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From an early age James has been aware of the energy and feelings of others, the first aspect of being an intuitive. The powers were so strong it prompted him to be of service to others. Through 33 years of practice and professional study he has the ability to guide people through the paths of their lives, the ups and downs, the realistic issues, surrounding relationships and love, career, money and spirituality. His techniques include clairvoyance, tarot, astrology and Native American totems and animal guides. He looks forward to speaking to you soon so that you may begin your path to insight.

Love Questions: Posted July 26th, 2010.

Dear James. I was in a relationship with D., and we broke up just recently. I am wondering if there is still a chance that we will connect again. I feel that we are both still emotionally connected with each other. Thank you

-Z.

Dear Z,

I feel you are correct about the spiritual connection that you feel. We must always remember that a true spiritual bonding can never fade away. It can become stronger or weaker but really never be completely gone. Another reason I feel you will have the opportunity to reconnect is because of what I am picking up from D. It is disappointment that you feel, not in you, not in him but in the situation. Within the next three months I can see that he will feel the desire to hear your voice (another way we can see the connection between you two, is in your ability to know how the other feels, just by hearing each others voice) this is very important. The most essential thing to be accomplished at this time is re-establishing correct communication with each other. Which I feel he does miss.

 

Dear James

A relationship of a year has ended recently. We broke up in Oct, because I didn’t like how he walked away whenever he is angry and then re-entered a week later. This pattern was alienating me. We got together briefly in April (no sex) but had another breakup when he told me he had been sexual with another person he met when we were broken up. This hurt me very much because I don’t move on that fast. He decided that he didn’t want to be with me and would date others (probably the woman he had sex with). I am very tired of failed relationships. I wish I could be with someone who wanted only me. What am I doing wrong? Is commitment dead? Please tell me if there is a kind and Loving man for me? Is this man gone for good? I am very hurt.

-J.

Greetings J,

First of all we must always remember that the prisons in this country are filled with men and woman who did not walk away when they should have, or tried to prevent someone else from doing so. I feel that you and he do like each other very much but are looking for different things out of a relationship. Commitment does not happen automatically, people will work towards that point and build a common image. It is a warning when relationships feel hurtful and cause emotional pain. The love you are looking for does happen and many men feel similar. I do not feel that this particular situation has potential. Within a year you will find someone new, or should I say you and your soul mate will finally find each other. The sooner that you follow your heart, the sooner this will happen.

 

Hi James. I have been married for 8 years; these past two have been really bad between him and I. He has changed so much you can probably see what has happened between us. What do you see for me in the future, I want to save this marriage, is he going to come back to me and are we going to have a normal life again.

-B

Hi B,

Every marriage has pressures and stresses, ups and downs even Adam and Eve had issues. B, I know you realize how much time and effort you and he have invested in each other. I do feel that he will attempt to come back to the marriage, however the issues will still be there. Most couples married or not, will separate at some time during the relationship and most people will feel how strong there feelings are for each other, and give it another try. However people will make the mistake of just falling back together and acting as if nothing has happened. This never works because the issues are still there but hidden. If you and he do something to start a new (re-doing vows, marriage counseling, etc.) chances are good that you and he will get back on track. I feel you love each other and deserve another chance at a happy marriage. Thanks.

-James.

 

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Posted July 19th, 2010.

Dear James,
I feel lost and feel like I have no direction. I have been married to my husband for 13 years now. Lately I feel like our marriage has been rocky, as my husband has health issues and has been home now for over a year. Where do you see us in the future? Thanks a lot!
-J.

 

Greetings J.,

We all feel overwhelmed now and then. I do feel that your husband feels the same, however he would blame himself. It’s important to enjoy the benefits of being married and to get reacquainted with each other. I feel that it is very important for the rest of the summer for you and he to re-establish a pleasant view of the future. Find the time to share a good movie, a concert, a carnival, something fresh and new. Once you see that you can make each other feel good, and enjoy each other’s company again, things will feel better. J., it can be difficult for a man in this position, also for you. You miss each other’s company, and know each other better then anyone.

 

Dear James,

I want to know if I’ll ever stop loving him? It’s ridiculous. He's hurt me so much. I can’t walk away. When I see him, it’s like a force is drawing me towards him. How do I stop? How can I stop hurting? How do I move on with my life and put him in the past?
-Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous,

A lot of people will ask me this question, “When will I get over him or her?” It really does not happen in that way. We move on whether we want to or not. Strong feelings and memories are only less prevalent with time, and as life continues. The only constant in life is change, and people need to clear there space at times, to be happy. To allow yourself to go through painful situations over and over is counterproductive. I do believe you can understand exactly what I’m trying to say. We can “love” different people in different ways.

 

Dear James,

I have been in a relationship with C. for two years. We decided to take a break so both of us could find ourselves. Well we are back together and want to try again and we are almost together for another year. We want to be together for the rest of our lives and said we both don't want to be with anyone else. We do have one problem I feel his twelve-year-old son is trying to keep us apart. Do you see us trying to work things out and being together?
-J.

 

Dear J.,

I feel your time apart has made your love for each other more realistic. Right now you and C. do not see the future, without each other being there. You have established a common view of the future, and that is what relationships are all about. The child is not a problem, he is an essential part of this relationship. I feel that he (the child) will take to you if he sees his Father happy, positive and enjoying life. However if he sees his father sad or angry of course he will not. You want the child to see you as a part of the family, and sometimes that takes time, J. I do believe you have a head start. I do feel the child is the most important factor in the evolution of this relationship. Thanks.
-James.

 

Posted July 12th, 2010.

Hi James,

I am in a relationship with a man who I've been dating for 4 years while being married. He is also married. He wants us to move forward but my family needs me. I have 3 young girls and I love them very much. My husband and I never really connected at a level with which this man and I connected. I wanted to leave this man, even though I love him, for the sake of not breaking up my home and the children’s' best interest. I told him quite a few times to leave me alone, but he said he couldn’t live without me. I asked my husband for a divorce, but he is asking me to stay. I am being tugged by both of them. There is hardly any communication with my husband, and I feel bad for this other man because he would give up anything and everything to be with me. What should I do?

D.

Hi D,

People will find each other for different reasons, support system, common interest etc. Most people do not intend to establish realistic feelings (Fall in love) but it happens all the time. Your situation is not unique; contrary to what we see on TV, married men will almost never leave a wife for a girl friend. D, I feel this man really loves you. If this man leaves his wife for you it will back fire. It’s important that you are not the reason. I feel that there have been problems with him and his wife, even before he met you. I feel it’s important to remain a support system to each other, but you and he are in no position to take on each other’s problems. I have found that couples will decide to break up for different reasons, however, when another person is involved (girlfriend or boyfriend) most people will get very hurt, angry or both, and make things very difficult. I feel you and he can establish a good relationship. I would suggest that you and he do not blame others for your situation. Men will most of the time feel the effects of a divorce (stress and anxiety) a couple months after its final. Right now you and he can prepare to see each other, looking good, feeling good etc. Just be very sure he feels the same as you. D., Love is great, but it does not pay the bills. It will be ruff at first, but entirely possible.

Good luck. -James

 

Dear James,

I am married, but have not been happy with my husband for several years. I recently re-united with my former boyfriend, M., and he is also in a very troubled marriage. I feel we are soul mates and still love him deeply. Will he tell me he feels the same way for me and are we destined to get back together?

M.

Dear M.,

I do feel that you and he are spiritual soul mates and, have found each other when you needed each other. The feelings you had for one another have not gone anywhere, those feelings are still there; and can be reignited. True soul mates cannot evolve if one or both people are married; please don’t take this in the wrong way. Nothing will stop you and he from falling more and more in love with each other, however while one of you or both of you are married, the stress and anxiety will also grow. True soul mates must be free to grow with each other, and evolve as a couple. This cannot be achieved while a marriage is still present. I feel he is being honest with you M., just move very slowly and take your time.

Best, James


Dear James,

I have been with my husband for 14 years married for 9 years today. My question is, is he cheating?

C.

Dear C.,

I do not feel that he is seeking out other relationships. Your husband considers a relationship to be complex. I don’t feel that he has the desire to add complexity to his life. He has considered your relationship and marriage to be an investment in time, feelings, and memories. He does not want the investment to fail. Oh by the way C., He does love you. Its important to experience the benefits of being married, not only the stresses. I advise you to have some fun with each other, go to a good concert, a carnival or enjoy a nice vacation (only you and he). Bring back the fun, which I feel you both miss.

Thank you. -James

 

Love Questions: Posted June 28th, 2010.

I had a special relationship/friendship with D. We did so much together. We laughed, cried, danced and most of all we were always there for each other. He is now in a relationship with someone else, which I think is toxic and is only there because he feels sorry for her. Will this last and will I finally get my friend back? I miss him so much. Thanks.

-Grace

Grace, you will always have a special relationship with D., and I know he has had the same positive experiences with you. D. is already starting to see what is happening to his relationships with his support systems (Friends, family, you, etc.) He will make the changes he needs to make soon (By the end of summer.) I do feel that you will have a chance to rekindle your friendship with D. However, right now it’s important that he decides on his own and on his own time. Have patience, Grace. It’s already starting to happen.

-James

 

Dear James,

I have been in an on again off again relationship with M. for about a year. We broke up in March and I haven't talked to him or heard from him since then. I'm just wondering if he will come back around or will I hear from him in a text message? Please help!

-LaDonna

LaDonna, I feel that you and M. keep going from romance to reality, over and over (a lot of couples go through this). You have a great influence on this man; you make him feel good and impressive; however he does not feel very impressive right now. He will contact you soon and explain what is happening in his life that is creating distance. I feel that he does not want to burden you with this now (by the way its not about you). Right now you and he are doing the same thing, looking at the relationship you had in detail. I can see you both miss each other.

-James

 

Hi James,

I have been in a relationship for about six months now. I want to know if he’s the one I'm going to marry or should I just move on? Thank you for your time!

-Shelby

Greetings Shelby, I feel that right now you and this man do not see the future without each other being there, however you don’t see it in the same way. You will know very soon (within a month) if you are starting to see things in a similar manner, but if either one of you confronts the other with this question (Is there commitment in our future?) I feel you may scare each other away. I advise you to let things evolve in a slow relaxed pace. Part of the fun of dating is that you have time to prepare and enjoy, which is the pattern of growth.

-James

 

Love Questions: Posted June 1st, 2010.


Dear James,

I have been in a relationship with Matthew for more than a year now. It has been mostly a long-distance relationship though we have spent some time together. It seems like he is warm one week and then he's cold. Do you see any future with him, and if so, when? He is just so different from me, and I am not sure if things would work out.
-Marianne

Hi Marianne, My advice is to give the relationship a bit more time. I sense that Mathew is feeling pretty much the same, but also that you are about to make a choice, to continue the relationship or let it fade. So I feel he is being confusing, to create a confusion within you. In other words, buying time. Long distance relationships can work, and can make you closer. Each one of you is sensing that your situation has entered reality, and takes a bit more effort: but can be worth-it. Let it grow naturally Marianne, at a steady pace.

-James


Hi James,

I have been recently dating a guy name Bo and I am a bit confused as to where I stand with him. When we are together I feel very close to him but his communication is not very good. I would like to know where we are going with the relationship. I don’t want to invest a lot of time with him if he isn't feeling the same way. What are your thoughts Do you see things moving forward and us getting closer?
-Kathy

One thing we all have in common is that nobody wants to waste there time. I feel you are both looking for each other to define the relationship, please don’t fall into this trap. Most couples usually fall apart at this stage. My advice to you would be to, create what you and Bo want. There has to be substance for communication (something to talk about) Topics: I suggest a PowWow, a carnival or a horse race, anything active (Bo is attracted to activity) By the way Kathy, this is one of the reasons he is attracted to you. You will get closer being more in touch with each other when you start having some fun and at this point, alone, only with each other. He may seem outgoing, but Bo is also a bit shy. Enjoy.

-James


Hello James,

I am not with the man I love and haven't had any contact with him since Jan. I want to know if he will he realize his mistake and come back to me soon? Will he change?
-Misha

Misha, I don’t feel he thinks he made a mistake. His goal is to make the heart fonder. He feels you will most likely see things more in his way. It is not a good thing to make anyone worry about you, when they know you care. I feel your destiny is to give your heart and love, only to the person who can give it back in the same way. Observe the next two Months, and then you will be able to Know for sure. Also, People do not get closer to each other by asking someone to change. This is only true in the movies. Thanks, James.

Love Questions: Posted May 24th, 2010.

I would like to know about my current love relationship. Will we last and does he really love me?

-Asuzena

I feel he is being honest with you. However, he will define the relationship by the successes in his life. He views your current relationship as growing and positive, if he feels good, feels secure and does well in his chosen career. By the way Asuzena, he feels you define the relationship also in this way. Yes, this relationship can last and evolve quickly.

-James



I just found out that the person that I cared so much for was seeing someone else. How do I make him regret ever doing that and is there romance in my future even if its not with him?

-Erika

There is no need to do anything to make him regret his actions; I feel he already does. Erika on TV and at the movies we always see couples getting closer to one another, by asking the other to give something up. In real life this does not really happen. I don’t feel that you did anything to cause this. You both need to step back a little and figure out if you want the same thing out of your relationship. I feel you can regain the trust but it will take time. The relationship has been taken to a higher level, even if it just means friendship.

-James

 

I recently met a woman named Karina and I really like her. Do you see a future for us?

-Eddie

Eddie, I feel the attraction is there and also the potential for Love. However, I feel the defining factor is commonality. It would be in my opinion, essential to have a common interest. For example: If both of you liked yoga, gardening or playing guitar. Maybe even raising a puppy together. Then I feel the relationship will evolve. Progress will be seen by both of you in time.

-James

 

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