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From an early age James has been aware of the energy and feelings of others, the first aspect of being an intuitive. The powers were so strong it prompted him to be of service to others. Through 33 years of practice and professional study he has the ability to guide people through the paths of their lives, the ups and downs, the realistic issues, surrounding relationships and love, career, money and spirituality. His techniques include clairvoyance, tarot, astrology and Native American totems and animal guides. He looks forward to speaking to you soon so that you may begin your path to insight.

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Love Questions: Posted May 21st, 2012

Dear James,
A year ago my ex left me for someone else, and has not been in context with me. I found another man who makes me happy, but what I do not understand is why he left me? Will he and I ever talk? - E.B. ??

This feeling of not knowing why, or not understanding completely is usually caused intentionally as a result of the individuals desire to keep the situation ongoing (or not establishing closure), this only shows you he really does not hold you responsible, but it also shows that you were really not the reason why it did not work. I feel strongly that he is still holding to a lot of unresolved guilt about this break up, he more then any thing knows he let you down. You and he will talk again, but not any time soon. He feels more confused then you. Some times there is not a conscious reason but only feeling, being that he left or I should say you and he brook up, He would be going through the whole spectrum of loss (and this is not a good feeling) Attempting to be close friends, to him would be an insult (he felt that you would fall apart). Some times space between two people is not only right, it is necessary.?- James

?Dear James,
My Ex and I broke up about 7 months ago. We were so in love during the relationship, and he claims he still loves me. I've been waiting and hoping he will come back, but right now I'm confused. I believe he is my soul mate and has everything I want in a guy. He is the perfect guy for me. Will we get a chance to get back together or should I keep trying to move on? - C.C.

??Just like entering a formally committed relationship both people must agree on their situation, and their harts must be in sync for things to work out correctly. I truly feel that he intends to make an appearance in your life, but he is not ready for a serious relationship, nor do I feel you are (With each other). You and he have a lot to talk about (first of all the reason for the disappearance) I do feel that you and he can succeed, but It would take some time to make it work. He does love you, but he also has some personal issues he needs to deal with first. There is not to much to do but wait until you receive information from him, as to what is going on in his life; but until this occurs (within three months) do not let this interfere with your life, I advise you to carry on, and be the positive and happy person you are. ?- James?

Dear James,
Do you see me getting back together with a boyfriend from my past if so how will it work out and will it last and also do you see me in a long term relationship. - T.S. ??

You and he both have gone through changes and matured more in the way you look at life and relationships. He has wonderful memories of your time together, and does hope you have done well in life. Certain songs and TV shows remind him of you, and this makes him smile. You and he will always have good memories of the time you shared, and one day will communicate, however you both will be in happy and growing relationships, which will make you both happy. There is a wonderful chance that you and he can be very good friends but I don’t see another romantic relationship developing. As far as you being in a long-term relationship with some one, yes. For you a long term and loving relationship is your destiny, and will occur before winter.?- James

Love Questions: Posted May 14th, 2012

Dear James,
My partner and I of 8 years split up 5 months ago. Since then she has gone back to an ex of hers, a month after we split up, there has been very limited contact between us, I had a mini breakdown while we were together and stopped showing her affection etc, I would like to know how she feels about me and whether we will get back together again. - S.H.

I feel that she still has the same affection for you that she has always has had for you, however I also sense a great deal of worry and disappointment. She feels not a sense of guilt about what has occurred, but a feeling that she may have had some thing to do with the breakdown, indirectly. You and she have been a couple for a very long time and have went through a lot together, shared experiences, shared feelings, and shared vision of the future. What was happening to you scared her, and she was experiencing a great feeling of being powerless to do anything to help the condition, and after a while she began to feel as if her presence was complicating the condition. I know she would be very happy to hear that you are feeling better, but she would also know how deep the feelings with in you are. Feelings with in her are also very strong, but as with you things between you and she are extremely confusing. You and she will find the occasion to talk by the end of summer, and this discussion will clear up most of your questions regarding each other. I know there is a very good chance you and she, will try again.
- James

Dear James,
I recently took a long-awaited trip to Miami for the purpose of visiting an ex. This man and I dated twelve years ago, and after a period of separation and no contact have over the past nine years become very good and dear friends. During my time with him he spoke of plans for the future that included both of us - and I find myself curious as to how to proceed as I have loved this man deeply for quite some time and truly desire to develop a new and long-term relationship as romantic and life partners. Your advice would be greatly appreciated. - S.T.

I have extremely good feelings regarding this perspective relationship. He has a lot of positive plans and very happy and honest affection for you, and if you share his image, that is great. However if you feel the need to be a part of the process, you need to start right now. What happens in most cases is that two people establish a common image of there future together, and I feel you and he have accomplished this to an extent. The desire and plans of the future have been introduced; the next few months will be all about incorporating into each other’s lives. I feel that you can take this man at his word; he is being truthful about his feelings for you. You have a very big head start on a pleasurable and growing life together.
- James

Dear James,
I have feelings for a man that says he wants to be friends, but when we are together it feels like we're more. I'm trying my best to accept this. We are so compatible in many ways and I believe we both truly care for each other. We've both been through a lot these past few years and it seems that our timing is always off. I'd like to know if he’d ever change his mind. Are we ever going to be more than friends and have a committed relationship? - B.

His view and image of a committed relationship is not real good right now, for the reason of hurt feelings that are involved. Words carry a great deal of power; when an individual is in an acknowledged friend ship it prevents the issue of where is our relationship going. Friends really do not have the right to ask personal questions. You know and he knows very well that you are a lot more then friends, but right now looking to far into the future intimidates him. I feel that your relationship needs more definition and more time to evolve. With more bonding and shared experiences he will feel more comfortable and positive about the future and of course, that will include you, If that is what you want.
- James

Love Questions: Posted May 7th, 2012

Dear James,
I believe I have met my soul mate however I’m feeling some distance between us right now that seems like he's pulling away instead of getting closer to making a decision for us to be together. I know I idealize the relationship and now am wondering if we're together will it be a loving, committed relationship. What are your thoughts? -M.O.

I feel strongly that the reason for his supposed distance is that he is very much realizing the same thing that you are; that you have established a very strong and growing relationship with each other. His thoughts right now are that he has achieved something that met everything to him, being with you. He is also very satisfied and feels very good in the knowledge and assurance that you also feel the same towards him. At this time, his thoughts about the future include you; he is wondering where things will go and, how to proceed with the relationship. What you are picking up is contemplation and deep thought, not emotional distance. People in relationships will a lot times come to the realization that the object of there affection feels the same towards them, and most of the time (as in your case) it makes a person feel very good and content; which I do know he feels towards you. He does not see the future with out you being there, and this is what people call being in love.
- James

Dear James,
I'm wondering what will happen with B. and I? How does he feel? I am so confused about what he wants from me. I like him so much, my feelings towards him are unconditional and I don't understand why when he hasn't showed me the same up until this point, but at the same time, he keeps coming back. What will happen with us? A.

This man is use to the dating aspect of your relationship, what I mean exactly is the wondering and anticipation of what may occur. In the dating phase, a person is very much concerned about making a good impression, looking good, being in a positive mood, and being able to prepare to see the person that you’re interested in. This is the phase in which a man usually wants to be the knight in shining armor; impressive and admirable in all ways, there is nothing wrong with this in fact its rather romantic. A couple will move into reality sometimes at a different pace. Where you and he are concerned, I feel that his behavior will become more consistent and dependable about where your relationship is right now and where he would like it to go within the next two months. The only thing he knows right now is that he loves you and wants to maintain the relationship. You make this man very happy.
- James

Dear James,
I can't seem to let go of a past lover. I miss him dearly. I pray for him daily. My heart hurts for him. Did I mean as much to him as he means to me? The connection we shared for a period of time was amazing. Will he ever come back into my life? Does he think of me and did I mean something to him. How do I let go? Does he know the pain I am feeling? I really think I feel Love: with this man. - M.

Love and attachment are very complex emotions and sometimes remain with us through out our lives. I sense that this man misses you as much as you miss him. Many times the intensity of an emotional encounter with another is beyond description. When life is so satisfying in the moment, we sometimes for a while forget about the realities of life. I feel your time together was extremely special for him as well. Some important and serious event has been going on in his world; he has been and will continue to deal with it. I feel this was the primary reason for the relationship not continuing. In his world, there is nobody who knows about you and him, your time together will remain a wonderful experience to him. Within the next six months, you and he will connect with each other, and you will understand with more clarity what exactly is going on.
- James

Love Questions: Posted April 29th, 2012

Dear James,
My boyfriend and I get along very well, every once in a while we get in a little argument. He says we get along more than anyone else he's ever been with and he treats me very good. I have not had a lot of relationship experience but I feel like he’s the one. Could it be meant to be? - M.

I feel very strongly that you and he were destined to meet. What you and he do to bond with each other, the shared experiences, established and on going memories, positive and mutual activities that create a common image of the future are entirely up to you and he. In the case of what is called a Spiritual relationship there is many times the desire to reinforce and commemorate the bonding process; mentally, physically and spiritually. I sense that you and he are very enamored with each other and I advise you and he to enjoy and allow your relationship to evolve naturally; and I can see this is already happening, you do feel the same way about each other and this will continue.
- James

Dear James,
I was in a relationship that was going good until the ex-girl put herself into the picture. We broke up then a few weeks later we started talking again and things were going good with our talks and we are trying to move forward, and then he just stopped answering my phone calls and texts. Shortly after our talks picked back up again. James, I love this man. I want to know if we will be moving forward this year, and live together as in a union, we have talked about marriage before and were working on that. - R.

If this man is so easily swayed by his ex girlfriend, this is definitely not the time to make a major commitment. I have had hundreds of clients that will feel a marriage or having a child will make a relationship stronger and easier; this assumption is WRONG, it never works. A marriage and children are joyful but very difficult. If you and this man agree on an attempt at a committed sort of relationship I do feel you love each other enough to succeeded, however, all issues with ex girlfriends or boyfriends must be resolved or let go completely. If you and he both are in harmony on this issue things look very bright. I do not feel that he is still pursuing her or in love with her in an unresolved way, only going through the after effects of an unhealthy relationship, which he has no real desire to return to
- James

Dear James,
In June 2011, the love of my life broke up with me. During the almost 5 years that we were together, he would be so loving, and we had planned our future together. I feel strongly in my heart, that we will reunite. I am wondering if you see this in my future. Thank you very much. M.S.

You and he have established a spiritual bonding with each other; I feel this very strongly. The circumstances of reality, and how an individual handles stress and changes in life sometimes get in the way of our image of an ideal relationship or marriage. When certain problems arise, a couple can tackle issues together or on a personal level; he chose to deal with issues on a personal level. He is seceding, however, still involved in the process it self. You and he will interact at times of your lives, and the friendship will intensify, however, a growing healthy romantic relationship would still experience the same barriers
- James

Love Questions: Posted April 23rd, 2012

Dear James, Will I ever have a committed relationship with J or will we just remain friends? Is there someone else that he is more interested in? I need to know the truth. - R.H.

This man J, feels that he can talk to you like no other. He also is very aware of the perceived connection between you. However, I do not feel he is aware of the intensity of your feelings toward him. You and he have started your friendship by supporting each other through an important issue; the issue is now dealt with. In my opinion, what is needed in this relationship is more focus on more colorful and unique experiences with each other, and I do feel very strongly that he is thinking in this direction. I will be very honest with you; it is difficult going from acknowledged friendship to acknowledged romantic relationship; however in your and his case it is entirely possible. Things between you and he will be more defined by the end of spring. - James

Dear James, My ex broke up with me 3 months ago for unknown reasons. We dated for 8 months & were serious about each other. He has cut off all communication w/me & tells people he broke up w/me because I’m a fake/liar. He doesn't look at me when I'm in his presence and told me he doesn't love me. Will we reconcile or talk again, if so when? - A.B.

This man while nice has a possessive streak. The reason you do not know what happened is because the primary cause is something you have nothing to do with; and I my personal opinion, It is best un-pursued, left as is for the time being. You and he are both very good people and it would be wise to be casual and friendly with each other at this time. He is extremely aware that you are wondering what exactly is going on; I feel this is intentional it maintains your curiosity. He will attempt to communicate with you within the month, if he uses an indirect attempt (I would not be calling, but, did I leave my car keys in your home) something of an in direct nature; you can bet issues are still there, if it’s a direct attempt, and if you still want to, give him the opportunity to talk, but that’s all right now. The attempt to get close with you again will occur, but you will feel differently. - James

Dear James, I am in love with M. and he was with me till then in October he met an old friend said that he wanted to see if it would work out they broke up two weeks ago he said mutual agreement now he thinks of getting back together. She is a controlling, manipulating person. I Love him so very much and want him back. She uses any and every thing to try to use him. Please help me get him back. I want to be more than a friend to him. - S.C.

First of all its impossible to make another fall in love with you, secondly you have no need to wonder what kind of hold she has on him, it is nothing outside of physical attraction. I do hope you realize that if there is a third party influence (on earthier side) such as in this situation, it can not work out or I should say, evolve into any thing more then a friendship. In talking with him please let him know in a casual way) that you do not really like talking about her and his issues with her, I do feel it’s to see or hear your reaction, and this is a very immature thing to do. It is time to not be so focused on what is going on with him, but more on what you would like, how you would like to advance, or start to accomplish. I feel that this is a very high energy (Psychically) time for you ( any new endeavor you start or at least put in to the planning stages, has a nine in ten chance of working out for you) but being to emotionally involved or occupied in an uncertain way will interfere with you catching opportunities as they fly by. For him uncertainty will continue for the next few months, the quandary will continue until Fall (the end of Fall) when he will have an epiphany in life (very positive), for now I feel you are moving in a different direction (also very positive). - James

Love Questions: Posted April 16th, 2012

Dear James,
Will I ever have a committed relationship with J or will we just remain friends? Is there someone else that he is more interested in? I need to know the truth. - R.H.

This man J, feels that he can talk to you like no other. He also is very aware of the perceived connection between you, However I do not feel he is aware of the intensity of your feelings toward him. He is not romantically interested in any one, only you at this time, he knows how you are beginning to feel towards him. You and he have started your friendship by supporting each other in one way or another, through an important issue, the issue is now dealt with; In my opinion what is needed in this relationship is more focus on more colorful and unique experiences with each other, and I do feel very strongly that he is thinking in this direction. I will be very honest with you, it is difficult going from acknowledged friendship to acknowledged romantic relationship; however in your and his case it is entirely possible. Things between you and he will be more defined by the end of Spring.
- James

Dear James,
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago for unknown reasons. We dated for 8 months & were serious about each other. He has cut off all communication w/me & tells people he broke up w/me because I’m a fake/liar. He doesn't look at me when I'm in his presence and told me he doesn't love me. Will we reconcile or talk again, if so when? - A.B.

This man while nice has a possessive streak. The reason you do not know what happened is because the primary cause is something you have nothing to do with; and I my personal opinion, It is best un-pursued, left as is for the time being. You and he are both very good people and it would be wise to be casual and friendly with each other at this time. He is extremely aware that you are wondering what exactly is going on; I feel this is intentional it maintains your curiosity. He will attempt to communicate with you within the month, if he uses an indirect attempt (I would not be calling, but, did I leave my car keys in your home) something of an in direct nature; you can bet issues are still there, if it’s a direct attempt, and if you still want to, give him the opportunity to talk, but that’s all right now. The attempt to get close with you again will occur, but you will feel differently.
- James

Dear James,
I am in love with M. and he was with me till then in October he met an old friend said that he wanted to see if it would work out they broke up two weeks ago he said mutual agreement now he thinks of getting back together. She is a controlling, manipulating person. I Love him so very much and want him back. She uses any and every thing to try to use him. Please help me get him back. I want to be more than a friend to him. - S.C.

First of all its impossible to make another fall in love with you, secondly you have no need to wonder what kind of hold she has on him, it is nothing outside of physical attraction. I do hope you realize that if there is a third party influence (on earthier side) such as in this situation, it can not work out or I should say, evolve into any thing more then a friendship. In talking with him please let him know in a casual way) that you do not really like talking about her and his issues with her, I do feel it’s to see or hear your reaction, and this is a very immature thing to do. It is time to not be so focused on what is going on with him, but more on what you would like, how you would like to advance, or start to accomplish. I feel that this is a very high energy (Psychically) time for you ( any new endeavor you start or at least put in to the planning stages, has a nine in ten chance of working out for you) but being to emotionally involved or occupied in an uncertain way will interfere with you catching opportunities as they fly by. For him uncertainty will continue for the next few months, the quandary will continue until Fall (the end of Fall) when he will have an epiphany in life (very positive), for now I feel you are moving in a different direction (also very positive).
- James

Love Questions: Posted April 9th, 2012

Dear James,
I was seeing a guy for 6 months and thought it was a relationship only to find out he was only interested in the sexual aspect so I ended it. Now I keep getting these strange feelings and a sickly feeling and I no its because he thinking of me, if I check my messages there will be one from him. Why every time I no he is thinking of me do I feel sick? - J.

It is a very uncomfortable feeling to have some one pursue you for only the reason of a physical encounter. I would advise you to not confuse yourself; what I mean exactly is believe that his feelings or view to the future will some how include you, or his affection will grow to match yours in time, I do not feel that it will happen, don’t get me wrong, he is a nice person but his view of the future only includes himself. Do not let this situation upset you, it is life. I am not saying to not be friends, however if you know he is only interested in a physical relationship (friends with benefits) I would advise you to let it go, friends with sexual benefits is not only dangerous, its taking your feelings to a frustrating and uncomfortable place (the tendency to blame your self), and I do not see that in your future. - James

Dear James,
I met an attractive interesting man at the local hospital back in September of last year. I saw him not too long ago driving on my way from work while he might have been going to work. I think of him but wonder if he still is interested in seeing me sometime this year? I thought the reason he hasn't called was because he's either not single, he might have lost the number in his stack of papers he put it in, or he might have not been interested or doubtful. I saw some signs he might have been interested. Do you see him hooking up with me this year on a physical or relationship level? - J.

Yes I do, I feel strongly that he was very taken with your personality, he found you to be magnetic and pleasant in appearance and personality. But this man is well aware that a person that needs to visit a hospital is most likely there on an important matter and that is not really the place to get to know one another well. As far as your number, he did misplace it. There will not be a direct contact, but you and he will run into each other when you nor he are expecting. This meeting will lead to further activity between you and he (towards the end of May). You and he will find you have much in common; he was in a committed relationship a while back, but that particular situation is something that he has dealt with and has no baggage regarding the matter. Things between you and he should progress very nicely, I see no barriers.
- James

Dear James,
A month ago I had the great fortune of being able to visit an ex who has become a dear friend over the past seven years. After having spent five days with him, I have come home to feel very deeply in my heart that this man is my soul mate. During my visit, he did say that he wanted me to visit again soon and mentioned many future plans that included “us”. I am unsure of how to proceed, as I do not want to rush anything if this is indeed my path; however, I find myself missing him terribly and longing to be in his company. Many thanks for your consideration and advice. - S.T.

Before your to much at a distance, it would be time to have a clarifying talk about lingering feelings; you will find that he feels the same. The spiritual bonding can not be broken, only get stronger or weaker (I feel you both realize this now), however the confusion on how to proceed is some thing you also have in common. He knows you very well, as you know he, and the correct words will come easier then you and he realize. If there are any barriers to you and he re-bonding with each other (another man or woman) that situation must be non existent for the bonding to work at all (at this time I do no see any barriers). A genuine effort on both your parts will work. I suggest sharing a unique memorable experience, that you and he shared in the past, a ski trip, cookout on the beach, or even visiting the place where you shared your marriage vows in the past.. Even though he feels that he can talk to you very naturally, remember it is a lot easier for you to express your feelings (verbally) than he.
- James

Love Questions: Posted March 26th, 2012

Dear James,
I was basically the one pursuing him at first, and when I asked him if he was open to dating me, he told me he didn't really have the time or energy for a relationship right then. He mentioned being burned too many times by girls in the past. He was working full time, going to college, and was running for state representative, and was the selectman for his town, so at the time, he really was too busy. He also said that I lived too far away. After a while, I gave up on him because he started seeing another girl, for only about a month or so. After that, they broke up. He spoke to me just prior to their break up, and also again following their breaking up, asking me how I’d been doing, and told me that he missed me. He told me we should hang out again sometime soon. I told him I'd basically given up on him, and didn't know if I was interested anymore. He then told me not to give up on us and he apologized to me saying that he was bad at this. I told him that I didn't know that he cared. I told him if he wanted to we could go out together sometime, and he asked me when? I told him when I'd be available. I told him I'd be okay with getting to know each other better, and he agreed. We haven't officially "been out" on any dates or anything. It may be because he's actually a shy guy, and I've already been intimate with him, so he probably doesn't feel the need to take me out in order to "get with me". He invites me over to hang out, and have drinks, and often we are intimate, but not always. I just don't want to be led on if he's just using me for sex. I'm curious what he might feel, and what I should to do about the situation. - J.C.

I do not feel that there is that much of a change in his priorities, he is definitely focused on his career, and there is really not a thing wrong with that. It is his choice in careers that has created his awareness of what he does not have; which is a loving and nurturing relationship that is growing. I feel the obligations of his profession have caused issues in his past. You and he developed a romantic attachment to each other; there is no doubt about that. I would advise you to gradually incorporate into each other’s lives, rather then ask each other to give something up. I also feel strongly that he cares about you more then you know, but I would advise also that you and he become aware of the feelings of one another. It’s very difficult to change the dynamics of an established pattern, however, in your case it is entirely possible.
- James

Dear James,
I've been texting this amazing guy on and off for 3-4 months now. He's a musician. We have mutual friends but have never met before. I know that he likes me but time and distance is not on our side. Currently, he's busy touring and working on his album. I feel like he could be the one. Are we meant for each other? - L.

I feel you and he are very nice people and would have much in common, however, the commitment to his music will continue and become even more time consuming. If you and he can remain friends and the avenues of communication remain open, the chances are excellent that you and he could become closer and your relationship will deepen. In a perspective relationship, jealousy and possessiveness will be a key factor to over come. I strongly feel that you and he will find an opportunity to meet up with each other within the next two months, and the meeting will go very well if planed correctly.- James

Dear James,I am deeply in love with my ex. He broke up about 5 months ago, but there's still a strong, caring and even sexual connection between us. I believe he's my soul mate and I really want to be with him. Am I wasting my time by holding on or will we reunite and work things out for the best? - C. This would be a time of reflection and definition, which as you he is doing. I also feel very strongly that he is disappointed that things did not work out between you two. Please do not see your self as being the cause of the break up, he does not. Within the next month you will see a deeper meaning to what has occurred, I know this may be hard for you to believe but this man holds you very close to his hart, but finds it very difficult to define things or I should say find the correct words. It may take around six months or so, but you and he both will attempt to reunite, but if it’s going to work this time it has to evolve to a higher level. Original issues will still be present, but the desire and effort to over come these obstacles will be mutual. And you do have a head start.
- James

Love Questions: Posted March 19th, 2012

Dear James,

After 30 years of a good marriage, my husband had back surgery and got addicted to the pain meds, and started drinking. He ran into his first girlfriend from when he was 17. She does the same. She convinced him that I controlled him and spent all his money. She let him move in and he took nothing from home and was convinced to divorce. They are poison to each other and I can't help feeling that we are still connected. I have tried to stop communicating with him, but I feel that he is still a part of my life. He admits he has a problem. He will never get help as long as she enables. Do you see him leaving her, getting help and wanting to come back and be a part of my life and his sons life who will have nothing to do with him the way things are now? If so, when? I know he is very distraught and perhaps too proud to admit he made a terrible mistake. Do you see us together again as husband and wife? - D.P.

I feel that he is a smart man and that he is well aware of the dangers of mixing pain killers and alcohol. I do not see this woman being an influence on him for very much longer. What he desires the most right now is the comfort of home. Your assumption that guilt plays a part in his hesitation is correct; he does love you and would not want to hurt you. Within the next two months, you will be able to discuss what has happened between you and he. You each have your own perspective however, he does not blame you in any way. If you agree, he will want to try again. I advise that you and he get to the point where you each desire to re-do the vows of the marriage, and you will. For things to work out correctly, this other woman cannot be a part of the scenario at all.
- James

Dear James,
My Fiancé and I have been off and on for the past 9 years. We have a 5 year old son and I also have 3 girl's from other relationships. Just wanted to know if he is being faithful to me and I’m wondering if this relationship is going to last? - C.B.

These days just being with someone in a close way one time can have disastrous life time effects, and he is very aware of this, not to mention if your relation fails, he does not want to be at fault. He is not only very conscious of himself, but also you and your feelings. I feel that he is very happy with not only the relationship, but also the family. You and he have invested a lot in your relationship not only financially, but also in feelings, and shared experiences; so I do not believe the thought of infidelity has even entered his mind. You and he will continue to invest and enjoy your relationship for the foreseeable future.
- James

Dear James,
I miss S so much and I can't get over him. I love him with all my heart but things changed so quickly. Will we ever reconcile? - K.

Even though your differences are genuine, you do like each other very much. I feel that not only you but also he, are very uncomfortable with the way things turned out. You are both growing at this time of your lives, but in different directions. I defiantly feel that there will be a reconciliation and you and he will remain good friends. However I do not see that a romantic situation will work for you or he, not at this time.
- James

Love Questions: Posted March 13th, 2012

Dear James,
I have recently been questioning my relationship with "M." He and I have been friends for about 7 years and have been through so much together. We have been best friends and roommates throughout the years, and have both witnessed the other go through good relationships as well as bad ones and have been there for each other through it all. Outsiders always assume there is more to our relationship than being friends but we have never taken it to that level. I'm starting to question myself and ask whether or not we would make sense at that level. His last girlfriend hated me because she saw how close we are and how protective he was of me while I was in an abusive relationship with someone else. Anybody I try to date gets jealous of him as well. It's all so confusing. Should we see where a committed relationship takes us? I think we are both hesitant because we don't want to risk our friendship. With him being an Aries and myself being a Sagittarius we should be soul mates but he drives me crazy sometimes and it makes me not want to get involved with him romantically. Any advice? -R.P.

It’s very natural to feel this way; you and this man know each other very well, in a very realistic way. It’s not easy to live with somebody that long with out having a great deal of caring, and this arrangement has worked out for you and he up to this point. If you mean being exclusive with each other, when you say committed, I do feel it can work out well; you and he defiantly have a head start. I also feel strongly that if you and he remember that your friendship is the corner stone of your relationship, it will evolve. Another reason I do see a successful and happy relationship is that, he feels exactly the same way. I would advise that you and he both do not let outside influences interfere with your happiness. Always remember that the people who love you and also, the people who love and care about him, will make their judgments of any changes, based on how you and he look with each other, rather then by what you say.

Dear James,
I've met “C” online and we've been talking everyday he lives in Pittsburg and I in California. He's sending for me next week so we can meet. We feel good together but I was wondering if this relationship would be lasting. - S.C.

“C” I feel has every intention of continuing your friendship and this feeling will intensify after your meeting. His major point of expectation is only that you will like him. I feel that the feeling of being connected to each other will also intensify and this is great, but there must be no barriers in the way of another man or woman, no matter what the condition of the situation. The reason is I feel that you and this man will establish a common view of the future, very quickly. As far as the distance, I do not see this being a major issue, not yet. There will definitely be a noticeable change as a result of your meeting each other, very pleasant changes.- James

Dear James,
My ex (we were together almost 5 years) slept with one of my close friends, it was supposedly a one time mistake, but I found out they are still seeing each other. I've told him how much I love him, and want him back, and he says he will take that into consideration. He won't even see me in person since this happened and I don't know what to do. We had separated to work on our issues and get back together, but now I think I lost him for good. I don't know what to do. Will he come back? Is it worth it? - M.P.

First of all I feel your pursuing this in a completely wrong way. You should not forget that he is the one who created this change, if you were the one who did something to end the relationship, and then I would say that you have some where to start, but it’s really not that way. If you posses a feeling of betrayal towards him and your friend believe me, a lot of people would feel the same way. This feeling of rejection will change very quickly for you, and within the next month, you will feel very differently about this issue. Even though this is a rough situation for you right now, in the not so distant future you will see that this is to your advantage.- James

Love Questions: Posted March 6th, 2012

Dear James,
I been in a two year relationship with my sons father. We broke up a few months ago and now I'm in another relationship. I'm happy so far, I love him, and he says he really loves me but sometimes I think he's afraid to show it in front of certain people. For an example, he would post statuses about me on face book then delete them. Can you tell me the result of my love life? - A.

I strongly feel that you and this man are very compatible with each other, but moving very quickly. He is also well aware that there was an established family situation, weather you and your X were married or not others did perceive you and he as a married couple. Between you and you X there is a lot of unfinished issues, or I should say unresolved issues, the most important is the child. You and this man are moving into reality very quickly. He loves you very much but really does not know how things are going to turn out. He would prefer to take things a little more slowly, and to evolve with each other naturally and enjoy the new person in his life; I think he is totally right for him, you are use to a more realistic sort of situation, and he knows this. The issue of showing affection in front of others is only because you and he really just met and not entirely established your comfort level to that extent, yet. Once you and he establish new experiences and memories, things will become more defined. The confusing adding and deleting of status is for your benefit, it demonstrates his not knowing where you and he are at (just like you) or going. He is leaving things open. I advise sharing a good comedy, a game, or a very good concert. All you need to do is to start enjoying the relationship; he defiantly intends to continue the relationship with you, if that is what you desire.
- James

Dear James,
My boyfriend of 5 years, K, moved out a month ago saying that he loves me but that we are not compatible. I'm very much in love with him and feel that he is always supposed to be in my life so I'm having a hard time letting go and trying to move on. Do you see any possibility for us to get back together in a long-term romantic relationship? - A.J.

He did not necessarily mean that you were the reason for the perceived incompatibility it takes two people to succeeded or fail, I feel this is only his way of taking a break. It’s fairly impossible to move on or forget someone (who you love) sometimes a lifetime is not enough, much less a month. You and he both are use to the patterns and rhythms of a long term relationship and these things are not easy to forget. In our lives we move on weather we want to or not, but not yet. He will contact you very soon and after a discussion, you and he both will try again. I feel very strongly that he is disappointed by where he is in life, not you. - James

Dear James,
Almost a year ago I caught my husband having an affair. I was totally devastated as I thought we were happily married. His lack of emotion, words or any forthcoming verbal" I’m sorry we can work this out" was like acid to my heart. I am divorcing him much to his surprise, but I cannot understand why he blames ME! I look forward to this being legally over as I want him in my past where he belongs. Having two beautiful children means, I will have to face him for the rest of my life, but I’m ready for some company in my life. Do you any decent people in my future. I was married for 16 years, and want to trust again. - K.L.

A lot of times there are very complex reasons for infidelity, but not this time. I do not see an intense romantic relationship or a long term affair as being the reason. He made a big mistake no matter what the motivation was. There is no reason to feel that he lost his affection for you because of some way you have changed, or something you did. I feel he is blaming you to ease his own guilt, or some how rationalize the incident. You, I feel are a nice and happy person, you will never have a problem finding friends. You will always have the ability to socialize with the type of people that you want to you are very magnetic. Where you and your husband are directly concerned, I understand it’s not desired right now, however It’s important that the avenues of communication remain open, at least for a little while. - James