question, and if the person continues not to know how to respond they will become distant. She does like you but everyone needs a time out for a while.
What do you see in the future for me and the guy I like? We have known each other a long time and would really like to see things work out but things keep getting in our way. Will he move closer soon? –Jennifer
At this phase of your relationship there should be an emphasis on shared experiences if the relationship is seeming stronger because of the distance and the solving of that barmier has become the main topic. Mutual experiences will create the comfort level, however, you and he both must solve your own issues and not get caught up in them. I strongly feel that you and he will become closer and a good relationship is possible. The things that are getting in your way is not the issue; it's how you resolve these things that really count. Follow your heart, and also your logic.
My husband is living with another woman but we are still married. He says he wants to be friends with benefits. I think we can reconcile our marriage and be as happy as we once were. Is he ever leaving this woman to whom he is living with and coming home to his wife and family? –Karen
First of all, your marriage is just not there, vows have been betrayed. The common image which was once there is not there anymore and that is the only way it can work. The legal aspect is also there, however, this is for your and your childrens protection in life. Contrary to what we see on TV, husbands do not usually want a divorce; they tend to want to work things out and get legally involved. I believe he is confusing you purposely; he does know you still want things to work. It takes desire from both people involved and I just do not feel that from him.
My husband and I are having martial issues. He had an affair and said it's over now. He says he loves only me. Is the affair over and will we overcome them and remain together? –Cynthia
Being that this man made the mistake of cheating, the marriage as you knew it is over. I have no doubt that he loves you but having an affair is very dangerous to all involved and causes a lot of major problems. A large percentage of men and women in prison doing hard time are there because of domestic problems. An individual needs to know when to walk away and allow others to do the same. I do not see him as repeating this mistake, however, the only way to reestablish the common image and start a new is to redo your vows in a spiritual way. I do feel this is a desire between both of you. I also see this happing around spring.
I met this guy online and he really wanted to date but at first I was unsure. Now I really like him but he has a girlfriend. The other night he told me I was his first choice the whole time and if he knew I wanted to date him, he wouldn't have dated the girl he's with now; he hasn't talked to me since then. Was he lying about me being his first choice? Should I just move on? –Emily
First of all, everybody has choices as far as relationships are concerned. I do feel that he is honest about his romantic feelings towards you, however, he is also very satisfied with having two girlfriends. I do see that this issue of choice will continue it's what is holding your situation together. I do not see him making any choices; he is a very nice person and he not only enjoys his current position in life, but he also has no desire to hurt anyones feelings. It is never a good idea to get involved with somebody that is already attached; even if the relationship is not going well. His girlfriend is the only one who is being deceived and that tells you a lot about him. It is all up to you. He will continue to pursue you, however, as I mentioned he will not make choices.
I have been alone for many years now. I am approaching 30 and I want to know when love will find me. I am tired of being lonely and I want to spend my life with someone special. –Brandy
It will occur when you are ready. I feel strongly that you, like a lot of others, have been occupied with the realities of life, work, family, finances, etc. I do also feel that someone special is thinking as you. I see your meeting each other as a result of some sort of sporting event, or a celebration associated with sports. You will like him very much and you will be able to tell that he likes you. Even though this meeting will be short, your interest in each other will continue. What I feel is good about this person is that he is a good man, and by choice and obligations he has been single for a very long time. I also see children, very happy children associated in some way.
I recently went through an abrupt breakup with no explanation. I want to know if this was the end. I felt such an intense connection with him unlike any other. I cannot get him off my mind. Do I hold on or do I move on? –Mari
You and he will see each other in passing, and I feel that you will be shocked by his non attention to the seeing of each other, you need to remember this behavior is international he intends to reenter your life when he is prepared; I feel that this was the reason for the abrupt break up. Your relationship has evolved to the next level and he is very aware of this. You and he do not see the future with out each other being there, but you do not see it in the same way. I do not feel this is an issue of love, but rather hurt feelings. Right now he is in the process of defining his feelings for you, just as you are. This man knows to keep things going he needs to provide a least the beginning of a plan or a common image of what the future holds to maintain your interest. I feel you and he will be back together very soon; within the next two months.
I've been together with my partner for almost 6 years. Are we ever going to marry and end up together? –Busisiwe
I feel strongly that this is very, very possible for one specific reason, your partner does love you. It has been a process for you to be together and will be a process to change the dynamics. I do not feel that the marriage aspect is really that important to your partner, however, you and your happiness are very important. If there are no barriers to deal with it's only the common image of the future that I do feel you have together; within three months you will be able to make plans.
Does my ex-boyfriend still love me? Will he and I reconcile and get back together? –Shanona
The affection that was once there has not gone anywhere, it is still there and always will be, however, the realities of life are constantly changing and evolving. We all tend to evolve at different speeds and in different ways and that is what I feel cased you and he to part. You will meet and talk in the future. However by that time you will feel differently, the chance to rekindle will be there and so will be the issues that caused you to part in the first place. Remember love has many levels and types to evolve takes two.
I have been talking to this girl for a short period of time but it feels like I've known her forever. We use to text each other everyday. Sometimes I would call but not that often. We even video chatted. Now we don't text at all and I really don't like talking on the phone cause I like texting better. This just started to happen. I don't know if she does not want to talk to me anymore. Is she waiting on me to make a better move? What should I do? –Kristie
Texting is fast and convenient, as is video chatting, however, they are not conducive to one-on-one relationships. There must be some sort of activity; a movie, concert, or going out to dinner together. These things will give you substance to create a good relationship (things to talk about) and also create a comfort level. If these things are not possible for some reason I do not feel things will continue. Try to remember that you have shared the same discussions and time, if you were the cause of her not communicating, you would know it. You will find that the reason has nothing to do with you; when you communicate again. This time pace yourself.
My ex's name is A and we broke up at the beginning of March because he wanted to be with another girl after being with me for almost 2 years. Since then we've hung out a few times and talked a few times over the phone and via text messaging. I'm confused about what he really wants from me. I don't know if he wants to try again or if he wants to be done for good. Do you see him coming back into my life and wanting to be with me or are he and I done for good? –Gena
Yes, I do see an attempt on his part to get close to you again, however, he is really not ready for a committed relationship. In his opinion he has tried it and could not achieve what he had envisioned. He views a relationship as difficult, so I really do not feel he is likely to want that in any relationship. Where you are concerned, you and he have gone way back to the beginning (the romantic phase) not being sure when the other will contact you or being able to get ready or prepare to see or talk to each other. The original issue will exist, evolving to the point of seeing the desired future in the same way. I do not feel that anything will go past the point of romance. My advice is to be enthusiastic about other things, at least for a while. You want to be able to see other opportunities that are passing you by because of this issue.
I've always been single and recently I have really focused my energies on opening my heart. I am ready to receive love. Last summer I had a reading and he told me that I would meet my man in some increment of 9; maybe 9 months but not 9 years, in a random encounter. It's been 9 months. I was wondering, do I need to be more proactive in my search? –Lanna
Being open and empathizing a desire to be in a successful and loving relationship is always a beginning. It is very important to see the final result when emphizing desire in prayer or deep thought and not the process of getting stronger or closer to your goal step by step. You must see yourself under a positive light; being happy, safe, and in a loving relationship. You will meet each other when neither of you are looking. You will both be very involved in the atmosphere, which will be the source of your meeting and also the source of the number 9 in some way; and this is how you will know.
I've been alone caring for my ill parents for over 10 years now. Dad died from cancer and mom is still quite ill. It feels like I may just be someone who is meant to be alone. Will I ever find that nice girl to marry and have a family together or should I get used to going through life by myself? –Sam
I personally know a lot of men and women in your position. For a relationship to work you need to be happy; where you are concerned if your mom is OK and safe you are happy. This part of you is a big compliment to your personality. You will meet several people in the next few months; one woman in particular will catch your eye and heart however it is her friend that you will be attracted to mind, body, and personality. A discussion of your common situation in life is the substance that will promote a closer situation. I suggest that you become involved in a community event or take a class that interests you. You are in a very positive cycle where new endeavors will work out for you. An opportunity for you to get exactly what you desire will come your way, now it is entirely up to you if you desire to proceed.
I'm writing to you because I'm in desperate need to hear from my ex boyfriend Mike it's been 9 months now and I miss him so much! I was wondering if you see anything that will bring us back together again. I appreciate any insight you may have. –Amanda
It has been difficult for he to stay away from you, but he feels that this is what you wanted. He does miss talking to you, and all the little things that made up you relationship. You and he shared all the same discussions, activities, and emotional situations, in other words you are working with the same memories. Around Halloween he will contact you and after a long talk you and he will give a relationship another try. You and he still have the same feelings for each other. You will also find that another perspective relationship will require a lot more clarity and effort.
After knowing him for 23 years, about 12 years ago we decided to change the dynamic of our childhood friendship. We have been dating on and off for 12 years but nothing stable. He is my best friend but we can't seem to get past a certain cycle in our lives. We can't seem to stay away from each other. We have been in other relationships when we were apart but we are drawn in a way that always brings us back. Will we ever change the dynamic to something more serious or stable? –Licette
You have with each other the type of situation that many people wish they had. You and this man have essentially been dating for a very, very long time; what I mean is that both of you have the opportunity to prepare when you do see each other; have enough money, look nice, be in a good mood etc. I feel you and he are in love with each other, you have been for a long time. I am referring to romantic love (friends with benefits) when everything is harts and flowers, kisses and hugs. When something has been working well for a long time is not the time to initiate a desired change. You both have established your own views of the future. You and he do not see the future with out each other being there, however, you do not see it in the same way. I do feel strongly that he is thinking about the same thing you are; you have shared a lot.
I know a co-worker of mine is playing me. I was told me and M were going to be more then friends someday. Is this true and when will it happen? –Savannah
That is entirely up to you and he. I feel that he is very interested in you and would like to get to know you better however; he may be a little shy. I would advise you and he to have coffee or lunch with each other. Within the next month if you and he communicate directly there is a very strong possibility you will become more then friends. However, if you and he communicate through co-workers things will backfire. One reason things will probably work is that he is available, if you are too, then a relationship can evolve.
The man I was with left me before the wedding. I feel that we were not soul mates but I am still hurt. Will I and when find love and have family? –Jelena
Even though this is very embarrassing and hurtful to you it is better that this occurred when it did and not after you were married. Being in a beneficial and loving marriage is your destiny. You are becoming more and more defined as a woman; within the next three months you will be involved in a friendship that keeps getting stronger. Within the next seven months you and he will be considering a more defined future together. I do also feel the man you were to marry will make an attempt to get close to you once again if you pay attention to him. My advice is for you to make yourself happy and do what you need to.
I've been single for a long time and am talking to a few guys. I need more romance in my life. I really just wanted to know when I would see my love life improving. These guys that I've been talking to have had been in really bad situations and don't want anything to do with their ex's and the ones I've been interested in are my past and nothing has really moved forward. So with no progress, I’ve basically ended communication with a lot of them. –Jennifer
You are a very defined woman and it is refreshing to see this. You do seem to be attracted to men who are already established themselves in one way or another. A growing relationship for you will depend on your desire to grow together, and of course a man who is available for the kind of relationship that you desire. By December you will meet someone who will capture your interest then your heart; you are going to find out that he feels the same. There will no conditions or obstacles in this perspective relationship, no preconceived notions, only the joy of being together. You will have a wonderful holiday season.
My ex and I have been off an on since we got out of high school. The longest we have been together was about 3 years. Every time we would get back together I would fall more in love with him. He is my best friend. We have known each other since third grade and he means the world to me. He has told me that he wanted to be with me and that I am all he thinks about but now he says he just loves me as a friend. Will he change and want me back and if not will I meet someone new? Also, I've tried other psychics they have told me that I will find a new love soon and that I will be making big decisions soon. I’m not sure what any of it means. I just really love him and he means the world to me we haven't seen each other in months. I just wonder if he misses me any or regrets anything. –Chelsea
He does miss you very much, however, he is trying to be honest with you. The word friendship can be very deceiving. You and he both know very well you are not just friends but using that word “friendship” really means, “Please do not ask me any questions because I don’t know what to say.” Friends do not have the right to pry into to personal questions such as where are we going as a couple, or what is the next phase. I have every confidence that you and he love each other, however you have not established a common view of the future. You need to be aware that romance and a common view of the future are different things; romance is easy and natural, reality is not as easy and takes effort to be accomplished. The only reason he left is he does not know how to continue, it is not because he lost his love for you, but he does not know where things are going. He will attempt to return to your life very shortly, within the next month.
I've been dating a man for two years and he was divorced about 10 years ago and was bitter and he says she was extremely manipulative. He left the marriage after two decades. He moved to the state where I reside because some of his immediate family is here. We met at a community function and he began to pursue me. He slowed the relationship down after a usual heavy three-month start and I just let him take his space without questions or pursuit. We have now been dating steadily but it is very slow. I only enjoy our time when he gives his time to share. I see him about once a month. I truly feel his love and he's told me of his love. Would it be possible to tell if he plans to stay in this relationship with me and if it will grow over time? Does he ever consider moving back to his home state where his children are? His daughter just graduated college and moved back there and one time when he was under stress he said that maybe he would move back to be with his children. I didn't say anything and just sort of rubbed his shoulder. I don't ask questions or seek answers because I don't ever want to pressure him. Everything with us has evolved naturally. We have the same life goals and interests. He respects me and I him. We have a great thing. It is only because he's not very present and doesn't talk about our long-term future that I am secretly hurting inside. I do desire to have the answers, but I do not want to ask. I can tell he's not the type of person to be questioned; I guess he had enough of it from his former wife. I understand it is okay to communicate gently and lovingly. He tells me I'm so strong and loving. So from your perception, is there anything you can tell me about the future? ?–Margaret
It would be wise to remember that the last person he felt in love with caused a lot of ups and downs in his life, and he did not feel that some one he was so in love with and sure about would cause him so many problems. I do not feel that he is dwelling on the last relationship or that he has any unresolved issues but it does explain his pace. He knows very well that a good and happy relationship can make a person feel wonderful in a lot of ways, however a complicated or stressful relationship can make you feel terrible and depressed. I feel strongly that you have found the new and improved version of this man. He does love you very much and he knows that you may be thinking about where things are going, so is he. I feel very sure that by Halloween he will give you a view of the future with each other. He has a strong desire to make you happy and develop a more structured and defined relationship. He is a very good man even though he may be a little cautious.
I have been going through a very rough time with romance and was wondering if you could tell me anything that might be happening in the next couple of months. I need some help to figure out my life. –Mark
Everything involved in your romantic situation revolves around opportunity; within the next four months you will have several opportunities to meet someone you like very much and that feels the same towards you. I feel that your natural pursuit of interest and joy will increase to the point of investigation and a lot of activity weather it is spirituality, engineering, or music. A very big head start in your desire is that you’re a nice person and people have a lot of fun when you’re around. The individual in your destiny is also looking for you. This person will have long flowing hair and be partial to silver jewelry. You have already entered a phase of activity and I always see this as a very good time to start anything new.
Me and my girlfriend been going out for a while and we are now expecting a baby. I just want to know will we be with each other still and will the baby be ok. –Anthony
To be very honest, these things should have been determined before a child entered the picture. This is a new experience for you both. You have now entered reality. I see the child as being very beautiful and happy (please consult your doctor about the progress) in a loving and established family. One reason I feel you and she will make a good life for your child is that you love each other and your child; as long as this is present you and she will be able to design life the way you see it. Remember that you have already started the process of being happy; you have been blessed.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years off and on. Are we soul mates or is there someone else for me? I’m so confused about our relationship. I feel he’s with me until he finds someone else especially after how our last breakup went. –Shaniece
A workable and growing relationship, or should I say common view of the future should have been established, or a least started by now. You really should not feel the way you do right now. There will be a lot of opportunities in your future to meet someone who sees life the way you do. In all reality, I do not feel that this particular relationship is going to work out for you and also for him. I feel strongly that you desire different things out of life.
I’ve known this guy for 7 years, and we have had a semi romantic relationship, since 4 years. We are very attached emotionally, (at least I am to him), and try and provide each other a lot of support. We had some issues to decide on regarding marriage, like where to live, family issues, etc., which ended up in a few arguments. Lately, another girl seems to have entered his life -someone his family found for him for an arranged marriage. I feel like he is going to be with her, because of his family's strong influence. But we still talk to each other every day and have a strong connection. Can you help me read more into this? What is the best I can do to salvage this relationship? –Laks
The plans you and he had together and, the point to which your relationship had evolved is very strong, romantic and, bonding. There is no question about your love for each other. I do feel that he will carry through with his families’ plans for him. More then any thing they want him to be happy and non-troubled in life. The people who are close to him can tell very easily if he is happy, angry, or sad. In many cultures parents do arrange or pressure their offspring to follow tradition (and it works, and most of the time needed to benefit the future of all concerned) The key to an effective marriage that succeeds is love. I feel strongly his love is with you and he is very confidant that you love him. He will attempt to continue seeing you, as he carries through with his family plan, however it will not be possible; I give the marriage only a few months, It is the spiritual aspect that must be present to hold things together and make them work effectively and I really do not feel that. You must remember it is the legal aspect of a marriage that is established for the protection of wife and children. I do feel also that the woman involved is extremely smart. My advice to you is to be the happy person that you are and try not to pressure this man or he will blame you. I do not really feel that this is an unexpected event to him; he was expecting this for a long while.
There is a man in my church who I've known for a few years. He's older than me and also married with two children. But I am very attracted to him. I have caught him looking at me, and in a group he'll make a joke with me or rather say something to me than his wife. Does he feel attracted to me in any way? Does he feel what I feel when we are close to each other? I just need to know. Will we get romantically involved in the future maybe, or soon? –Klara
There is a great compliment in your attraction to him, and believe it or not it has brought he and his wife closer. The aspect of a physical a encounter with him is not very likely. This man understands the investment of the marriage, and what makes it happy and growing is the love involved. In a very short time your attention will be focused on somebody who also feels the same way as you (one month). Please remember the best way to deal with a problem is to not put your self in that position in the first place. A lot of your feelings are based in the environment you are in and the joy that surrounds you interaction. The one in your destiny feels exactly the same way.
My ex, S, and I dated for 3 months, but broke up in April. It was a long distance relationship. He's in the navy and he just deployed today I think, I miss him terribly already and there is not a day that I don't think about him, so I wondered, will we ever get back together? –Gabriela
Yes, it is to be expected; but most importantly maintaining a pattern of contact, should be established. I feel this man is very grounded, gregarious, and noble. He does think about you always and looks forward to seeing you again. I feel strongly that he wants to be realistic in his current situation; and not looking into the future as defined or written he is focused on every day and changes as they apply to his situation in life. Where you are concerned, he holds you very dear in his hart and does intend to continue seeing you; if that is what you want. Within the next two months you will hear from him, and the communication will be very positive and joyful.
Am I going to reunite with my ex Sarah? Is she waiting for me to make the first move or does she want space before she initiates contact? –Hiuyan
I feel strongly that she is thinking about you in the same way. The thing you have in common right now is the not knowing. I advise you to initiate contact through an invitation to dinner, a concert, or may be a funny movie. Try not to look into the future too far with her, let the common image of the future evolve naturally. The common image is established through activity; the quit and romantic times will come naturally. Keep trying she does like you very, very much, and you will find this out very soon through her actions more then her words.
I really like someone and I'm not sure if he likes me back. He said he wanted to come and ask for my hands and I accepted but he is being really confusing he would talk to me than disappears for a month without telling me anything. Even if I would message him he wouldn't reply and whenever I would ask him he would tell me that he is busy. I don't understand him sometimes. Will he and I be together in the future? -Zeinab
You are dealing with a very insecure individual and this type of behavior will continue for a while. He only desires you to think about him, possibly worry a little which is the first expression of love. If you are serious about him, it is important that you and he have an accurate communication with each other. I do not feel he is hiding anything or doing anything wrong. Right now I feel strongly that he likes you as much as you like him, however, his life may be a little more complex then you realize right now. You will gain a lot of knowledge about him and other things important to you with in the next four months; I know this knowledge will benefit you greatly and shape the rest of your life.
I’ve had a friends-with-benefits type of relationship with a guy who has a girlfriend. They have been together 4 years and we have been behind her back for 2. At first it started off as fun and games but I started to develop this strong connection with him, which was strange because it was nothing more than sex, although we always kept I'm contact. There’s times when I do think about him but there’s also times when it’s much more and the thoughts of him overwhelm me to the point where I KNOW I can't be the only one feeling that way. Does he have the same feelings for me? Is the relationship holding him back? Am I just undeniably obsessed? –Leah
He has made a big mistake, what I mean is that he has fallen in love with two different women at the same time. People often get together not intending to develop realistic feelings but it happens all the time. Sex is not anything basic, the feelings that are established in the process are very real and life changing to both people concerned. You are the other woman and he wished to keep things the way they are; this works out fine for him but offers you nothing but frustration. You have bonded with him and he with you and under regular circumstances this would be wonderful, however, I must be honest with you; you will feel differently very soon, and he has entered a relationship in a completely wrong way, and it will not work. Please do not let him blame you, he is a big boy and creates his own issues.
I met a guy online in January and fell in love with him. We had, what I thought, was a great relationship for four months when all of the sudden he broke up with me. His reason for breaking up with me was strange. I then found out from a friend that he had still been on the dating site for a while after him and I were in an exclusive relationship and checked out her profile. I've just really been questioning our whole relationship. I have no idea if he was playing me for a fool the whole time or what. I'm just so confused. Can you give me some insight? –Cara
There are certain benefits to an online relationship and also drawbacks. I feel strongly that he did in fact develop realistic feelings for you however; evolving in to a full relationship is another story. One of the benefits you both experienced was the ability to open up to each other, you made each other feel very good. The detriment is that it is fairly impossible to evolve into a complete relationship at a distance. Most people online with dating sites talk or communicate with many people until that special individual enters their life. I feel what happened is he did know how to, or he felt that he could not evolve with someone at this time of his life. I do not feel that he lost his attraction to you, he only could not go beyond the stage that you and he were in. You will hear from him (if you stop trying to communicate with him) with in the next three weeks you will hear from him and he will attempt to explain his situation to you.
Is my wife going to meet a man where she works who is attracted to her and tries to have an affair with her? Will she have an affair with him and if so how log will it last? –James
You and she also know that your marriage is unhealthy at this time; what I mean is that you are both making each other feel very unhappy and uncomfortable. An affair I feel is out of the question; if your marriage does not work out she does not want to be to blame. She also knows you are very aware of her actions and timing. Most importantly I do not feel the desire to enter an affair from her. It is not to late to strengthen your marriage however; with out trust and desire it will not work out well. One thing I see in your favor is that your love for each other is still present and I do not feel you or she really wants a divorce or separation.
I would like to know if my recent partner and me will get back together. We are still friends but he doesn’t really contact me, only replies to me when I message him. We broke up a few months ago for nearly 3 months and he distanced himself from me and acted as though he was starting a new life. When he eventually admitted he still loved me and came back he said he never lost his feelings for me but just learned to control them as he wanted to create a new life for himself. We were back together for 2 weeks and now he has left again because I am, in a way, a bit controlling and angry and he said he can’t live that life after he has just built himself up. I am getting professional help with my issues and he is coming with me to sessions to help me but he is still adamant it is over for us for good. Will he come back and if so can you tell me when? –Andrew
I feel that he is trying to be honest with you. A lot of people learn early on in life that there home is there point of power; in other words if where the person lives and sleeps is stressful and uncomfortable this will effect his whole day, work, and all activities of the day. If he is in an unhealthy relationship this fact goes double. He wants you to feel better and also, feels he may be affecting you life in a negative way. You will not lose contact with each other, only taking an extended time out, he feels for the benefit of all concerned.
I haven't had any contact with my ex boyfriend for 2 years. He now as a girlfriend and even though I know this, I still find myself thinking about him all the time and still feel very strong feelings for him. I never told him my true feelings and I'm not sure if I still feel this way because I never told him or if there’s a chance he still feels strongly about me as well. Does he still feel anything for me? Has he completely moved on? –Jody
Each relationship is different. It is not common for two people to completely forget each other. Experiences, shared activities, and opening up to each other, these things lead to uniqueness in a relationship. I feel strongly that he will always hold you dear in his heart. There is no doubt that the positive memories remain and also the thought of where the relationship could have gone if things were different. I do not feel anger or frustration coming from him regarding your relationship; only a bit of disappointment. I also feel strongly that the relationship he is in now will work out, they both seem to be giving it their best; as I feel he wishes for you.
I'm looking to know how Joe really feels about me. He doesn't let me in when I ask him. Joe and I know each other through family and we had a fling about 5 years ago. I moved out of town and stopped talking to his family for a while. He said he has been searching for me and found me a few months back. We seem to be so alike in many ways but yet so different. When we are in the same room there's this HEAVY energy or connection between us. Another psychic said we are soul mates but he has a lot of negative energy blocking him and it s getting between us. I'm confused about us and starting to loose faith in him. ?–Samantha
What I feel from him is the desire for a non-complicated relationship and I really do not feel things between you and he were ever really taken seriously by earthier of you. You have both evolved and if the desire is to create a more defined relationship (I feel it is) is shared between you two, I feel you will succeed. However, if you still live at a distance this may create a barrier after a while. He has also felt the strong energy between you two. I do not feel any negative energy coming from him only a very deep consciousness of how others see him. Things between you and he will evolve to the point where you will have a more defined situation with each other with in the next three months. One thing to remember is that this man will not compete with another regarding you.
I'm almost 39 years old, single, and I’ve never been married. I work in a stressful fashion industry and rarely have time nor feel motivated to meet people due to past relationship failures. I would like to know if I'll get married one day and possibly have kids? My biological clock is ticking; it almost seems impossible to find my soul mate/true love. Please let me know where and when I should start looking for this person. ?–Nikki
Yes, I do see your destiny as being in a joyful relationship. The aspect of time and availability is an issue in almost every relationship right now in this very active world. I feel that you will meet a particular individual who is involved with the medical field and you and this man will have a strong liking and attraction to each other. However, you will find that his schedule is even more demanding then yours. Through conversation with each other you will find that his work schedule is the primary reason a past relationship did not work. This will occur around New Years day. Your complex schedules will enhance the quality of the time you do share. You as an individual will soon find that many people share your exact situation but still manage to live a very complete and pleasurable life; as is your destiny.
I am truly and fully in Love with Mark he told me today that he was having an engagement party for this women he said that he loves. He has told me three times before and they all fizzled what is going on this time. This person is almost 73 and he is only 45. Does he really love her or what. Is this so called marriage going to work out. –Sharryl
The engagement is real, it has been arranged and also well thought out. He already knows that this marriage has already started to fall apart (the vows have been broken, before they were even taken) Where you are concerned he does like you very much, but has been holding on to you for his own reasons. I feel strongly after some realistic thought you will see for your self that this is really not worth getting upset about. He is not the type of person that I see in your destiny. A lot of trouble and problems will follow this marriage. My advise to you is to let it go and move on; for you personally it would be a very wise decision.
Stephen and I were together 2 years - broke up once and then got back together. We had a big argument at Christmas and not had contact this time. Do you see us getting back in the future or has he someone else. –Deryn
He is a very friendly person and this reflects in his personality; as you he will always have friends however, I really do not see him in a romantic relationship that is not where his mind is at this time. Where you and he are concerned I do not feel a relationship ( a structured relationship) is a part of his plan as an individual. You and he both remain dear in each others harts, I do no feel that he blames you, or himself for things not working out. I also feel very strongly that in this case you and he are fully capable of becoming very good friends.
I'm in love with two guys the first guy Donyel has had my heart for years now but we are separated and working on trying again maybe then there is earl and I love him too but I can't tell if he is honest about a lot of things he tells me and I believe he still love his kids mother and can't truly move on from her. I'm confused on which guy is the one I should truly invest my heart in. Which one? –Jessica
Your best choice, if you desire would be the first man. You have invested a lot of feelings, time and a common image. But, You can not evolve with him if there is any body else in your life. The new individual and yourself have become each others counselors (some one to talk to, some one who understands) and I do not see things evolving between you two. Now if you feel you want to make a choice do so however, I really do not see the need; a committed relationship should not be a choice, under most circumstances couples arrive at that stage just by being together and bonding. If you really feel you need to chose and it is a difficult choice, remember it is a two way situation. I feel strongly that with in two months this will no longer be an issue for you.
I have a "kind of" relationship with a co-worker (boss) that is married. Neither him nor his wife is happy in this marriage but stay in it for their kids. I 100% feel he is my soul mate. I know he has strong feelings for me too but he is trying to hide/fight his feelings for me. Sometimes he is distant and other times he is very open with me. This has not been going on long but when you know you know. Do you see this being a long-term relationship between he and I? Will he get a divorce? And when do you see this happening if it will? –April
This is not a relationship it is an affair. I truly feel that he is happy with a wife and a girlfriend. Life is not easy for anyone all the time. There are ups and downs. I am positive that you both have thought about the implications with having an affair with a married man that you work with. He has already let you know that he is not going to give up his marriage, family, and everything he has worked for. Also, most importantly, this affair is not fair to you. It will lead nowhere and cause a lot of problems and disruptions in both of your lives. My advice is to end it now; even if he continues to pursue you - and he will.
I have been having trouble with my love life; it has been pretty non-existent for a long time. I try to put myself out there but nothing seems to be coming of it. It is getting very frustrating but I am trying to remain positive. Will I meet a man this year for romance and love? If you see me meeting a someone, can you tell me anything about them? I know deep down in my heart and spirit that I am ready for love, romance, all of it. I am just waiting and trying to find the guy. –Kayandra
You are the type of person that always strives to create harmony with in your family and your environment. When people speak of the woman being the queen of the castle, they were talking about you. However, it is very important for you to follow your heart and I do feel to a certain extent you have been doing just that. This will not be an issue to you by April. However, by the end of April, you will be happy but also know that a choice will be necessary to evolve in a way that appeals to you and also the man involved. Just remember to not look into the future to fast, let this common image of the future happen naturally. I do also see that your spiritual life is becoming more for filling your intuition and personal magnetism are at their peek at this time.
After 35 years of a happy, faithful, and truly loving marriage between two soul mates that shared everything, Valentines Day morning my husband left with only the clothes on his back and his briefcase never to return home. I have no idea where he lives or what has happened. I love him very much, miss him madly, and I am worried about his mental well-being, what he may be going through, what is he thinking and of course feeling. What does the future hold for us? –Glanna
First of all, it is very important that you follow traditional methods in your search. It is very odd for an individual to simply vanish. By sure to first report this to the proper authorities. The intention was to get away, however, some times things don’t work out exactly the way we would like them to. I do not feel he is in danger; but you really need to find him. If you have already checked with his family you need to do it again. I feel within three months you will know the full story; it is already on its way.
I'm in love with a guy I've been on and off talking to for almost a year now. We both started talking once we both got out of relationships and it wasn't the best timing. We argued all of the time and he confused me about how he felt so I played games that I now regret. We stopped talking for a little while and he is now talking to someone new. He's been contacting me very often recently but is giving me mixed signals. I have never been as serious about him until now. I want him back. Something tells me he does too because he always complains about the new girl and the other night we got together and talked about "us" for a while. Will we be together? If yes, when? It's making me depressed and I just want an honest answer. -Rachel
First of all you and he cannot expect each other to solve each others problems; and this goes three times regarding prior relationship problems, or should I say unresolved relationship problems. I feel that in the beginning of your relationship you and he were able to talk effectively with each other, were honest with each other about feelings and emotional conditions, and you understood each other opened up and identified with each other. I believe that the intention was not to fall in love again, but it happened, however the last impression that both of you have of love was not good and filled with uncomfortable and unresolved issues. Secondly he really would not be telling you anything about another girl friend; unless he desired you to be a little bit jealous; the reason he complains about her is to make you feel that he is ready to leave. You and he will have another chance to succeed with each other but, only one more. If you both have learned to build on new experiences, and not to dwell on past problems, you will have a very, very good chance with each other, if the past creeps up on your new relationship, or should I say is allowed to enter once again it would be a waste of time. Look forward to a nice holiday season.
I fell in love with George when I was 18. We both feel it was love at first sight. The minute we laid eyes on each other we were inseparable. He treats me like a princess and I love everything about him. However, he is in and out of jail. This leaves me heartbroken, lonely, and always in pain. Not a day goes by where I don't think about him. Will he get his life together when he comes home this time? Will our love last? He should be home within a month or two, should I stick it out or am I just going to get hurt again? I really am in love with him but at times I just feel he'll never learn and I'll be here waiting forever. I tried moving on plenty of times, but it never works out. All I want is George. I know this isn't a perfect relationship and everyone tells me I can do better, but I just can't seem to tell myself that. Is this relationship going to go anywhere or am I just wasting my time? -Maida
I really feel that is up to him; if he stops the behavior that is getting him in trouble, then I would say yes give it another chance. I feel strongly that he is pretty tired of all the problems he is going through, tired, not angry. I also feel that he knows he can not make a good life with out help or assistance of some sort. He does love you very much and is disappointed that you have seen him in the present light. His key to success is letting go of people who will distract him or get him in trouble, he has grown up and understands the seriousness of some aspects of life. You are his inspiration weather he lets you know or not. I feel you will surprised in a very good way with in the next three months.
I've been in a relationship for 6 years now I really am sick and tired of him. We never went together but now we have feelings for each other and it's real strong we're even planning things together. He wants me to come and stay with him. I think I want to be with him now. Where do I go from here? -Shalitha
You need to be honest to yourself and to him. If you really feel that he makes you feel the way that you mentioned, leave. However, don't blame him or make him feel bad. I would suggest that you have an honest talk with him, but speak from your perspective. He will not be entirely surprised, to a certain extent he expects this. Life is to short to be with someone that you really don’t want to be with. Now, this does not mean that you're cruel or insensitive, it only means that you are being honest with yourself. I do feel strongly that the process will go a lot smother then you are thinking.
I've been alone for many years caring for my very ill parents and also building my own business. It has been very hard and very lonely. Will I ever find someone to marry and have my own family with or should I just accept that I am meant to be alone? -Steve
The fact and the reality of your desire show you that your destiny is not to be alone; I know you may feel that way sometimes like we all do. To establish your own business and keep it functioning, as well as taking care of your parents is very time consuming, and I do not feel you have ever had the time to focus on personal relationships. I also feel strongly that you are drawn to assisting others to the point of self-sacrifice. You are a very caring and independent man; you have a lot to offer in a growing and happy relationship. You will meet a very nice woman with in the next couple of months; the circumstances of your meeting each other will be in your pursuit of an atmosphere that you have always found to be energizing and stimulating mind, body and spirit. I feel strongly that you will find each other to be supporting and encouraging in each of your lives. The possibility of a more serious and intense relationship will depend on common interest and a very, very, common view of a desired future; but as you she must be sure.
I have been unsuccessful in my past relationships. Just when I think I found the right man to share my life with something happens and we break up. Will I find the right man to share the rest of my life with? -Patricia
Yes, by fall you are going to meet a man with a very magnetic personality, I feel he is involved in the music industry possibly a musician. One thing that you will most likely not be too happy with is his traveling schedule, you will find that he is also very tiered of his schedule and is in the process of becoming more stable. This is a very good man who thinks of others, and has matured; the most desirable aspect of his personality is his ability to make you smile and laugh. One thing about this perspective union is that it would have no room at all for jealousy or possessiveness. You will always have many friends but this one has a very strong potential for something more. A man from your past will attempt to reenter your life, please remember that he will only waste your time, as before.
I have been in a relationship with a man for 13 years he is married but has lived apart from her and all of a sudden he calls far and few between he says he is still in love with me but yet he doesn't call and I found out he has been with someone else. Please should I just give up on us? Do you think he is still in love with me or are they just empty words? Could he just be saying that thinking that's what I want to hear? I keep telling him all I want is the truth to be honest with me. What should I do? -Bettie
It is very unlikely that he will change to much in his life, after knowing he was married (even though it was dysfunctional) you stayed with him for all that time (thirteen years), he would always be able to say that you knew his circumstances, and still chose to be with him, he has merle moved on. I do strongly feel that his marriage was and is a convenient barrier to committing too anyone else, it works for some people. After all this time the relationship should have evolved; and I do not feel it has. He does know you very well as you know him, and he does know what you want to hear. I do feel also that this man has a problem that he has never had to deal with, until now. I do not really feel it would be worth your time to pursue another relationship with him.
I've started to fall for someone I've recently met. We get along well but he's still hurt from his ex. What do I do? I think about it constantly, and if I'm not thinking about that I'm thinking about my other ex who still hates me after such a long time. What happens from here on? -Chloe
I would advise you to try to see things from a personal perspective, and also in terms of the present leading into the future. An individual cannot use the past or past experiences to judge what they want from a current relationship; do not get me wrong we must remember what led to current feelings and a situation that did not work. All relationships are different and unique. I would also advise you to move a bit slower, your current interest has not come to terms with his past, but he will. At this phase you need to avoid a relationship based on becoming each other’s counselors; it will not succeed. I feel strongly that he will accept his situation (with out regret or bargaining) within the next three months. When you become aware that the friendship makes you and also him happy, and when there is a clear positive view of a new friendship that can become something more, then it will be time to think in a more serious way; but right now is not the time, the past must be dealt with first, so it remains in the past and not interfere with the future.
I have been with the same man for 5 years and almost a year now he has been in and out of my life. Well I am now in a new relationship with a guy who I feel I can grow with, but I am not in love with him as of yet. My question is will my ex come back full force and stop being so wishy-washy or am I better off without. -Candice
Your ex is only coming back because he feels you still want him to, he definitely feels there is a chance to reunite. He is willing to meet you half way, but that’s it. Asking a person to change radicle for the sake of the relationship never works. You and your ex have the five years you were together to work with, and you have both grown and became more defined individuals. The love you once had for each other is still there, but matured; to continue and reestablish the relationship with your ex is possible but it must mature and be nurtured to work out well. If the relationship your in now was a genuine relationship, you would not be thinking the way you are. By the way you will never, never be alone; it is your destiny.
I have been divorced for many years and I have 3 grown children. Will I meet my soul mate, fall in love and get married again? -Bernadette
There will be not one, not two, but three opportunities within the next nine months. Situations of strong feelings regarding close friendships that can definitely result in something more. Someone dear to you from the past will make an attempt to contact or get closer to you, however, barriers that were present at the time may still be there. There is also an individual in your current situation who feels very, very interested in getting to know you better; now if by chance you do not feel the same, not to worry you are also going to meet an individual as a result of attending a social (possibly a religious occasion - baby shower, wedding, or the celebrating of a spiritual occasion.) You are very magnetic right now in a very positive way; it is an extremely good time to start anything new.
I have been single for over a year. There are men that approach me but they are not what I am looking for. When will I meet someone I will have a serious relationship with? -Fina
I feel strongly when you realize what a defined woman you really are and establishing a relationship is a matter of incorporation into each other lives; yours and his. The opportunity will arrive by the end of summer; however, the key to getting what you want out of a serious relationship is time. When you meet the correct person you will know it. Through bonding and spending time with each other, when you and he naturally see a common image of the future, you will be sure. By the full moon of August you view of life will be bright and very happy; this does apply to you only and not a perspective relationship. There is a man who is in love with you right now, although you have not made time to get to know each other, I feel strongly that you have a lot in common.
I have finally met the right man in my life. He has all that I ever wanted except that he is married. But he says that as soon as his daughter grows up a bit he will get a divorce. I am not the cause of his leaving his wife as he has already been living a separate life for quite sometime. I don't want to be the cause of any hurt. He and she have been living separate lives for a while. He is a good person and I truly love him. Do you see a future for us? He is the perfect man that I always dreamed I would have in my life. And while my life is not perfect either and I still have many past issues to resolve this man has brought sunshine and love into my life and he is a man of his word. What do you see for us? –Jean
He has learned about the ups and downs of any relationship, and I feel that he has pretty much gone through all the feelings that are involved in any divorce. In his eyes he has found you to be a catch, inelegant, beautiful, and available, you have brought joy and affection to this man. You and he have developed a spiritual bonding with each other, and he is aware that he needs to offer you a realistic view of the future together; if not he feels you will lose your interest. It’s understood by him that the relationship as it is, is wonderful but does require growth and nurturing. Even though this relationship is not fare to you, he does love you very much and fully intends to continue the romantic relationship. Give the situation two months and there will be a positive change, one in which there is a clear path to a future together. But remember the ultimate decision is yours and yours alone.
I'm in love with a guy I've been on and off talking to for almost a year now. We both started talking once we both got out of relationships and it wasn't the best timing. We argued all of the time and he confused me about how he felt so I played games that I now regret. We stopped talking for a little while and he is now talking to someone new. He's been contacting me very often recently but is giving me mixed signals. I have never been as serious about him until now. I want him back. Something tells me he does too because he always complains about the new girl and the other night we got together and talked about "us" for a while. Will we be together? If yes, when? It's making me depressed and I just want an honest answer. -Rachel
I truly feel that he is enjoying you defining your feelings for him (big compliment) however, a committed relationship and intense definitions of his feelings for you I feel is something he sees as easier expressed then to put into exact words; he is a fire sing (Aries); Fire and Air sings are masculine, which means they tend to express by action rather then by words. You are just about on a cusp (between) Aries and Taurus (you would be very compatible). You and this man would define a relationship just about the same way. The reason he has not made a choice in this matter is that in reality he does not feel he needs to at this point. For a genuine and growing relationship to evolve there cannot be any one else involved (third parties); or the process cannot occur, or proves to be very disappointing for all involved. I do strongly feel that with-in three months, you will receive what you want, but may not want it at that time.
I fell in love with George when I was 18. We both feel it was love at first sight. The minute we laid eyes on each other we were inseparable. He treats me like a princess I love everything about him. However, he is in and out of jail. This leaves me heartbroken, lonely, and always-in pain. Not a day goes by where I don't think about him. Will he get his life together when he comes home this time? Will our love last? He should be home within a month or two, should I stick it out or am I just going to get hurt again? I really am in love with him but at times I just feel he'll never learn and I'll be here waiting forever. I tried moving on plenty of times, but it never works out. All I want is George. I know this isn't a perfect relationship and everyone tells me I can do better, but I just can't seem to tell myself that. Is this relationship going to go anywhere or am I just wasting my time? -Maida
I feel very, very strongly that he wants to succeed but may not be able to ask for help (with the behavior that has cased problems in his life), one thing that is certain is that he loves you very much. One thing I see is that he may have a strong tenancy to bunch the stress of life altogether and feel overwhelmed by the feeling that is produced by dealing with things that way (This can be common male behavior), I feel his path is to systematically (one thing at a time) take care of things that he feels he needs to. Of course you are directly involved, weather he admits it or not you are one of his strongest motivators if not the strongest. I do see you will succeed with each other as a couple if you are realistic about the future and take life systematically.
I have been dating my boyfriend J for 2 years now I have a hard time trusting him we don't live together but I see him many days during the week & I stay overnight at his house, when we are not together I wonder if he is with someone else I asked him if he is he said no & that I have to trust him every time I feel I am on the right track with trust something happens to make me take a step back. Do u think my doubts are real? Or he has been faithful? -Reine
I feel very strongly that he tends to be very insecure where you are concerned and, to a great extent this causes you to be insecure. Generally individuals who spend this much time together really enjoy being together, as you and he. If your relationship is going to continue this insecurity must completely stop, if not your relationship will become something that is uncomfortable, and undesirable. I do not feel that he has that desire, to him your relationship has been an investment (in time, opening up, and shared feelings), he may enjoy your jealousy a bit in a way it shows you still care however taken to far it can destroy something good. By winter you will be in a structured relationship, one in which you do not want this type of insecurity to exist, it will make he and also you embarrassed by your failure, and others will feel as if you made a mistake. I know you and he will have much more enjoyable relationship when you and he are secure with each other; the love is definitely there.
I have never had any luck with my love life, and also a single mom to an awesome little girl. My baby's dad has nothing to do with her he has not seen her in two years. Just wondering if my daughter will ever have that male figure in her life? And will I find someone to grow old with? -Heather
The answer is yes; I base this on two aspects, First of all you have a very clear view of what you would like to accomplish in life (this is because you are grateful for you current situation in life) and, secondly it is your personal destiny in life to be in a committed relationship; it is what will work for you. Please understand that you are a very defined woman, and you know what works for you; and the person you have a chance with, is very much the same way. You will meet for the first time at an event that concerns your little girl, possible a school event, through discussion you will find that you and he are in similar situation in life. Your similarities will be a conduit to a very good and understanding friendship that will have a wonderful chance at becoming something a lot more.
My boyfriend of 4 years asked me to move out in September. He officially broke up with me in December and started seeing this other girl. About a few weeks ago, we met up at our gym talked, he went to Hawaii for a week, during that time he was talking to both of us, since he got back we have spend almost every day together, last Friday he went and talked to her and he told me that he didn't want to be with her the next night. I have been told that he and I are supposed to be together, that he will want me to be his girlfriend again and possibly more. I am just trying to see if this is true or not. I love him very much and we have been through a lot. I just am afraid I am going to get hurt again. -Lisa
He has already shown you how he would likely respond, and I do not feel that’s what you want, trust must be earned and this is not the way to accomplish trust. Even though you are very attracted to each other, you are not at that point. I would advise you to back up a bit and take things very slow, make sure you and he look at a committed in the same way. I do feel that you and he love each other, and every one makes mistakes the point is what they learn from the mistake. Things will be a bit distant and slow for a while, after three months he will want to do something to prove his love for you, I do feel very strongly that you will enjoy this very much.
I am 26 years old and about a year ago I left an abusive relationship after 8 years. I'm worried about not knowing if this is the right one for me. I feel that since I spent so many years in a relationship that was nothing - I missed my chance to find someone that truly loves me for who I am. I am currently in a new relationship for the past six months. The first 5 months were great! He would spend as much time with me as possible and text me throughout the day. Lately he hasn't been doing that so much. We still spend time together just not as often as I would like. I know that relationships change was you get to know someone better and I just hope that is what this is. Did I miss my opportunity because of my previous relationship or could this be the right guy for me? -Jeana
I do feel that this new man in your life could defiantly be right for you and you for him; I also feel strongly that he has been through the ups and downs that occur within relationships; as you. I would advise that you and he continue to establish positive experiences and memories. If you base your relationship on new and enjoyable experiences it will continue to grow. Neither of you can go back to the past and change circumstances, it has already occurred; nor I feel you and he are not likely to make mistakes or allow them to happen. I do know that you and he have learned and you both know what you want out of life together. The past negative relationship that you and many others were or are in should be taken as a lesson in life that is it only a lesson nothing else. The activity and descriptive terms of affection will ebb and flow, however you and the new man in your life are adapting to each other and, this is happening because you are establishing a common view of life together.
I recently met a man who was only in my life for a short period. I am currently in a long relationship (9 years) and am struggling with mixed feelings about it. I want to move on by my fears of being alone overcome anything I can do about the relationship. The man that I met stopped contacting me about a month ago with no indication as to why and I haven't tried contacting him since. I am curious as to why he quit contacting me and will I ever hear from him again. Was it just a chance meeting with him or did it mean something? -Reagen
It is because you are in a committed relationship already; to him (the new man you met) going to the next level of a relationship would be dangerous and troublesome. I do not feel that he had a relationship in mind, even though you like each other something serious is out of the question, he has no desire to be the knight in shining armor. I do strongly feel the man that you have been in a nine-year relationship with does feel as you, the emotional distance is also perceived by him. This next year will be a time of change for you and I advise you to reacquaint your self with you strength; you will succeed.
I have recently met a new romantic interest. When we met we discovered we have similar ideas and passion for a project that would enhance and improve the lives of people with Special Needs and their families. My question is what do you see as the future of our romantic as well as business relationship? Also any advice you may have for us? -Mary
It will be the love you have for each other that will create a good relationship, but it will be your common interest that will hold it together and make it work out and succeed. On T.V. and at the movies we always see opposites being attracted to each other and working out the differences together and I am positive it happens however, the true aspect is that most people are attracted to individuals that are like them selves, similar points of interest. I do feel strongly that you and your boyfriend have a good head start on a lot of relationships. There will be the opportunity for a small trip and you and he will have a wonderful time. My only advise is to bye a calendar and only use it to schedule activities that involve both of you.
My ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for nearly 3 years and I genuinely feel like we are meant to be together. I seen a psychic last year and he said we would definitely end up together but more recently I seen a psychic and his reading left me so confused. He said he's not meant for you, at that stage I got upset, it was the last thing I expected to hear, and then he said that doesn't mean you won't be together. What does this all mean? -Deborah
First of all I would advise you to look a little more deeply into the reason the relationship tends to be an on and off one. I feel very strongly that you and this man truly love each other in a very realistic way however, I also feel that you and also he are very hesitant to evolve with in the relation ship, and I do feel the reason is a desire to keep the romance going. Emerging into reality within a relationship does not mean the romance is gone, it only means that a person can not see the future with out the other person being there (I do feel that you and he are very close to that point) but not really sure if the other person sees things in the way you do. You and this man are very similar in a lot of ways. You will try one more time, to be a couple in a realistic relationship and I feel strongly this time it will work.
I hope you can help give me some peace of mind. I have married my high school sweetheart. We have been married for 38 years this June. I know that what started out as friendship with a co-worker, then an emotional marriage, now a full-fledged affair, all of these events are from 2009 to now. I know he is having a mid life crisis. My heart is broken. Everyone tells me to wait 5 years; things will change after the honeymoon phase of this disgusting relationship. Believe it or not I have learned a lot from this affair he is having about our relationship and myself. Will this relationship ever end? Will he learn from his mistakes? It pains me to think what was all of our years for? -Debra
As soon as there was any type of infidelity the marriage is over; very many people attempt to repair the damage or ignore it and this never works, the distance only increases. It does not feel to me that the desire is there and the blame game has already started. If the behavior has been present sense 2009 it would be considered an established pattern of behavior. I feel strongly that you and he would benefit from counseling, this issue runs very deep and if it is going to be resolved it will take a lot. I also feel that you and he have adapted to this behavior, and what makes thing so difficult is that you love each other more then you realize. This love must be acknowledged and right now you and he are not communicating the way you should be, this situation will improve with in the next month (communication) and this will be a start.
My partner had an emotional affair he told me she meant nothing to him; he did it to mess with her head. His actions tell me differently. He called her 92 times in nine days, sent her multiple texts, did multiple video chats in one day an also sent her multiple videos telling her he loved her, I am not understanding any of this. -Veronica
Emotional cheating is on the same level as infidelity, in other words; people will react in the same way. I feel this man is very smart and knows this type of situation has caused many divorces and separations. With in the next few weeks you and this man will find an active situation which you can do together and is very enjoyable to both of you and, I feel this endeavor will bring the excitement back into your relationship. Where the phone situation is concerned it must stop completely, or you and he are going to fail as a couple; and I do feel strongly that he is well aware of this.
My ex and I have been off and on for 10 years. Right now we aren't speaking. Will he come back into my life? And will we end up together or is it time I move on? –Lindsay
It is really that easy to as most say; move on. Even though this relationship would be considered dysfunctional, it is true that you do love each other and whenever this is the case there is always a chance. My feeling is that you and he have gone through this over and over (Negative attention is sometimes better then no communication at all). You and he both have the desire to be happy with each other and your relationship. There is the possibility of you two having a fulfilling and enjoyable relationship, if the way you communicate is changed. It took a long time for the uncomfortable pattern of your communication to take hold, and it will take a while for this pattern to change, but it will. This must be a desire of both of you; and I feel strongly it is.
My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. He thinks that it won't workout cause he can't give me the things that I want and has a job that means he will be away for months. He thinks I won't be able to handle it. Why do I have a feeling that he will come back and that we are meant to be together? It confuses me is why would I spiritually feel we have an infinite bond and that we will spend our lives together as partners? –Louise
People who must travel or be away from home for the sake of there career learn very soon that distance is not real good for a relationship, it tends to cause problems, unless the relationship is very defined and secure. He is thinking in terms that most men do, financially and in a very real way he is right; an individual cannot move forward in a relationship when money is a concern. You are also right if you really love each other you can work it out. I would advise you and he to create what you want, it is possible, with effort and patience. Infidelity used to be the biggest reason for separation or divorce. For around the last fifteen years or so it has been money and financial stress. I feel positive that you and he will stay together.
In November of 2012 I met this guy on a dating website. We met after about a month of talking. We hit it off right away. We continued dating and he was really into me, however for about a week already he had been acting different with me, when I asked him what was wrong he would say that nothing was wrong. I haven't talked to him since Thursday Feb.7th.He hasn't contacted me and I haven't tried contacting him either. What should I do and or what is going on with him? –Maria
I do not feel any thing is wrong with him, he is defining your relationship and feeling you are a bit inaccessible however this is very common in relationships that began on line. It is very easy to build your self up, and people do this so they are more appealing to the person that they are communicating with. I know this man wants to impress you. Being that you have not talked or him giving a reason for his behavior, is showing me that he is doing this intentionally, for the reason of keeping your attention and creating a concern. I feel you can maintain your perspective relationship, I would advise that you and he move a lot slower. I do not feel that he felt things would develop so quickly and the reality has taken him by surprise, it’s really not about anything personal that has do with you. I sense that he is concerned about things continuing between you and he. Give the situation a little time.
I have been single going 4 years now and raising four children. I don't socialize much because I don't have the time. I have had my fortune told that I would soon meet someone. I have been waiting and waiting. I am however beginning to have feelings for a co-worker of mine. He's a very nice man, makes me laugh, and so on. But. I don't know if he feels the same way about me...he kind of hints it at times but I'm not sure if he has anyone in his life at the moment. I would like to know how he feels about me? –Jacqueline
You have just started to enter a cycle where things that have a deep meaning to you will become more and more lucid; clarity has only started (this will increase within the next few months), in other words your intuition is correct. I feel very strongly that this man sees the situation as you do; although you will find men with an out standing sense of humor posses two traits, first of all shyness in romance and secondly the desire to see you smile. Being that this man is a co-worker he will not approach you until he is positive that his efforts to become a closer friend are assured; he seems to be extremely conscious about how others see him (mostly in the work place), with understandable reason. You and he will succeed in becoming closer friends and the possibility of you and this man developing a relationship that works is extremely likely, if you pace your selves. As I mentioned, your intuition about the situation is accurate.
A couple years ago my common law cheated on me. He was sleeping with my mother. They both deny it to this day but I heard them with my own ears and just put two and two together. I want to know is he still communicating with her? Or does he have feelings for her? -Jolene
According to my strongest feeling I would half to say two things: The situation has not progressed to the point you see in your thoughts; secondly the marriage is over. A marriage cannot exist with an over whelming feeling of suspicion; you are suspicious of his fidelity; he is suspicious of what your next move may be. The fact of the infidelity (with your mother) I know is extremely difficult for you; try to remember you had nothing to do with this gigantic mistake (it is a big one), if you try to repair the situation it will create frustration on your part, because you are not the cause or source. If all concerned are willing things can work relationship wise; however all must be involved and willing. The difficult thing is to try to create a situation where everyone understands where you are coming from; you need not try so hard, every one concerned is well aware of your disappointment. The aspect of feelings are not relevant to the situation (what has happened has happened); The marriage is not really there (it must be recreated), as far as your relationship with your mother, the trust is gone and this is very, very important because trust is the corner stone to any relationship (with family its supposed to be natural).
I am in a relationship with my high school boyfriend. We were married very young and divorced. Now we are able to be the way it should of been long ago. He had a very bad marriage and divorce. Will we remarry? Or at least get engaged. I know he says he has always loved me and I was his true love but why should he be afraid? -Kathie
You and also he are very aware of how powerful and life encompassing a serious relationship can be. The memories you and he have of each other are very colorful and emotional; you both realize that the feelings at that time were strong and even though the feelings seemed complex at the time, now they go back to a simpler and less complicated time of your lives. All involved in a divorce pay a price in one way or another and this is one reason people want to be sure; no body wants to repeat mistakes and we as human beings learn and retain knowledge. Bad marriages are unfortunately, very common to our society and can be expensive, financially, spiritually, and psychologically. I do feel that a committed relationship is where things are headed and you and he have a good head start, in memories of being together and how the real world works. Congratulations.
Will I ever talk to my old friend C? I haven't talked to him in a year and I miss him so much. I fell in love with him. I want to know if we will ever talk again. Sometimes I feel like were meant to be. -Jessie
Yes, you will run into each other at a market and meet with smiles and great joy. Through conversation with him you will find that he has progressed in life but also has made costly misjudgements (as we all do at some time); he is currently paying the price of mistakes. You will also find that you and he still have a never ending ability to understand each other. You will find the feelings are still present and he thinks about you often.
My fiancé and I got into an argument and he stopped talking to me. I was frustrated so I told him I was letting go. It has now been a week and I miss him whole heartedly. Last night we kind of talked but not about what happened and then I asked him if he was thinking about dating other women & said he didn't know. I don't want this to happen. Do you see us reconciling and becoming a couple again or am I just holding out hope? -Catherine
He is just as disappointed about what happened as you are. I do not feel that he is really interested in another relationship at this time. Relationships take a lot out of a person, just as a healthy relationship will motivate an individual, a relationship gone bad is a very draining and depressing thing; no he does not want to go through that again. You would be able to reestablish the friendship again, as far as re-establishing the engagement or getting back to that point will take some time. I do feel strongly that it is possible. What he is doing right now is defining his feelings for you and trying to put things into perspective.
I'm in a relationship with someone. I'm seventeen years older than him he is still married but told me he is getting a divorce. My question is; will he ever move in with me and will we finally have a life together? It's been a year now. -Christina
People will often find each other for a lot of different reasons, however, I do not feel that his marriage is as bad as he makes it sound. All that is occurring within his marriage is the reality which in most cases makes a marriage stronger. All married men that want an affair will say that their marriage is failing; this is text book. Just because an individual feels like divorcing does not mean it is easy, does he have children? Does he own his home? Does she? Bank accounts, bills, and families opinion. You and this man will find each other in the future but right now it would not be wise for earthier of you.
After breaking up with my boyfriend a year ago, I haven't had the energy or desire, really, to "get back out there." Should I even bother to try? -Pam
When couples break up in a long-term relationship or a divorce, they will go through the same symptoms as when somebody close to you passes away, and it is only time that in most cases works to an extent. Once couples bond in a realistic way, as you and he; the first thing most people miss or notice first is the absence of pattern and routine of their behavior (calling at a certain time of the day or night, patterns of dating or social activity etc.) When love is going well it creates happiness and makes a person look better, feel better, and creates beneficial chemicals in our body that makes us feel good mind, body, and spirit. When love does not go well or hurts our body creates negative chemicals; that is why a lot of people literally feel sick, do not look as good, and become psychologically and spiritually depressed (this is the reason that relationships should be happy; because relationships effect us in a very major way, a very serious way. With in the next three months you will make a wonderful friend, and this friendship will be based on mutual interest in an endeavor you had put off a long time ago, you will find an inner strength and grow as an individual. Give it a little time, things will get better very quickly.
I love someone but he is now married. I feel a soul mate connection with him. I would like to know what he currently feels for me. Will he and I be together again? What is our future? Is there a way? -Catherine
It is great to be in love but in all honesty, you and he made a big mistake; he does have strong feelings for you, and you may call this love, however, he loves his wife and family very much and would not be willing to lose everything, he would already be feeling the guilt. This man will make an attempt to get close to you again, I feel in about a month. But you see to evolve in a relationship both people must be single, if not it will not work. A relationship with a married man is really not your destiny. You destiny is to give your love to someone who can give love back, with out conditions or barriers. I do feel strongly that you are a natural heeler, but please use this gift to create; it is not in your destiny to do anything harmful to yourself or any living entity.
I have been dating this guy for 3 months now. I am confused. Sometimes I feel he is the one, other times I don't know. He seems serious but I don't think I am a good judge, I have seen people change drastically. I guess I have baggage from my past that is inhibiting me or is it my intuition cannot tell. I do love this man and feel strange bonding and comfort with him. Is he the one? Am I going to marry him this year? -Niharika
You have entered reality and so has he, after only three months this is very fast. He is also starting to think in the same way. First of all you are right the past must be remembered, or else an individual is caught up in a process that interferes with a happy image of life. The greatest people in life have made mistakes; it is part of being human. I do feel that you and he will evolve in your relationship and that you and also he are mature enough to make things work out. My advise to you is to let yourself love and follow your intuition, you are on a very workable and grounded path with each other; just remember not to let disappointment from the past interfere with your future. To love another is all about the things that you and he create together; I do not feel that you will make mistakes or allow them to occur, because you will see these things before thy happen and this is your gift.
I've been in a relationship with a guy I met online on a dating website. I really believe myself to be in love with him. We've been seeing each other since May of 2012. When we met he let me know he was going through a divorce. I even met her and his son on our first date. He is a kind and gentle man and I feel strongly for him, I'm sure I love him, but it seems he keeps me at a distance. We have been through a lot in the past 9 months. I want to be with him but he keeps me at a distance. I wonder if he loves me and if we have a future together. -Latasha
As your relationship progresses, you will both find more and more time with each other. I feel that he is also developing a strong attachment and great affection towards you. The love is there and growing although, I also feel that this man takes being in a committed relationship very seriously (love can be great and also hurt a great deal) he is making sure that things flow smoothly and consistently. You and this man are evolving with in your relationship and this includes a respect and enthusiasm for reality. I advise you to create what you want; a this point I would advise special occasions such as concerts, games, and memories that are mutually enjoyable. It is that active process that creates this image or guide that will establish more security within the relationship, or a more defined image of the future. If he seems distant it is because he is in the process of defining your situation with each other. He is very happy with you and wants you to feel the same.
G and I have been together for over a year now. We are co-workers at the same employer and are both married. He has told me that his marriage is not happy and hasn't been in many years. It is the same situation for me. His wife found out about us a few months ago and ever since he has been pulling away from me. He tells me that he loves me and that he doesn't want to lose me. Will he ever get the courage to leave his wife and will we have a good life and relationship together? -Nikki
Love is great but it does not pay the bills. His wife is nobodies fool and he knows that. They were having communication issues, which most of the time can be worked out, but now it's evolved into infidelity, which is serious. I feel that you will be together one day but it will not be easy. He has only started to see and feel the consequences of his actions, and this will only become more confrontational and a big problem in reality. Now, I have not mentioned the pressure you are going through; unfortunately it will also grow. The next few months are going to be very turbulent for both of you, and some things are better dealt with alone. It is very different being married rather than just dating, legally, financially and spiritually. For all intent your and his marriages are over; but I do see after the storm you and he will find each other. By the way, he is also very, very concerned about his reputation, and how other people see him. He really does not want to be the bad person, and right now he does feel that he is.
In the first week of March 2012 I walked away from my relationship I had been in for 25 years. This has been very difficult for me and letting him go completely has been worse. I feel like I made the right choice but there’s a part of me that is questioning it. Did I make the right decision or should I give this relationship another chance? If he is not my soul mate, will I ever have true love? -Michelle
Marriages are about the process of life, sharing, and being good to each other. Essentially what you are going through is a committed relationship; not just dating for 25 years. If you needed to leave because of a realistic problem I do feel you did the right thing. If you and this man can't resolve issues after 25 years you most likely never will. It is not easy being single after a long-term relationship; there is a sense of relief getting out of a dysfunctional relationship but a lot of times the benefits out weigh the stress involved. He will continue to pursue you and you will feel pressured. Through meditation and prayer you will find the strength to succeed and through positive activity you will bring your image to fruition. There is no doubt that he misses you and you him, however, we all need time to define ourselves and reinforce our inner power. This process cannot be rushed or forced, but you are getting closer to your goal with each step you take and stronger and stronger with each passing day. I do feel the relationship is no longer strong enough to hold things together and make it work out well.
I met this younger girl by the name of Missy. I like her a lot but I think she is living with somebody. I think this person she is with is very controlling and they get into fights. Is she involved with drugs? Will they break up? I like her but not sure this is the one for me. Please let me know what the future holds. -Bob
What the future holds according to present circumstances is a giant leap into reality. You should be very sure or aware of the consequences of a relationship with an individual who really needs a knight in shining armor. I understand that you want to be there for her and show your affection, but she is in a committed relationship, no matter what the condition. Also remember she's an adult and she makes her own decisions. The mixture of drugs and fights never turn out well; right now you and she have opened up to each other and that really feels good, but please do not confuse this with romantic love, it's not. You do care for each other very much, however, I feel you must allow her to take care of her own problems. Be a support system for her but that’s it for now. The romantic situation that you envision will not occur under present conditions. I feel strongly that by this time next year circumstances will be different and you will have your chance to pursue a more enjoyable relationship with her.
I've been writing on internet to a guy and he and I have professed our love for each other. He tells me that he wants us to be together when he comes back to the states for good. He is pretty highly ranked. He says things and I’ve believed him, he's a Taurus and I just need to know is it all for real with him and will we be together forever like we planned? I really do love him and can't quit thinking about him. Please tell me some good news for a change. -LaWanda
I do feel strongly that he is honest with you, however, just like you he has not really opened up yet. Going through with your plans together may be a bit more difficult then he is admitting at this point. Where you and he are in this perspective relationship is really where you and he are supposed to be; eighty percent (if not more) of your perceptions of each other will be made when you meet face to face. I would suggest that when you first meet, you and he meet in an active environment (active restaurant, concert, or maybe a family occasion if you feel comfortable with that) you and he will establish your comfort level in this sort of atmosphere very quickly. Your perceptions are very accurate, however, it is very easy to touch your heart.
It's been a month since me and my now ex have been broken up. He just ended everything out of nowhere and I am beyond confused and very hurt. Can you please give me a better understanding of why he ended things and how he is feeling? And also, if we are going to get back together? -Alyssa
If you are looking at this situation from your own perspective (what else can you do right now) you would be misinformed, the primary reason is not within your knowledge right now. This man cares for you a lot more then you realize and will definitely attempt to contact you; right now he is not sure if you are sad, however, he knows you are angry. He is not real sure about anything else right now. He does not have a plan of action right now. Our past always plays a great role in our life and one way or another we must deal with things that we put off, and this is all I perceive. Please do not feel that he is going through an unresolvable crisis; he is not. You will be informed by him very soon. This man knows that you will not wait forever and he waits to long to contact you, your heart will no longer except him.
I have been in love with someone for over 20 years. At one point he said he cared this way for me as well, but then life happened and we were apart. He was with someone else and I was with someone, but I have always secretly longed to be with him. I want to know if it is possible that he may feel the same way about me still?
The feelings between you and him are deep and extremely romantic. I feel you hold each other in a very special way. You and he have established a spiritual bonding with each other; you will always remember each other as a wonderful part of the past. You will have an opportunity to meet and talk and you and he also he will be happy and positive about the meeting, but that’s all. You both have moved on in life but will always care about each other and hope for the best for each other. As far as getting back together and trying things again; I feel neither one of you feel that way.
I'm looking to know if me and this guy have true love with each other. Is he the guy that direct messages me on FB under a different name or is it a relative of his? Are we going to end up in a life-long relationship? He really captivates me. Or maybe im going crazy or something! -Nikki
Yes I do feel strongly that he does have a direct connection to the messages (either himself or a friend); you interest in each other is mutual, and I defiantly feel this perspective relationship has a lot of potential. I do not perceive any barriers except the obviously the distance, and if that is not an overwhelming problem, there should be no problem in you and he becoming close friends. The only thing that can interfere with the progress is any type of jealousy, possessiveness or control. In other words; if you and he are secure with yourselves, I do see a lot of possibilities. The next four months will be extremely important.
I've met someone of whom I felt an instant connection; the kind you hear about, but don't believe happen. He feels the same way too. We know and understand things about each other without ever having to say a word. I've never experienced this before and neither has he. Suddenly he has pulled back and I'm hurt and confused. I really feel a connection and so does he. He's a Cancer by the way. He keeps saying he's not shutting me out, and I hope he's not, I just need to know if I'm spinning my wheels waiting for him to decide if he really wants me in his life. I feel like he's afraid of the connection he feels. He said he gets too emotionally attached, which made me laugh because I'm a Pisces; emotionally attached to everything! My heart is breaking! What do I need to do to prevent him from running, when I know in my soul, he is the one I'm suppose to be with? Please guide me to do what's best for us. -Adrienne
Cancer behavior is the most difficult of all the sings to figure out, but you being a Pisces woman, you only need to look within yourself to find this answer. He is not shutting you out, he is only being himself; some people like their privacy and enjoy being and spending time alone just as for no obvious reason he will want to be very active and gregarious, for no particular reason you are exactly the same way but no so often. Rather then analyzing each others behavior (which can go on and on) I advise you and he to create what you want, but base it on enjoyable experiences with each other; you and this man have so much in common that if you and he are available to each other, you will establish a common view of the future very quickly and with minimal effort. At this point have fun and the future will design itself. I would be extremely surprised if it did not work out, successfully.
Will me and my husband get back together soon and will he fall in love with me again? -Kesha
It is not probable, however, the opportunity will arrive. In the very beginning you and he took the time and interest in each other and the affection grew to the point of both of you seeing that you could achieve more of what you want out of life easier as a couple then individually; and this process is termed; establishing a common view or image of the future. You and he did the right thing, no matter how things turned out. Establishing a committed relationship is a bit more difficult and the process itself takes effort and desire. In the beginning, it's easy, enjoyable, and natural, as we continue our path in life, these things are possible but take more effort to achieve, but it is the power and feeling of positive love that guides a couple through this process. This man will always love you, as you will always love him. You and he have become disillusioned with each other and lost the desire to maintain the common image that created your relationship in the first place. In my opinion, as a couple you and he both have moved on and become more defined as individuals, the interest must be reestablished, you and he both found that you can survive, and flourish with out an active relationship. The common image of the future must also be reestablished and I feel you and he just do not want to try hard enough or give enough effort to the process. When love is involved anything is possible but that does not mean it will be easy. You will only have one opportunity to try again and this will occur around the end of summer.
There is this girl that I am truly in love with and want to be in a relationship with, however, she just wants to be friends right now. We consider each other to be the others best friend. I feel like she has feelings for me too but she has a lot on her plate now and is just too busy to get into a relationship now. Do you see that as a possibility and do you think that we will get in a relationship in the future? We talk on the phone almost every day and hang out at least once or twice every week. I feel like there is a possibility for a relationship but I'm not sure. What do you think? -Matthew
A lot of friendships can be stronger than romantic relationships, however, I feel this friendship can evolve into something more. The process has already started and the reason I feel this so strongly about this is because she also has considered this possibility. Most women are raised being able to open up to other women, friends, relatives, sisters, etc. and in a vast majority of situations this lasts throughout life; men are not traditionally open in that way, the process has only recently started to change, in other words women are usually better at making friends then men. If your friendship is to evolve into something else, I feel it should occur sooner than later, you and she have already established a comfort level and have an excellent ability to communicate with each other, and I do feel that you should let her know how you feel towards her if you are comfortable doing this right now (she already is expecting this). She is being honest with you about how she views her current situation in life and I do see you both becoming closer. Keep in mind though, most friendships last a lot longer then most relationships these days.
I have been with my husband for 17 years. We have been married for four years. I am wondering if you see this relationship lasting and if you see it to be a healthy one. I have always wondered in the back of my mind if he has cheated on me and I need some closure. Will he ever do right by me? Will he ever get a stable job and be responsible? Or is it time for me to move on? If so, will I just be alone for the rest of my life? Or is there someone out there waiting for me? Also, I have been debating on making a move back home. Should I go or should I stay here with my husband? I am so confused. -Susan
I feel very strongly that you should have covered these issues before you and he entered a marriage; however, seventeen years is a testament to your love for each other. He is a good person and so are you. The slump or worries about cheating are baseless, I feel that he does not want to go in that direction. When the stresses of life creep up on us, as they do, it is the love for each other that pulls us through. My advise to you is to follow your heart; but give the marriage another chance, it is well worth your time. I can see that there will be a renewal of your affection, however, this will occur faster if you and he put some enjoyment and fun into your marriage. I also feel that you miss each others company. By the end of spring you and he will be back on track and deeply involved in a common situation or project; and this will bring you and he a lot of joy.
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